How To Rectify PreMature Ejaculation

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This whole article is 40 A4 pages long, so for those of you who are interested, you have to be very patient in "collecting" all the information here.

I suggest that you can "cut and paste" the information provided and compiled it into a book and use it for reference.

There are also pictures on what you can do to help in your problem but that comes very much later in this series.

I hope you guys find this information useful.

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Premature Ejaculation

Ok, so you're having a problem coming too quickly. You put your penis into her vagina, feel that delicious warmth and wetness, and before you've thrusted more than a few times, once again, you're ejaculating uncontrollably. That's why you're here, right? Well, the good news is that with some commitment, you can solve this issue quite easily and become a longer lasting lover.

And the other piece of good news is that you're not alone! Whatever your friends may tell you about their sexual performance (and despite what you've seen in porn movies), the simple fact is this: over three quarters of men ejaculate within two or three minutes of entering their partner's vagina.

This may be no comfort if you're a quick comer, especially if you're upset that you can't last longer in bed, but what it means is this: premature ejaculation is both normal and very common.

Now, you want to last longer, and that's a great objective. But have you thought how long would satisfy you? Would ten minutes of vaginal thrusting be good enough? Or would you want to go on for half an hour? Well, surprising as it may seem, the length of time for which you can thrust your penis in her vagina isn't the point. Why? Because when you learn to deal with premature ejaculation, you don't learn to go on for a particular length of time - you learn to ejaculate when you want to.

This may surprise you. As a quick comer, you're probably used to your orgasm approaching and your ejaculation following hard on its heels with a sense of having no control over the process. How could anyone, you may think, learn to ejaculate when they want to? And what may seem even more puzzling is working out how this is done! I mean, how do you decide to ejaculate? And what do you actually do to make it happen?

The answer is that ejaculation can be either a voluntary or an involuntary function. It's a bit like breathing. You don't have to think about your breathing for most of the time because it just carries on. But when you want to, you can bring it under your conscious control, and choose to breathe more slowly or faster as you wish. This is what you can learn to do with your ejaculation - slow it down or speed it up, but above all, choose when you want to come.

Sometimes, of course, when you are very aroused - or when your partner is very aroused - you will find that your ejaculation tends to happen more quickly. (After all, there is nothing like making love to a very aroused woman to make a man spurt faster!) But the point of what we're going to do here is to make you feel in control - to leave you with an element of choice about when you come.

Coming next - Why Do Men Come So Quickly
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Why Do Men Come So Quickly?

Well, you may be thinking, that's all very well, but why do men come so quickly anyway?

There are several reasons. The first is that we're male animals. As I said above, surveys show that three quarters of men ejaculate within two minutes of entering their partner's vagina. For young men in particular, four minutes is almost a lifetime of thrusting! But why? You might think it strange that rapid ejaculation is so common. After all, there are few things in life more pleasant than having your erect penis in a warm, moist vagina! But imagine how our ancestors lived. They wandered about in a harsh environment, probably at risk of being killed by hostile enemies. The shorter the time during which males were distracted by the act of sex, the better, because they were defenseless while they mated. The quicker they mounted the female, ejaculated and dismounted, the better. Sex wasn't for pleasure - it was for reproduction. So, in evolutionary terms, it would be much safer to make the act as brief as possible. And what's more, the less time males spent on sex, the more time would be available for protecting the females and babies or hunting. This must have been an effective strategy for preserving the species and producing babies, but it certainly didn't leave us with a great legacy as human males: the thrusting of a penis in a vagina was designed to produce a quick ejaculation. And all too often it still does!

The second reason is that we learn to ejaculate quickly as young men. Most boys discover masturbation in secret, and I think almost every young man would be horrified if his parents ever revealed that they knew he was masturbating - it just isn't talked about, even though every father in the world masturbated when he was a boy (and probably still does). So even though almost all teenage boys masturbate with great enthusiasm and frequency, we don't talk about it, and there's still a lot of shame attached to the act. And the shame means it's done quickly - under the bedclothes, in the bathroom, wherever: reaching orgasm isn't something that a boy learns to spin out and enjoy to the full. He never tries to keep himself on the edge of coming for as long as possible. Nor does he ever stop to savor the experience: the urgency is too great, and his quick orgasm is too rewarding anyway! All of this means he does not learn about the feelings in his body as he moves towards orgasm, especially the feelings that mean he is about to ejaculate. The result is that he has no sense of how to slow down and spin out the process. And so he never learns how to control his arousal and the speed with which he reaches orgasm.

And the third reason we may ejaculate quickly is that we're not confident lovers, confident in our sexuality, or confident with women. Anxiety is the enemy of self-control, so fears about our performance don't help us to be long lasting lovers. It's a fact that having the confidence to know you can keep going actually helps you keep going. The opposite seems to be true, too: if you're not confident of your ability to keep going, your nervousness increases your level of emotional and sexual arousal, and, before you know it, bang! you've ejaculated too soon again.

To put this in simple terms, getting a woman and having sex is an urge driven by every aspect of our masculine being. It's fundamental to our self-image as men, and it's something that we think about endlessly (as you know!). But often, when we get a partner, there's a sense of perhaps not quite being in command of the situation, a certain surprise, perhaps, that we are in a sexual relationship with a woman who wants us to make love to her; and if this is backed up by a sense of nervousness about not being up to the job, or not being fully sexually confident, or even at some very deep level of our male soul feeling afraid of women, or angry at women, then premature ejaculation is to be expected. But it can still be controlled.

Coming Next - But Can Men Really Control Their Ejaculation?
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But Can Men Really Control Their Ejaculation?

I remember my first experience of sex very clearly. I ejaculated the moment I penetrated my girlfriend's vagina and felt the warmth of her body around my penis, and I continued doing this for many weeks after that. No-one would describe that as a satisfactory sexual experience, I’m sure. But then what would be satisfactory? Ten minutes spent thrusting before coming? Half an hour? An hour? I remember a friend telling me when we were in our late teens that he could actually choose when to let go and ejaculate. I found this absolutely astonishing: if he and his girlfriend wanted a "quickie", he said, he allowed himself to ejaculate almost at once, simply choosing not to make it last; but if they wanted prolonged intercourse, then he could thrust away for ages.

I found it difficult to believe this, because like most men my experience was about grimly hoping for the best and yet nearly always coming uncontrollably - not that it was ever unpleasant, of course, but it was certainly disappointing. So, like I said above, the important thing about premature ejaculation is not so much that a guy comes quickly, but that he has no control over when he comes. If you're a quick comer, what you need to learn is not to last longer but to be able to control your ejaculation and have choice over when you ejaculate.

Coming Next - What About The Woman's Experience?
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Enough information for today. I'll continue tomorrow.

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What about the woman's experience?

For the female partner, quick ejaculation may be frustrating, especially if she thinks she might have an orgasm through intercourse if only her man could thrust for long enough! This may produce conflict, though couples may choose to deal with premature ejaculation by ensuring that the woman has one or more orgasms through oral sex or masturbation before her man enters her. This will mean that no matter how quickly he comes, they are both satisfied. And if the partners embrace and cuddle afterwards, they can still enjoy wonderful feelings of closeness and love. It's also important to remember that for some couples, premature ejaculation is not a problem - in which case it probably isn't "premature", its fine! But a lot of couples want to be able to control their lovemaking, and both the man and the woman may be keen to see the man last longer.

Coming Next - Some things for you (and your partner) to understand about premature ejaculation
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Some things for you (and your partner) to understand about premature ejaculation

Sometimes a woman finds it hard to understand why a guy cannot control his orgasm. She may even suggest that it means her man doesn't love her! She may think he doesn't care, or that he's just being selfish. Even when she genuinely doesn't mind, and simply wants him to be happy by being able to enjoy vaginal thrusting for longer, he may interpret what she says as meaning she really didn't enjoy sex very much because he came too soon. And of course if a man feels badly about coming too soon, he may be angry with himself and lose the special connection with his partner that the couple had established during the early stages of their lovemaking. She may then feel rejected and hurt.

So, if any of this is happening to you or your partner, now's the time to talk about it, and to understand that it isn't anybody's fault, nor is it personal. Even though your sex life isn't what you'd like it to be, you can still have fun, laugh, and reach orgasm through masturbation or oral sex. And kissing, cuddling and holding each other are still fun and enjoyable things to do even if you spurt after two thrusts in her vagina! Share with each other how you feel about it. You, as the man, can tell her how it makes you feel, and she can explain how she sees it. Then, being open and honest with each other, you can go to work on the problem together - without resentment or blame!

And, by the way, many women are upset about their guy's premature ejaculation because they simply enjoy the sensation of having him inside her, and his coming quickly deprives her of this sensation. So, if your partner finds penetration rewarding, then you can try putting your erect penis into her vagina without moving or thrusting, and in this way enjoy being close for quite a long time. It really doesn't take that much effort to resist the temptation to thrust, and by hugging each other close as you do this, the woman may get great satisfaction and feel very loved. Obviously this idea can avoid the problem of you not being in her for very long before you shoot. Try it and see if it helps. But in the end you will probably want to become a longer lasting lover by using the exercises lower down this page!

By the way, it's normal for guys to come more quickly with one woman than another: usually a man comes more quickly with an aroused, passionate and exciting lover, because a woman's arousal is a real turn-on for him. And, as you probably know, a man can usually last much longer when his partner gives him oral sex. It's also very common for a man to ejaculate quicker if he's not having sex very often or if he's seeing his partner relatively infrequently.

Coming Next - The male sexual response - learning to last longer
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Bro.....dun stop leh....this is very informative, appreciate your effort.
And hor, cannot wait till tomorrow lah, tonight got hot date leh....
I understand bro but giving too much info may be boring as it may be too much to absorb. So giving it out by parts can actually help the reader understand better. So be patient and you'll definitely benefit as this is actually really good stuff.

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The male sexual response - learning to last longer

If you're now scratching your head in bewilderment, and wondering how a man can possibly control when he comes, think of masturbation. You can almost certainly choose how quickly you ejaculate when you masturbate - or, at the very least, you'll have more control over how quickly you come. This article will show you how to gain enough control over your ejaculatory response while you're having sex to be able to ejaculate when you want - at least, for most of the time. To do this, it's helpful to understand the normal "cycle" of male sexual arousal. This has four parts to it: excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution. (I promise you that reading all this will be helpful in learning to control your ejaculation, so be patient! The methods you can use to control premature ejaculation come later. Pun intended!)

Coming Next - Excitement
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Excitement

The road to orgasm begins with some stimulation which increases sexual arousal in your mind and body. In your mind, you begin to feel horny; in your body, you get an erection. In men there may also be an increase in muscle tension, flushing of the skin and erection of the nipples. Although you might not be aware of it, your testicles swell up, your scrotum tightens, and your penis begins to seep a lubricating fluid which is designed to lubricate the movement of the foreskin over the glands: this liquid is known as "pre-cum", and it can be an exciting sexual stimulant in its own right - certainly as exciting as the lubrication which a woman produces from her vagina when she is entering her phase of sexual excitement.

Assuming that your penis is engorged with blood, and your erection is hard and firm, or, if you are middle-aged or older, perhaps slightly less firm than it once was, you're well into the phase of sexual excitement. This can last for hours, although it is likely that a man who's excited but doesn't have an orgasm will lose his erection after a while. It's possible that a young man's arousal or excitement will become so intense that he spontaneously ejaculates.

The excitement phase of sexual arousal can be a rewarding experience even if it doesn't progress to orgasm, because your brain is producing endorphins, which are the body's own natural morphine-like pleasure drugs. What's more, an erection is pleasant in itself, since it puts pressure on the sensitive parts of the penis head. The longer the excitement phase goes on, the more intense your orgasm will be when you finally come. In fact it's worth sacrificing the quick pleasure of a rapid orgasm for the greater pleasure achieved when you come after an hour or two's erection and arousal. This is because the longer the excitement phase lasts, the greater the volume of seminal fluid produced by your prostate and other glands. When your ejaculation does occur, this greater volume of fluid will produce more intense and pleasurable contractions - as well as an impressive shower of ejaculate!

My experience is that no matter how satisfying a quickly attained orgasm can be, an hour or two spent cuddling and kissing and enjoying foreplay will actually make things better for the man as well as the woman (who generally needs much more romantic foreplay to get to the same level of arousal as her man anyway) because as well as producing a much more intense orgasm, the volume of fluid ejaculated will be much greater.

Coming Next - Plateau
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Plateau

The plateau phase is simply the name used to refer to the period while sexual arousal or excitement continues but before orgasm has happened. Assuming that sexual stimulation and arousal continues (or increases) so much as to lead to an orgasm and - intentionally or not - an ejaculation, there's a point just before a man ejaculates called "the point of ejaculatory inevitability": this is the moment when semen is moved from the seminal vesicles and prostate into the base of the penis ready to be ejaculated. You know this experience - it's the moment when you know for sure that you're going to come and nothing, but nothing, will stop it! If you are in control of your ejaculation, it's a glorious moment, during which time seems to stand still for an instant before the contractions of ejaculation shoot your semen out of your penis. If you're not in control it's likely to be a moment just long enough for you to mutter or groan or shout "Oh shit!" before you shoot your load - much to you and your partner's disappointment!

This is where there's a difference between premature ejaculators and those who can last longer: men with ejaculatory control can stay on the plateau phase longer, and they recognize sooner the feelings they get when they approach the moment of ejaculatory inevitability on the road to orgasm. This enables them to reduce their stimulation, lower their arousal, slow down the rate at which they approach orgasm and so stay on the pre-ejaculatory phase of their sexual response. In other words, they don't orgasm or ejaculate uncontrollably. This is illustrated on the graph below.

Sexual response cycle of a man with ejaculatory control
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Sexual response cycle of the rapid ejaculator
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Coming Next - Orgasm
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Orgasm

The phase of the sexual cycle beyond the moment of ejaculatory inevitability is orgasm, which is usually accompanied by ejaculation. For the moment, we can think of these two things as part of the same process, so closely linked that they are more or less the same.

An orgasm cannot be stopped once it has started, because it's an involuntary process of muscular contraction. But a man can control how quickly he gets to his orgasm in a variety of ways. Most obviously, to speed up his coming, he can increase the pressure on his penis by making deeper or harder thrusts during intercourse or by more vigorous hand movements during masturbation. Another way to "get there faster" is to contract the internal muscles which run through from his pelvic bone to his penis, a movement which both speeds up orgasm and make it more intense. This is the basis of the so-called Kegel exercises for women, used when a woman has a weakness of bladder control. In men, learning to contract and therefore strengthen these very same muscles will result in much more intense orgasms and a much more powerful ejaculation.

Once the level of stimulation has reached a point where the final phase of sexual arousal is initiated, your body prepares itself for the great climax in all kinds of ways. Blood pressure goes up, your heart rate rises, your breathing becomes deeper and heavier, and you thrust deeply into your partner, so as to get your semen deep into her vagina. Some primitive reflex reactions may happen too - for example, you may clasp your partner tightly, so she can't get away as you ejaculate.

Immediately prior to the orgasm itself, seminal fluid builds up in the bulb of the prostate gland. This produces that familiar sense of impending ejaculation, which has been described as one of the finest moments of being a man. This is probably only true if it's under your control! Then, at the moment of orgasm, the testicles are drawn up close to the body, the urinary tract to the bladder closes so that semen has to find its way out of the body through the penis rather than being passed back into the bladder, and the series of muscular contractions which actually constitutes the orgasm takes place. These contractions occur in the muscles at the base of the penis, the muscles of the penis shaft, around the anal sphincter, the pubococcygeus muscle and the muscles of the rectum - they contract about eight times, maybe slightly more or less, at eight-tenths of a second intervals, and as they do so the seminal fluid containing sperm is expelled. These contractions may lead to semen shooting out or just dribbling, depending on the condition of the muscles, how long it is since you last ejaculated, and the volume of fluid which has accumulated during the earlier phases of your sexual arousal.

Orgasms, however, do vary. They aren't all earth-shattering events! There are many reasons why they aren't all as good as each other, of course. Perhaps one of the main reasons is that they do involve the whole body, and therefore simple things like levels of tiredness, fatigue, relaxation and stress will all have an impact on the intensity of the experience. Obviously, how aroused or randy you are feeling will also have an impact on your level of excitement and the intensity of the sensations during sex. One indicator of the intensity of a person's orgasm is the degree to which their facial muscles undergo contortions or the loudness of their involuntary cries at the moment they come.

Coming Next - Things not to do to try and last longer
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Things not to do to try and last longer

The question is - how do you learn to develop control? How do you learn to move more slowly up the arousal side of the graph, and stay longer on the plateau before you shoot your load?

Well, you may have tried creams and lotions which claim to make you last longer - these often don't work, and since they contain an anesthetic, they have the unfortunate side effect of numbing your penis, and perhaps also your partner's vagina. There is little or no evidence that these creams work, and they certainly take away the glorious sensations of thrusting into your partner's vagina, especially if you are not wearing a condom.

You may have tried using a condom, a strategy which actually does work sometimes. However, some men actually find condoms more arousing and likely to make the problem worse. Don't ask me why! Maybe it's the association of the condom with the act of penetration that raises his adrenalin levels and makes him more likely to come quicker. What's worse, though, is that when a couple who are relying on a condom to slow him down change to, say, the pill as a method of birth control, the man may be back to square one.

Thinking about the most boring subject you can, or doing mental arithmetic, is often recommended as a distraction while you thrust. But guess what - this doesn't work either! For one thing it takes you away from the pleasure of the sex act and all its wonderful feelings. For another your partner may sense that you are no longer with her - that you have become a bit distanced from her. And third, it just doesn't work!

Some men try to keep their arousal down before they "get stuck in". But avoiding foreplay is a recipe for disaster. The idea that you can last longer if you don't get aroused before you put your penis in your partner is simply incorrect. You'll ejaculate just as quickly, and because you didn't spend any time on foreplay your partner will be even less sexually fulfilled than she would have been if you had, say, given her oral sex or spent time fondling and kissing before you entered her.

Don't try coming twice in succession - usually it's only a young man who can do this, and unfortunately he is likely to be just as quick the second time as the first. As you get older, you may find that you simply cannot come twice in a session of lovemaking, and the pressure that you put on yourself by trying to do so may well just make you more anxious and therefore contribute to the rapid ejaculation you're experiencing.

coming Next - Sexual positions that don't help the premature ejaculator!
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Sexual positions that don't help the premature ejaculator!

You may have noticed that you come more quickly in some sexual positions than others. This is not a matter of chance - it's all about how much stimulation your penis receives in various sexual positions and how deeply you thrust. So when you're learning to control your ejaculation, you can help by adopting the sexual positions that put less pressure on your penis and which restrict your thrust movements somewhat.

Positions to avoid

The missionary position - the very basic position of sex - is not so good if you want to control your ejaculation and keep your level of arousal under control. This is because it's so easy to thrust - you're on top, she's underneath, which in itself is very stimulating, and the almost irresistible urge to thrust with your hips, pelvis, and even your whole body can send you over the top very quickly. The act of thrusting makes you ejaculate more quickly than if your penis is just inside your partner's vagina and she is moving on you. So - avoid the missionary and any other positions where you can thrust hard.

Rear entry is another very unhelpful one for the premature ejaculator. The sheer excitement of seeing your penis thrusting in and out of her vagina, the sight of her bottom, and the ability to thrust deeply into her as you hold her and feel her breasts is not going to help you slow down!

Positions to try

Side by side and woman on top are the best. They allow less movement for you, and prevent you thrusting as deeply. Your partner will still enjoy these positions - especially woman on top, which can feel very exciting and powerful for her. Side by side positions, reached by starting in the missionary and then rolling over onto your sides, is intimate and gentle, which can be very rewarding for your partner. These positions prevent you thrusting deep or hard, yet still allow you to enjoy the feelings of warmth and moistness of your partner's vagina. You can also play with her breasts and enjoy the connection between you while feeling much more in control of your ejaculation. All in all, side by side sex is highly recommended. But it won't solve the challenge you face on its own.

Coming Next - The skill of ejaculation control
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The skill of ejaculation control

In the end, you are going to have to learn how to control your arousal and your ejaculation. Though this requires some commitment, it's not the kind of work that is difficult, unappealing or boring! In fact, it can be good for a couple who do these exercises together - it can bring you much closer, and you can experience new levels of intimacy. And if a woman is fulfilled by experiencing cuddles, closeness, and perhaps an orgasm through oral sex before you begin, she is likely to be helpful and supportive. As a man you may have to realize that this is not, for once, a problem you can solve on your own - after all, it's your partner's vagina where you prematurely ejaculate, and you need your partner's support, not to mention the use of her vagina, to learn how to control it. Communication and love (or at least mutual respect and a feeling you're going for the same end point) are important here.

If you can get an erection whenever you want sex and you are just troubled by premature ejaculation, you can skip the next few articles and go to the start of the exercises on ejaculation control.

If you are having difficulty getting an erection, the next article is important to you.

Coming Next - If you're having erection problems
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If you're having erection problems

Men who come too quickly may get so anxious about their ejaculation that after a while they can't get an erection. Anxiety is the enemy of erections - so worrying about getting hard usually means you won't get hard! If you have erection difficulties, you need to learn how to control your anxiety and get your erection back.

The first possible solution is to try Viagra or some other proven erection enhancer like Magix. This is often a good enough confidence booster to enable you to get hard again.

The next method is somewhat lengthier than popping a pill, but it's fun and enjoyable. But before we start, it's worth dispelling a few myths. There are lots of things that men believe about themselves that are just not true.
Here are some statements that I think it's helpful to keep in mind as you work through your sexual issues:

• It is not a man's responsibility to satisfy a woman - at best, sex confers a joint responsibility to seek out pleasure on both partners.
• A big erect penis is not essential to a woman's sexual pleasure. A soft or semi-hard penis is not a disaster, no matter how often it happens.
• A woman may or may not prefer penetrative sex to everything else. Often she just enjoys being emotionally and physically close to her partner.
• A man is a not a constant sex machine and he cannot always get an erection, but even so, he and his partner can still enjoy sexual pleasure.
• The failure to get an erection from time to time is quite normal. It happens to all men. It says nothing about one's masculinity.
• Sexual activity changes with age, but is still just as enjoyable. It may take longer to get erect and require physical stimulation to do so, but a man's orgasms can be just as intense, and a woman is likely to be more satisfied with the gentler pace and sensitivity of a more mature man. Erections may be softer than before, yet they provide all the physical pleasure of the rock hard penis of youth.

Coming Next - How to get your erection back - whatever the reason it's gone away!
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How to get your erection back - whatever the reason it's gone away!

To do this, you can use a gentle loving process called Sensate Focus. All this means is that you get close to your partner and caress them without the expectation of sex.

Sensate focus allows couples to concentrate on touching, not the sex act, and it's a rewarding thing to give and receive. It's sensual rather than sexual pleasure, but it fulfills a deep need to be touched - present from birth in all of us, but very often neglected or ignored, especially by men - and it communicates very effectively that someone cares deeply about us. Further, delicate touch reduces tension, and when it is made clear that the goal of the touching is not to be sexual, but just to be touched and enjoy the feelings, performance anxiety is lessened. You do not need an erection, and your partner should not expect you to get one; and because orgasm is forbidden, sexual pressure is off. And mutual touching and caressing in an atmosphere of trust will reduce your inhibitions and anxiety.

Sensate Focus is a great way to deal with loss of erection caused by anxiety, and it will certainly increase a couple's sense of affection and the strength of their bond. (And if a couple doesn’t like each other, they probably won't be able to do the exercises, which might help them move on and find more appropriate partners.) So, how do you do it?

Sensate Focus - the Loving Touch

It's simple, but sex is not allowed! Even if you find what follows very arousing, forget orgasms and intercourse for the moment.

Start by deciding who is going to receive the pleasurable touch first. For the process to work, it's best that you're both committed to it, and therefore it needs some time set aside without fear of interruption or distraction.

The person who is going to receive the touch of their partner lies on their stomach, naked, warm, and comfortable. Let's assume that you, the man, are receiving first. Think of giving yourself up to the experience. Your partner will caress you gently, stroking along your body from top to toe. She starts with the back of your head, ears and neck. Her caresses should be gentle and tender, delivered with care and love or affection. She can use her lips, tongue or fingers, the palms of her hands or the balls of her thumbs - whatever she wants. This experience is about your pleasure, so don't worry about whether she feels bored or tired. (She can always tell you if she feels that way.) Instead, concentrate on what it's like to receive this gentle touch, focusing on the experience and the sensations in your skin wherever she is touching you. If your mind wanders, just bring it back, and let her know how she is doing - for example, if you would like her to move more slowly, or more gently, or more firmly, or use her lips instead of her fingers, or whatever, tell her. If it feels good or very pleasant, ask her to repeat it - some areas may seem much more sensitive than others as she moves her hands or lips over your body. She mustn't touch your anus, penis or balls!

She will work her way down your body slowly, down your sides, back, buttocks, the inside of your thighs, sides of your legs, and the backs of your legs. And you may like her to pay special attention to your feet, which are very sensitive areas for most of us. The same process applies all the way down - gentle, delicate caresses. Some men and women find that the very lightest of touches - just the brush of the finger tips with so little pressure that it only moves the hairs on the body - is very stimulating and sensuous.

At some point, you will turn over so that she can do the same thing on the front of your body. She starts with gentle touches and caresses to the top of your head and works her way down your face, neck, arms, chest and stomach, again being delicate and sensitive. She does not, however, touch your penis or balls. She then moves down your legs and on to your feet. It's possible that you may get an erection, but leave it alone. The object of this exercise is not to be sexual.

After you are happy with what you have received, it's your turn to give to her. The process is exactly the same, except that you are going to avoid her nipples, clitoris, vulva and anus. Just concentrate on caressing the rest of her body in a delicate, gentle and sensuous manner. You don't need an instruction book to do this, just follow your instincts and do whatever feels natural or whatever she indicates is nice for her.

With anything as intimate as this exercise, done with emotional connection and sensitivity between partners, there's bound to be some fairly deep responses, and it helps if you can talk to each other about what you're feeling and experiencing. But even if you can't, don't stop doing it!

The end point of this exercise is to be able to do this comfortably and regularly as a couple, which may take about two weeks of practice. Most couples find the experience a very rewarding one. Sometimes one person will enjoy giving more than receiving, or the other way round, but that's fine. It is also often a surprising discovery that the absence of the man's erection or the woman's lubrication is not a barrier to the giving and receiving of pleasure. And really, when you think about it, what a great thing to know - that the lips and fingers can provide sensuous pleasure! If you do get carried away, and find you have extremely erotic feelings and go on to ejaculate or have sex, try to go back to the process next time. Why? Well, we know the method works because it has been used by millions of people to get their sex lives back into working order.

And since you may not be able to go two weeks without an orgasm, you can fill in the gaps with either a quickie or masturbation. But keep those separate from your sensate focus exercises, and don't try sex unless you're relaxed about it.

Coming Next - Genital Pleasure
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Genital Pleasure

The next stage of the process is the addition of a similar sort of gentle touching of breasts, nipples, clitoris, vulva, penis, the vaginal opening, and the testicles. (Not necessarily in that order!) Once again, the way to do it is not to expect or hope for sexual arousal: just experience the sensations, and accept and enjoy whatever feelings, emotions, thoughts and sensations it brings up.

The whole object of this phase of the process is to gently tease and stimulate the genitals, but not to produce orgasm. Normally this will produce arousal for both partners, especially when both partners are able to use their lips and tongue on each other. Oral sex is an exquisitely pleasurable sensation, or it can be if both partners are happy about it. The result of this process is likely to be that you, freed of the anxiety about having sex and ejaculating prematurely, get an erection. If you do happen to ejaculate, don't worry about it or apologize about it. Just tell your partner how much she turns you on, and how much you enjoyed your orgasm.

However, once again, this process of giving and receiving pleasure is meant to be independent of orgasm, so try to avoid anything that is likely to make either partner come. And if you don't get an erection, it doesn't matter. Since neither of you are out to sexually satisfy the other, and the objective is just to enjoy the experience, having an orgasm is irrelevant to what you are doing.

You may want to use lubrication. Massage oil, such as coconut or almond oil, or a commercial lube can make this a very sexy experience.

Your female partner will tease and caress your penis, scrotum, pubic area and your inner thighs with her fingers, lips, tongue and whatever else she thinks of while you lie back and enjoy the sensations. Both you and she should simply try and stay with the experience, accept your feelings, and relax and let it all happen. If you feel some anxiety, don't stop - it is perfectly possible to go relax and accept the anxiety, and you'll find that if you do, it soon decreases in intensity. Of course, it may come back, but then all you have to do is go through it again, as often as necessary, till it loses its hold over you.

As the gentle touching continues, you may get hard. If you get an erection, please don't masturbate or have sex. The point is you had an erection - you can let it go - there'll be another along next time!

After you have had enough, whether your penis is hard or not, it is the woman's turn to receive the pleasure. Start by gently going over her whole body rather like you did before. But spend only a few minutes on her body before you pay attention to her erogenous zones. Kiss her breasts and tease her nipples, play with her pubic hair, tease the lips of her vagina, stroke her clitoris lightly, and just play with the outer parts of her vulva. After a few minutes of this, or when she indicates she is ready, stroke the skin on ether side of her clitoris lightly, not touching the glands of her clitoris unless she indicates she is ready and willing - it is often too sensitive for women to take direct contact. Don't put a finger into her vagina at this stage - just gently arouse the external parts of her feminine areas.

When you do this to your female partner, be gentle and imaginative. Break off stroking her clitoris, or the skin either side of it, to go to another part of her genitals, then come back - be teasing, and stimulate her. Be sure to ask her what she would like, and what she wants, and get feedback - also, tell her how the experience is for you, and how you feel, seeing her respond to your stimulation: does it excite you to tease her in this way? Does it make you feel sexually aroused, seeing her respond to your touch? Don't bring her off, just let her take pleasure in being touched gently.

You can practice this until you feel comfortable and relaxed about it all. Once again you can fill in between sessions with masturbation or a quickie, but don't do this if it is likely to cause you any anxiety.

This whole process can be very arousing for you both because the anxiety of needing an erection to make love is removed. In such a relaxed situation, the man's erection is likely to return, safe that it will not be put to the test! For the woman, lubrication and desire for penetration are very common reactions, and it's often accompanied by a level of arousal that she hasn't experienced for a long time (or had never known she could experience). After you've experienced this arousal and the pleasure of the sexual touching, it's time to move on to the next step: orgasm outside the vagina.

Coming Next - Orgasm without intercourse
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[thaivisitor]

Orgasm without intercourse

You've got an erection. Don't put it inside her as quickly as possible! No, you aren't going to do that yet. The next step in the process of moving from soft erections to fully fledged sex is to enjoy orgasm without intercourse. One orgasm each actually. Or maybe more than one. You can come through masturbation or oral sex - it doesn't matter. The object is simply to use your erections to have an orgasm, and for your partner to have an orgasm.

Simple, isn't it? Well, yes, but remember to use the gentle fondling and caressing you have learnt as much as you like - it is not something that you use just to get back to having hard erections, but a life-long way of increasing the strength of the bond between you and your partner, increasing your enjoyment of sex, increasing your ability to give and receive pleasure, and enhancing your ability to communicate.

And now, at this stage, able to get an erection and ejaculate outside her vagina, you are ready to deal with your premature ejaculation....so get ready!

Coming Next - Learning how not to come quickly
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[tittyhawk]

Wowzz...bro TV, Im impressed about your knowledge. Thanks for sharing info.

[The Punisher]

in order to get such information, we normally have to pay for it. really appreciate the efforts of thaivisitor and his resources.

well done would be an understatement.

[arizona]

Bro TV...power contribution to the fullest...

I think importance also the ambience...the surrounding that u are mating too..

few Hotel I find affordable yet trendy to screw while enjoy the quiet :p moment ...

[thaivisitor]

Just sharing the information that I have lah... :D

[[S]otong]

i think the information is good and very detail of it...really well done

[thaivisitor]

Learning how not to come quickly

The way you can learn to control your ejaculation is described below as a couple might do it. But up to step 3 you can actually do this training on your own. It might even be helpful to do that, because then you can really focus on your body and what you're feeling, and learn just what it feels like as you approach the point where your ejaculation is inevitable.

Remember that the whole idea is to learn how your body feels as you get more and more aroused. Learning how it feels as you approach the point where it's inevitable you're going to ejaculate, and being aware as you approach this point during sex, means that you can do something to stop or halt the increasing arousal before you lose control! If you ejaculate, you didn't stop soon enough!

Begin each session with gentle touching and caressing. There are plenty of ideas in the yellow text box above about how to do this. You might ask your partner if she wants this to develop into sex play so she can come before you do the exercises themselves. If not, give her the chance to come afterwards - offer to masturbate her or give her oral sex so she can enjoy her orgasm too. This way you'll be making sure that both your sexual needs and her needs for affection and sex are satisfied at some point in each session.

And don't forget this can all be light-hearted and fun. Sex is always better if you can laugh about it and enjoy it in a relaxed way.

Coming Next - Step 1
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[thaivisitor]

Step 1

Lie down on your back next to your partner, both of you naked. She needs to be in a position where she is comfortable and she can masturbate you comfortably. Begin by having your partner gently touch and caress your whole body. She can caress and kiss any part of you with her hands, lips and tongue. Relax and enjoy the sensations.
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When you have a good erection, close your eyes, and ask her to begin masturbating your penis. If you need lubrication to make this comfortable, her saliva is best at this stage. Oral sex is not allowed, though!
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You need to concentrate on your arousal - not just the pleasure you're feeling. If you concentrate on the pleasure, you're likely to get swept away in the rush to orgasm, and that's not the idea! The idea is to stop your partner masturbating you before you get to the point where you will have no choice but to come.

As she masturbates you, lie still. Don't let your mind wander off onto sexual thoughts or imagery - keep focusing on how aroused you are.
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As you approach the point of no return you have to judge when to tell your partner to stop what she's doing.
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Obviously if you begin to ejaculate you've gone too far! You need to feel your arousal rising, and tell your partner to stop while it's under your control.
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At the point where you tell her to stop, she will lie back and wait for your arousal to decrease.
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You can feel this happening - as you relax, your desire to ejaculate and the feeling of needing to come will decrease. If you've been a premature ejaculator for a while, it may take some time - a few minutes - for your arousal to decrease to the level where she can touch your penis again without any danger of you coming. However, if you begin to lose your erection, then your arousal has probably declined a bit too much.
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It's your responsibility to get this right, and you may have to practice a few times before you can judge it correctly. But once you feel your arousal has decreased to the appropriate level, tell her to start masturbating you again.

She needs to use minimum effort, with slow strokes, and as little lube as possible. Stay relaxed - muscle tension will increase your arousal. If you feel yourself tensing up, consciously relax your body. This may go against the habits of a lifetime if you've been used to getting off as quickly as possible. You just have to be disciplined. Be a man! The whole point of this is to give you better staying power, not to indulge your own selfish pleasure. So don't ejaculate! (But if you genuinely misjudge it, don't be hard on yourself. Just do it better next time.)

Go through this process 4 or 5 times before you continue to orgasm and ejaculation. As you let her take you over the top, try and focus on your internal experience so that you know the difference between how it feels to be in control and how it feels to know you are going for the pleasure of your orgasm.

Don't have intercourse, but do allow yourself the pleasure of orgasm each time you practice this complete sequence - say 2 or 3 times a week for 3 weeks. If your partner can't make it, do it on your own. And make sure she is sexually fulfilled with oral sex or masturbation.

The longer you practice, the better lover you'll be. So how much do you want to improve?

Coming Next - Step 2
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[spinning]

Very informative man!

Cant wait to read step 2 and 3

That angmo's dick is fat and long! :eek:
Envious to have that size siah!!!

[thenerdyguy]

I second on that! Think it's quite good and interesing, lookin forward to new updates :p

[Hunkyforever]

Bro thaivisitor, really very informative and good info u got there.... waiting for the next step... :)

[Ecuader]

That angmo's dick is fat and long! :eek:
Envious to have that size siah!!!

very big meh
for a ang mo think this guy's small. :eek:

[thaivisitor]

Step 2

You might already be sensing that you have some control over the timing of when you come. By slowing down your partner as she masturbates you, or stopping her altogether, you may have discovered a new level of control over what previously seemed to be an unstoppable process.

The next step is to learn how to accept more stimulation without rushing towards your orgasm.

As before, gentle massage, caressing, stroking and touching are the first steps of the exercise. When you have a erection, your partner stimulates you more by using a lubricant or even just large quantities of her own saliva on your penis.
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She can also give you oral sex as she masturbates you.
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Once again, it's your responsibility to keep track of where your arousal is going, and to stop her when you begin to feel you are approaching the moment of ejaculatory inevitability.
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Once again, lie still and don't tense your muscles. The lubrication, and the more intense stimulation it produces, will teach you a further level of control. If you begin to lose your erection, then your arousal has probably declined a bit too much.
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If you really feel yourself on the absolute edge of ejaculation, get up and walk around. This may stop the ejaculation and give you time to get your arousal level down. Wait a few minutes before you ask your partner to resume masturbating you.

Over the course of a week or two, you will learn to tolerate higher levels of arousal without coming. The aim of the exercise then becomes to keep yourself near the point where you would have to ejaculate, but without doing so. For example, if on a scale of 1 to 10, 10 meant that you were going to come, then you would aim to keep yourself at 7 or 8. As your partner masturbates you, focus on your arousal level, and when you get to 6 or 7, tell her to ease off or slow down, so you can keep your level of arousal high without ejaculating. If you suddenly lose it and ejaculate, well, just put it down to experience and try again next time!

After working on this with your partner - say 2 or 3 times a week for 4 weeks - you will find that you can more easily stay aroused without ejaculating. What's more, if you can stay aroused for 15 minutes or so before your partner brings you off, you'll find that the intensity of your orgasm is much greater and more intense when you do ejaculate!

You need to make this more gradual approach to ejaculation a habit pattern, which is best done by practicing 3 times a week. When you practice over and over, it will become the normal response in your body - just as your quick ejaculation is your normal response right now.

Coming Next - Step 3
thaivisitor :D :D

[spinning]

very big meh
for a ang mo think this guy's small.

OK OK, I admit I have a small dick! :(


After reading the step 2, actually this cum contro thing can "train" alone.
I remember I read it somewhere, just mast until almost cumming, then stop. Repeat the process for 15mins daily for 2weeks to see result.

Too bad me got no discipline, me always ended up a "never return" situation! :o

[thaivisitor]

Step 3

Next, you can enhance steps 1 and 2 by sliding your penis along the lips of her vulva without entering her. This must be fun and relaxed, so don't put pressure on yourselves and make it a strain. Just enjoy the whole thing. Start with the kissing, cuddling and caressing which by now will be familiar to you. Satisfy your partner if that's what you both want. Then, turn your attention to your penis!

You begin, as always, by lying on your back, with a good erection. Your partner will use lots of slippery lube and then climb over you as if you were going to make love in the "woman on top" position. Instead of you putting your penis in her vagina, though, she will slide your penis back and forth between the lips of her vulva. You don't move. Yes - that's right: no thrusting, no hip movements, nothing. You literally lie back and enjoy it. And you keep your eyes shut and your hands off your partner, so that you can better concentrate on how you are feeling.

This will all be very exciting and no doubt you'll feel your arousal going up. But you're learning to keep your arousal under control, so you need to monitor how excited you are, stop her moving, and ask her to lift her vulva off your penis, when you feel you are approaching the moment of ejaculatory inevitability. Once again - be a man! Don't slip into the all-too-easy place where you think, "Oh, it's alright, just this once. I'll be able to get control back next time." That's not the point! Your self-discipline here is important to make the whole process work.

When she stops, rest for as long as necessary to reduce your arousal level to the point where she can safely get back on your penis and slide her vulva along it again. You don't really want to lose your erection, just to rest for long enough so that your arousal goes down somewhat and you don't ejaculate.

Repeat this whole stop-start sequence 5 or 6 times, and then continue to orgasm. Enjoy it!

You're going to do this for three weeks, and with each week that passes, you can introduce more stimulation into the routine. So, in the second week, open your eyes and put your hands lightly on your partner's hips. This will add to your arousal, but by now you will have greater control, so you will still be able to stop your partner moving in time to prevent your ejaculation. If you want, as you approach the point of ejaculatory inevitability, close your eyes and take your hands off your partner. This may lower your arousal and help you concentrate on telling her when to stop.

In the third week, keep your eyes open and touch her body. Fantasize a bit if you want. At this point you are aiming to keep her sitting on you with your penis between her vulvae lips when she stops moving. The idea now is for you to develop more sophisticated control, so that you can stop yourself ejaculating while you are still receiving some stimulation. At first this stimulation will be the warmth and wetness of your partner's vulva resting on your penis. But as you develop your self-control, you will find that you can control your arousal so well that you don't want to ejaculate even while she continues to move slowly and gently on you. But all the time, you need to keep your awareness of your arousal, and monitor where you are on the road to ejaculation.

Coming Next - Step 4
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[dandan2512]

bro tv,thumbs up to u for providing tis informative article...salute u...cheers....:)

[thaivisitor]

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It's on the top right of this thread.

[Doomas]

Bro,

What do I do if I'm lasting too long? :P

Guys, do rate this thread to give me an idea how it is being received by bros.

It's on the top right of this thread.

[DeViLzAgEnT]

Guys, do rate this thread to give me an idea how it is being received by bros.

It's on the top right of this thread.

Bro thaivisitor ... Multiple KUDOS to u for actually spending so much time on providing all these great info and knowledge ... Even the pics are pretty interesting and stimulating in some ways ... hehehe ... :p

[thaivisitor]

Bro,

What do I do if I'm lasting too long? :P
Wait I have the answer, I will create another thread for this problem. :)

[thaivisitor]

Step 4 - Vaginal Intercourse

The light at the end of the tunnel is in sight - vaginal intercourse. Prolonged vaginal intercourse at that (or longer, at least). Imagine it - not shooting your load the minute you enter her! OK, so what do you do?

Start, as always, with sexual caresses and gentle play. Satisfy your partner if she wants it - and at the point where you are ready to take the plunge, so to speak, lie on your back.

You're going to have sex with your partner on top while you lie on your back. You can put your penis at the entry to her vagina or just inside it, and see what that feels like. If you feel like coming, ease off or away until the sensation passes. Remember the idea is to maintain your level of arousal for as long as you choose without coming. Your partner must be wet so you can get into her easily. If she's not aroused enough, go back to some sex play that gets her lubricating freely.

When you're sure you're in control of your arousal, with your partner on top, put your penis inside her vagina and rest there without moving.
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Think about how it feels. If everything has gone well, you will be able to enjoy this most wonderful feeling without coming. If, by some mischance, you do ejaculate the minute you're in her, it isn't a disaster. Don't get uptight and apologize or mentally beat yourself up!! Just enjoy the ejaculation, let yourself go fully into it, and make the most of it. Then, when things have calmed down, go back in your exercises to the point where you last had good control. Don't despair! Just work through it again, perhaps taking more time over the exercises before you ejaculate.

If all goes well, and you are now in her and comfortably in control of your ejaculation, guide her up and down with your hands on her hips until you are comfortably aroused but not going to ejaculate. Keep it that way by adjusting the speed and depth of your partner's movements. Don't move yourself!
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Stop her moving and rest if you get too close to coming. You can even take your penis out of her vagina and rest if you feel this to be more helpful in developing your self-control.
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Resume when your arousal has decreased.
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Your desire to ejaculate will decrease at this point, and when it has done so, guide her into resuming her movements, once again pausing when you get near the point of ejaculatory inevitability. It is important that during the first three repetitions of this sequence you do not thrust. And it is probably obvious to you that the longer you both go on practicing this before you ejaculate, the more control you are developing. However, on the fourth repetition, let yourself go, focus on how it feels and thrust until you ejaculate. Enjoy!

The crucial thing is that you try and focus on what you're feeling all the time, so that you know when you're about to ejaculate and can stop her moving before it happens.

If you find your arousal increasing too much you can also close your eyes so you don't see your partner's breasts. And instead of enjoying any fantasy you may be having, at this stage think of your taxes instead, if it helps slow you down in the move towards orgasm! And of course if you're really having problems of self-control, you can stop your partner moving altogether and wait, resting inside her, until your arousal decreases and you're back in control.

Coming Next - The last step
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[DeViLzAgEnT]

Step 4 - Vaginal Intercourse

Coming Next - The last step
thaivisitor

Wow ... Bro thaivisitor ... Are u purposely delaying the last step so that we can also reach that explosive orgasm u keep mentioning abt?!?! ... :p

Anyway, cant wait for the final instalment ... Keep it coming fast and furious ... :D

[thaivisitor]

Wow ... Bro thaivisitor ... Are u purposely delaying the last step so that we can also reach that explosive orgasm u keep mentioning abt?!?! ...

Anyway, cant wait for the final instalment ... Keep it coming fast and furious ...
kekekekekekeke, the last step is NOT the final instalment. :D

[thaivisitor]

The Last Step

The last big step is for you to actually begin thrusting. Do this gently at first, so as to work out how aroused you get and how quickly you move towards orgasm. The essential point to remember is that you are in control: you can control the speed and depth of your thrusting to regulate your arousal .At some point you will find a balance between movement and arousal and you'll then be able to continue thrusting for as long as you want to without coming!
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CONGRATULATIONS!
You have achieved your goal of being a longer lasting lover!

Coming Next - Positions can help!
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[thaivisitor]

Positions can help!

Positions that restrict a man's ability to thrust are best for ejaculatory control.

Start with the woman on top position. Tell her to stop moving when your arousal becomes too high.
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After three or four sessions of lovemaking using this process, you could repeat the exercise in the side by side position for three or four sessions of lovemaking.
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Lastly do it with the man on top, missionary position.
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The whole sequence can be repeated as many times as you like until you're confident you can control your ejaculation - the point of the exercise being that you can get to a point where you can let go and come when you want. This may take from 2 to 10 weeks and sometimes a few months to get complete control.

And above all remember to ask your partner what she wants each time you have had an orgasm. She may be happy just to see you happy, or she may want clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Talking with each other about expectations and what feels pleasurable means you don't have to second guess your partner. Telling each other what you like, what you want, and how to do it, means you will get more sexual confidence in all ways - not just relying on the penis-in -a vagina routine for sexual pleasure. Be adventurous!

Practicing frequently is the single most effective thing you can do to continue to develop more effective control over when you have an orgasm.

Remember, though, that sometimes you will just be too excited and you'll shoot quickly. When I started learning these techniques my girlfriend and I had the habit of starting our lovemaking by me bringing her off with oral sex. This got me so aroused I was desperately horny when I entered her after she'd had her orgasm. Needless to say, I lasted about two minutes! Now when we do the same thing, no matter how aroused I am after giving her oral sex, I can go on and on for as long as we choose - and she often has vaginal or G spot orgasms while I'm in her. This - as you can imagine - feels like a big change, and a great success!

So don't dwell on your failures - don't apologize unduly, and don't punish yourself for them. Steady forward progress is what matters. Laugh and joke with your partner about the process - sex is meant to be fun, not a trial!

Coming Next - Problems?
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[thaivisitor]

Problems?

One problem, of course, is boredom. The routine can be tedious, though this can be remedied simply by having a lovemaking session which is free of the exercises once a week. Another issue may be that your partner gets aroused and then frustrated if she doesn't get an orgasm. Fairly obviously, the answer here is that she can have an orgasm through masturbation or oral sex. Use a vibrator if necessary.

For these exercises to work, you need to think only of your own arousal, your sexual feelings and the sensations in your body. It's counter-productive if your female partner distracts you by complaining about her lack of an orgasm, or indeed anything else.

You need to be loving and respectful of each other and both committed to resolving your quick ejaculation. This will be easier and more likely if you're in a relationship where each of you takes pleasure from helping to resolve the other's challenges. I suppose that is stating the obvious, but still, there are many relationships where there is an underlying current of hostility or resentment which is not generally expressed, and which will find its expression in subverting exercises that need mutual co-operation.

If you have a problem with these exercises because of some more fundamental issue about putting yourself in the hands of a woman, or she has an issue with "being your sex servant" (or some such expression), then you have an issue which I can't help you with, and you may want to get counseling or therapy to address these more basic insecurities. But let's look on the bright side - some men enjoy being passive in sex for the first time, having been brought up to believe that a man must always initiate and lead.
In some cases, as the man gets better ejaculatory control, his female partner may experience profoundly negative reactions - these may include emotional conflicts or depression or anxiety - or she may sabotage the treatment, perhaps by expressing her boredom. This may be because the woman is insecure about her ability to keep her man, and she thinks his new-found sexual confidence may make him go off with another woman.

In some cases, a man's quick ejaculation conceals the fact that the woman can't orgasm very easily. If she was blaming this on her man for ejaculating quickly, she may well not want her own difficulties exposed in this way. Any shift in the balance of power in a relationship - sexual or otherwise - can expose all kinds of unspoken conflicts and tensions.

Coming Next - A few more comments on quick ejaculation
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[hungryghost4]

thanks for the great tips brother thaivisitor

now what I need is someone patience enuff to try it with...my other half isn't so patient :rolleyes:

I will try and report my progress here....

[lamts]

Kudos to you for posting such informative and educational material.
You should write a book together with all your experiences.
Thanks.

[LED...]

What can i say manz.........should have read your article earlier then i will be a better lover.........thanks for the effort.........cheers :)

[thaivisitor]

A few more comments on quick ejaculation

Remember - it's only a problem if it's a problem for YOU...

In research on PE, men who ejaculated after exactly the same time described their situation in very different ways. Whether it was two minutes, ten thrusts or whatever, some couples were happy, others thought it was a big problem. It's all in the eye of the beholder. What really matters is that your sex is fulfilling and it makes the two of you very happy and relaxed.

...or if it causes you another problem!

However, if PE causes stress or difficulty, as it may, then it can eventually lead to other challenges like impotence, performance anxiety, or loss of erection on intercourse. Fortunately the remedy for PE is not difficult - if you think about it, that must be true, because although all men ejaculate very rapidly when they have their first sexual experiences, they don't all carry on ejaculating so quickly for the rest of their lives - they are able to learn how to last longer. And with the remedy described in the methods above, the cure literally is in your own hands!

Let your partner help

Many women do not mind quick ejaculation provided they are loved and supported and able to enjoy an orgasm in other ways. To them sex is about love, not technique (which is a very male oriented view, as you may agree: we all want to be the best in bed). So if your partner is loving and supportive, and tries to reassure you that it does not matter, accept what she says and stop focusing on your inner distress about being bad or incompetent in bed - instead focus on getting better at making love!

You have to keep it up!

I mean, you have to keep practicing. Some men who stop practicing these techniques revert to their previous sexual habits - i.e. coming too quickly. So keep practicing! You only have to do it once in a while. By the way, it helps a lot if you and your partner have good communication and high levels of trust in each other. This way you don't have to take all the responsibility for sex and its progression through foreplay into intercourse. Taking that responsibility solely on yourself can be a route to performance anxiety - and for a man prone to premature ejaculation, anxiety tends to make things worse.

You need to talk

Many female partners think "he doesn't care about me", not necessarily because they really believe this but because they feel hurt, let down, offended or sexually frustrated when their man gets frustrated, angry or emotionally distant after he comes too quickly. The truth, of course, is that many men who ejaculate too quickly feel a lot of shame and anxiety. They then get separated from their sexual pleasure and become focused on lasting longer, and they believe they are failures because they don't have an everlasting penis of steel. Ask your partner whether these things matter to her and you may get a very different viewpoint.

Besides which, talking about these things will make them seem a lot better and reduce the pressure you feel very much.


Coming Next - And lastly - The Prostate Compression Exercise
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[thaivisitor]

And lastly - The Prostate Compression Exercise

This may be helpful in preventing ejaculation. Some couples prefer an active way of stooping ejaculation as the man approaches the point of no return, rather than just sitting back and relying on his skill in judging the right point to stop.

If you feel a man's perineum, the skin between anus and scrotum, there is a small dimple or dip in the skin approximately half way along (often nearer the scrotum than the anus). This spot represents the external point where you can press to inhibit ejaculation. This may often be very helpful for a man if he is desperate to stop himself coming. Press firmly, but not painfully, until the feeling of desire to ejaculate has passed.
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Extra! - Ejaculation Control Exercises
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[DeViLzAgEnT]

And lastly - The Prostate Compression Exercise


Extra! - Ejaculation Control Exercises
thaivisitor

Wow ... Bro thaivisitor ... u mean there is more to come ah?!?! ... Think all these is lastin more than my love makin sessions loh ... :D

[Tai Guan]

And lastly - The Prostate Compression Exercise


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Extra! - Ejaculation Control Exercises
thaivisitor

thanks bro for all ur info, ur beri resourceful leh. :D

[thaivisitor]

Ejaculation Control Exercises

The ejaculation control exercises are all about increasing the strength of your PC muscle. By increasing this strength you will be able to control when you ejaculate and your erections will be harder. It has been medically proven that the PC muscle when at its peak fitness can add up to 0.5 inch to your girth.

You can locate the PC muscle in between the scrotum and the anus. It is located on what is called the pelvic floor, and is part of a network of muscles that helps ejaculatory and urinary control. To find the PC muscle lick your thumb and go put it between your anus and your scrotum until your penis jumps, this is the PC muscle. If this method does not work then while urinating try and stop yourself in mid-flow. The muscle that you tense is the PC muscle. To stop yourself from ejaculating while having sex all you need to do is slow down a little and tense the PC muscle, this will work with a fully trained PC muscle.

Generally, there are 4 types of ejaculation control exercises.

The PC Flex Basic is the most basic of PC exercises and can be done while driving. The Long PC Flex and the PC Squeeze and Hold are usually done by more advanced users. The PC Weighting must only be done by the more advanced users (4 weeks at least).

Usually only one of the PC exercises is done per a workout.

Coming Next - PC Flex Basic
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[thaivisitor]

PC Flex Basic

The PC muscle is the muscle that you squeeze to stop the urinating flow.

The PC muscle is basically your ejaculatory control muscle and pumps when you ejaculate. Most men have a weak PC muscle that could be trained better. This leads to weak erections, weak ejaculations and possibly impotence and premature ejaculation. Also you have very little control over WHEN you ejaculate and this can lead to references such as "the minute man".

By exercising the PC muscle we hope to see more blood flow, stronger rock hard erections, improved stamina, healthy prostrate, improved urinary flow and the ability to have multiple orgasms. Also with a well trained PC muscle you will be able to orgasm when you wish to - therefore lasting longer in bed and satisfying your women.

It is a good idea to perform this exercise at the beginning of the workout because it helps promote blood flow. After a warm-up would be the optimum time.

Sit down and obtain an erection by manual stimulation and sit with your back straight. Tense your PC muscle so your penis jumps up for 3 seconds and then let it rest again. This would be called one rep.

When first starting off with this exercise you may notice that your erection disappears as you do the workout, this is normal and you should only re-stimulate when you go below 50% erect.

Performing 100-400 reps of these a day will give you an extremely strong PC muscle. You can exercise the PC muscle anywhere - even on the way to work while driving. As a beginner its good to start slowly with 50-100 reps a day and slowly build up to the 400 reps.

Follow your workout plan and dedicate as much time as you think necessary to this exercise.

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Coming Next - The Long PC Flex
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[thaivisitor]

Long PC Flex

The Long PC Flex is basically the same as the PC Flex basic except that there is an addition.

This exercise strengthens the PC muscle and should be used after you have successfully done the PC Flex basic. Sit down straight and manually achieve an erection. Tense the PC muscle and hold for 3 seconds and then relax. However on the tenth PC flex hold it for 20 seconds or as long as you can. Try and do 10 sets of 10 of these to strengthen your PC muscle or as your workout specifies.

To Summarize

1. As per usual warm up thoroughly.
2. Stroke yourself to a manual erection.
3. Sit down with your back straight.
4. Tense your PC muscle so your penis jumps.
5. Keep tensing for 3-5 seconds.
6. Let go and relax for 5 seconds.
7. Do this nine times.
8. On the tenth time hold for 20 + seconds if possible.
9. Massage penis when done to keep circulation.

Coming Next - PC Squeeze & Hold
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[thaivisitor]

PC Squeeze & Hold

Sit down as usual and obtain a 90%-100% erection. With your right hand form the OK sign and grab the base of the penis applying moderate pressure.

Now tense your PC muscle and you should notice your penis jumps. Tense the muscle for 5 seconds. As you do so apply more pressure with the hand and then after 5 seconds relax the PC muscle. Keep your hand firmly at the base of the penis.

Do 10 reps then remove the hand and have a 20 second rest. Repeat as many times as desired or for the allocated time in the workout. Remember to squeeze for a full 5 seconds.

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To Summarize

1. As per usual warm up thoroughly.
2. Stroke yourself to a manual erection.
3. Sit down with your back straight.
4. Tense your PC muscle so your penis jumps.
5. Keep tensing for 3-5 seconds.
6. While tensing PC muscle grab base of penis
7. Put pressure on for 3-5 seconds with hand.
8. Do as many repetitions as needed.
9. Massage penis when done to keep circulation.

Coming Next - PC Weighting
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[kristie009]

Hmm... still waiting for the The PC Weighting exercise. :)

[milffella]

my problem is..............TAKE TOO LONG TO CUM.......

[kaizer]

bro, then ur problem is OVER mature ejaculation!~ l0lx

[d74wa_03]

nice info bro.... btw is it Kegel Muscle that you are talking about to exercise ? :p

[zico]

real good information man
thanks you are the man

[Taige]

yo bro, thanx for the information...still waiting for ur next part on The PC Weighting exercise

[ass77]

Thats great infomation.

Thanks Bro,. :rolleyes:

[oasis2002]

Master, please continue writing....... awaiting anxiously

[CumExplorer]

Very informative.

[Ybma]

anyone who tried have follows the routine find it work for you ????

[juz_bring_it]

when will the PC Weighting exercise be released?

[JPimp]

Hi all,

I have uploaded scene 3 of a video to help this condition. I mentioned this in another thread called "Early Ejaculation Problem".

It is not porn but a sex ed video. If you are interested to have it. PM me with "You Can Last Longer Scene 3" in the title and I will send the link to you.

Hope it helps.

Cheers
JPimp

[thaivisitor]

Sorry I am not able to contribute the rest of the PC Exercise as it was in my notebook and unfortunately, my notebook was infected by virus and all information was removed by the guy who repaired my notebook.:(

Hope I can compensate it with this.

TEN TIPS ON HOW TO ELIMINATE PREMATURE EJACULATION

Ten tips on how to eliminate premature ejaculations are given below. The easiest (and cheapest) things first ..

Stop and start technique
This technique simply means to bring yourself to (near) the point of no return, and stopping all stimulation before it's too late. For some men, this includes removal of the penis from the vagina, although for others this may not be necessary.

After the urgent feeling to ejaculate subsides, usually after 30 seconds, then thrusting and intercourse can be resumed. This stop and start technique can be repeated several times.

Communication is the key here, guys. Let your partner know that you are getting close to orgasm and to slow down or temporarily stop.

In addition to intercourse, the stop and start technique can also be practiced with your hand, with or without lubricant.

Remember to breathe...
Believe it or not, breathing deeply and relaxing your body during intercourse can help! This works best for premature ejaculation that is caused by anxiety or tension.

Because of its relaxing effect, some men report that drinking one (just one ,guys) glass of red wine before lovemaking can help.

For others, distracting oneself by thinking about other things like the office or football can also help to prevent premature ejaculation. Just remember not to think out loud!

The squeeze technique
This technique involves gently squeezing the base or end of the penile shaft and stopping sexual stimulation until the urge to ejaculate passes. The squeezing can be done by either the man or his partner, and can be repeated until ejaculation is desired.

Wear a condom
One of the most overlooked simple cures of premature ejaculation is to wear a condom. Besides being a good practice against sexually transmitted diseases and as a contraceptive, a condom can help reduce the sensation and thus prolong sex.

Masturbate first
Masturbating first a couple of hours before making love can result in the increased ability to last longer. Unfortunately, this often reduces the man's desire for sex.

Different sexual positions
Some men reach orgasm and ejaculate faster in the traditional missionary position (man on top). These men may last longer when their partner is on top. Remember, however, that sexual position preference varies very widely.

Changing positions every so often can also help, perhaps by giving the man brief pauses during lovemaking every now and then.

Desensitizing cream
Desensitizing cream works by lessening the sensation felt by men during intercourse. Although it lengthens staying power for many men, it comes with a price: most of these men said that the cream also makes sex less pleasurable.

Be sure to tell your partner that you are using desensitizing cream. Unfortunately, the dulling effect can also be transferred and felt by the woman, making it longer for her to reach orgasm (which may be one of the reasons a man feels he's not lasting long enough in the first place!).

Pelvic muscle exercise
Would you believe that an exercise usually reserved for incontinent women can help a man prevent premature ejaculation?

In a woman, pregnancy and childbirth are the main cause of the weakening of the pelvic floor muscle. This usually leads to female incontinence. The good news is that a simple pelvic muscle exercise (also called Kegel exercise) can help.

The same pelvic muscle is also involved in the ejaculation process (if you must know, the contraction of the pelvic muscle forces the seminal or ejaculate fluid from the prostate gland). This means that for a man, the same pelvic muscle exercise can help gain control over his premature ejaculation.

The pelvic muscle exercise is simple: "flex" the pelvic muscle as if you are holding back from or stopping urination. Hold the muscle for about three to five seconds, relax for about three seconds, and repeat. With practice, you should be able to work your way up to hold your pelvic muscle for ten seconds and do as many as one hundred contractions per day.

Remember, you can do this discreet exercise at almost anytime and in any place.

Herbal treatment
There are many herbs for men's sexual health available in the market today. Some of these, such as yohimbe and maca extracts, are basically stimulants and may have unwanted side effects, especially for older men.

A very promising herb is purified Tribulus terrestris extract. Taken regularly, Tribulus has been proven by many scientific medical studies to help men overcome premature ejaculation without side effects. Moreover, the herb helps boost sex drive, increases stamina and control, and even improves sensation.

Testicular restraint
Gently restraining the testicles from moving during intercourse can help some men from ejaculating prematurely. Although some found it uncomfortable or too much hassle, testicular restraint is generally safe. It can be purchased discreetly through erotic mail-order companies.

Taking cues from the squeeze technique and a vacuum device for impotence, an erotic device called a penis ring or band works to prevent premature ejaculation in some (adventurous) men. Here, a stretchy rubber ring on the base of the penis does the squeezing. Some men, however, feel slight discomfort during intercourse when wearing this ring.

Premature ejaculation can be treated - The tips above have been reported to help about 95% of men to prolong their lovemaking. Remember to be sure to contact your health provider if you feel that you have a severe premature ejaculation problem.

Cheers
Tee Vee:D

[6tpshat9]

hi bro, thanks for sending the ebook to me... hav browsed through it and shall be conducting the exercises... haha... thanks alot bro...

[tongkat.ali]

brother thai visitor, i think some of the pictures can't be viewed, they may be expired, is there a way to get them back?

[thaivisitor]

Ill check my database again and see what I can do.

Cheers
Tee Vee

[tongkat.ali]

thanks for the effort despite you being a busy man! :)

The pictures is the best position picture i have seen so far, clear and precise!

[david_tka]

HI bro, u really power. Very detail steps and with pics. :D

Thanks for the info.

[mcdeo]

Thanks for the info. Great.

[CrazyThaiLover]

Hi Bro TV,

Thx for the infomation that you hv shared with us.


Hi Bros TV & all SBF bros,

BTW, is there any Chinese version or related info websites in Chinese???

Pai Say, coz my English(Singlish lar!) is quite powderful.... I'm a 'Chinese Helicopter'. Heehee:o


Thx & Rgds:)

[withu6969]

Hi bro thaivisitor,
Guess i was too late to get to known of this topic. I found it very useful and informative. But too bad all the pics can't be viewed.

Is there any way you can restore these pics again? or any bros out there have downloaded those pics?

[naruto99]

Hi bro thaivisitor,
Guess i was too late to get to known of this topic. I found it very useful and informative. But too bad all the pics can't be viewed.

Is there any way you can restore these pics again? or any bros out there have downloaded those pics?

Ya, i also missed it. Wanted to know more about the PC flex exercise with the pictures...

[niteowl]

Ya, i also missed it. Wanted to know more about the PC flex exercise with the pictures...

To view the pics, u can open a new window & paste the link.

[CrazyThaiLover]

Hi To Bros who read Chinese,

There are some infos to share (from some Chinese websites), hope that it help...


早泄的行为训练法

早泄从根本上说是射精所需要的阈值太低，阈值是指刺激的强度界限，就好像“门槛”一样，门槛低，一跨就过去 了。所以治疗早泄就需提高阈值，达到相当强的刺激后才发生射精。有些人通过前述方法就可解决，较为严重的则 多需要进行行为治疗。
　　
　　停-动技术（间歇刺激阴茎法）男方仰卧，把注意力完全集中到体验由女方刺激阴茎而出现的感觉上，女方坐在男方旁 边或两腿之间，用手慢慢地抚摸阴茎使其勃起，男方表示即将达到射精高潮时，即停止抚摸阴茎，让情欲消退。几 分钟后，女方再继续抚摸阴茎，使男方再次兴奋。如此反复进行，使患者逐渐能耐受大量刺激而又不射精。间歇的 次数逐渐减少，最后不需要中途休息，也能够经受长时间的连续刺激而仍不过早射精。
　　
　　这种训练也可以由病人自己手淫来进行，体验刺激的强弱和方式，也可以在性交时进行类似的训练，如降低阴 茎抽动的幅度、速度或暂停抽动，降低性兴奋，阴茎将要疲软时再抽动。如此反复进行，即可延长性交时间，待女 方达到性高潮再射精。
　　
　　挤捏技术（耐受性训练）这种方法适用于“停一动技术”训练无效者。先进行阳萎的性感集中训练（非生殖器 和生殖器两个阶段），消除患者的焦虑。接着，由女方不断对阴茎刺激，待男方出现射精即将发生的紧迫感时，女 方把拇指放在阴茎的系带部位，示指、中指放在阴茎头的背侧，恰在冠状沟的上、下方，稳捏压迫15－20秒， 然后松开。施加压力是前后向，而不是左右向，需用指腹部，而非指甲捏夹，也不是搔刮阴茎。这样挤捏的结果是 抑制射精反射，缓解射精的紧迫感。坚持两周左右，多数病人在控制射精方面有很大改善。挤捏所用的压力应与勃 起的程度成正比，充分勃起者需用力挤捏，勃起不坚者挤捏力相应减弱，仅有压迫感而无痛苦、不适。女方刺激时 ，男方的注意力要集中在阴茎受刺激后所产生的感觉上，而不要过分注意什么时候会射精。
　　
　　经过几天挤捏后，男方自信心逐渐增加，可采用女上位性交法，但仍需使用挤捏术3一6次。在阴茎插入阴道 前即应挤捏，进入阴道后静置不动，双方都把注意力集中到身体感觉上。男方此时绝不要主动摩擦。静置短时后， 女方把阴茎抽出再次挤捏，再插入，此时开始作缓慢摩擦。如男方感到快要射精时，给女方提示，女方再作挤捏。 如阴道内静置能持续4－5分钟，则可以加快摩擦，并让其射精。当射精能较好地控制时，可改用阴茎根部的挤捏 术，这样就可以避免为进行挤捏而中断性交。一般需要用挤捏术3－6个月才能使疗效持久。如能坚持训练，早泄 的治愈率可达95％－97％。一般由女方来抚摸、刺激、挤捏才有效，由男方自己来做，效果就要 差得多。

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早泄的诊断与治疗

早泄是射精障碍中最常见的疾病，发病率占成人男性的35％一50％。尽管早泄的定义尚有争议，但通常以男性 的射精潜伏期或女性在性交中到达性高潮的频度来评价。男性在性交时失去控制射精的能力，阴茎插入阴道之前或 刚插入即射精可定义为早泄；女性在性交中到达性高潮的频度少于50％时，也可定义为早泄。由于男性的射精潜 伏期，受禁欲时间长短的影响，女性性高潮的发生频度，受身体状态、情感变化、周围环境等因素的影响，可以说 这种定义尚未完善。多数学者认为，男女双方中某一方对射精潜伏期过短而不能获得满意的性生活，或男性不能达 到足够长的射精潜伏期而不能获得满意的性生活，均可定义为早泄。
1．早泄的各种定义
1970年，Masters＆Johnson定义为：性交时射精持续时间，维持到能使配偶满足的频度，低于 50％为早泄。
1974年，Kaplan在世界卫生织织(WHO)定义为：由于男性缺乏随意调节射精的能力，以致不以所愿 地到达性高潮为早泄。
1984年，DSM-III-R定义为：不以所愿地阴茎插入阴道即射精，或在最小的性刺激下即射精为早泄。
1995年，Ertekin定义为：性交时射精持续时间，足以调节到能使配偶满足程度的频度低于50％为早 泄。
1996年，美国泌尿科学会(AUA)提议：男女双方中某性不能达到足够长的射精潜伏期，均可认为早泄 。
2．早泄的各种分类
方对射精潜伏期不满意，或男
(1)Shapiro(1943)：①A型(TypeA)，老年人，早泄伴有勃起障碍；②B型(TypeB )，年轻人，性欲和勃起功能正常而有早泄。
(2)Cooper(1969)：①I型(Typel)，青春期后，发生的原发性早泄，不伴有勃起障碍，但 有与心理性不安感有关的早泄；②H型(Typell)，勃起障碍和心理性不安有关连，突然发生早泄；③II I型(TypeIll)，心理性不安感虽不明显，却伴有性欲减退和勃起障碍而逐渐发生的早泄。 (3)Godpodinoff(1989)：①原发性早泄(primaryprematuree』acul ation)，是指自从首次性生活开始即有早泄；②继发性早泄(secondarypremature2j aculation)，是指过去曾有过正常射精功能的男性，以后逐渐出现早泄。
3．早泄的发病原因
(1)心理性原因：由于自罪感、不安感、丧失对性交的自信心等。
(2)器质性原因：由于阴茎感觉过敏或感觉神经兴奋性增高，射精中枢对阴茎感觉分辨功能失调引起。①包皮炎 、龟头炎、前列腺炎、精囊炎、尿道炎；②交感神经结损伤(骨盘骨折，腹部动脉瘤手术、后腹膜淋巴结根治术) ；③红细胞增多症；④毒品戒断综合征；⑤服用Despramin等药物；⑥末梢神经炎症、多发性神经炎；⑦ 慢性酒精中毒；⑧糖尿病；⑨动脉硬化等,C,gn管疾病。
4．早泄的临床检查与诊断
(1)病史：早泄可以通过询问病史容易诊断。了解其发病原因，对治疗有一定的指导意义。经过面谈和对性生活 的调查，充分了解病情，利用精神心理个性检测法(MinnesotaMultiphasicPersona litylnventory，MMPl)、(SymptcmChecklist90Revision，S~ I．-90-R)等，进行精神心理学分析，有助于了解患者的精神心理状况，以便对症治疗。利用阴茎震动感感觉度测定法( penilebiothesiometry)来测定阴茎感觉度阈值变化，此法操作简单易行而无侵袭性，有助 于了解阴茎感觉度和感觉神经的功能。进行泌尿科常规检查和必要的室验室检查来判定有无包皮炎、龟头炎、前列 腺炎、精囊炎、尿道炎等其他诱发原因，以便X桩治疗。检查方法如下：可利用面谈或通过性功能评价询问表分析 。笔者利用中国早泄患者性评价表，对早泄患者的临床评估取得初步结果。早泄患者的性功能评价表 见表4。
(2)精神心理性各性检测法：①MinnesotaMultiphasicPersonality lnventory(MMPl)；②SymptomChecklist 90Revision(SCL-90-R)。
(3)阴茎震动感感觉度测定法：有助于分析病情，选择治疗手段，分析其疗效。
(4)阴茎背神经体性感觉诱发电位测定法：可用来临床研究和疗效观察。
(5)球海绵体反射潜伏期测定法：这项检查有助于神经性勃起障碍的分析。但因特异性较差，对早泄的分析仍有 待于进一步研究。
5．早泄的治疗
多数早泄患者为了延长射精潜伏期，在性交期间把思维转向其他方面如饮食、账单等来企图延缓射精潜伏期，或使 用避孕套、饮酒等方法。但这些方法效果均不佳，却常导致性欲减退、性快感障碍，甚至可引起勃起障碍，根本上 妨碍性感觉分辨能力，促使病情加重。所以，早泄的治疗应首先分析其发病原因，并据此选择适当的治疗方法。介 绍具体治疗方法如下。
(1)性感集中训练法(sensatefocusexerxise)：此法是以逐步增加对阴茎感觉的分辨能 力为前提的治疗手段，适用于因自罪感、不安感、丧失性生活的自信心等精神心理性原因引起的早泄治疗。早在1 955年，美国泌尿科医生Semans介绍了“停止—开始”法(stop—start)。此法长期以来被人 们忽视，后来经Masters＆Johnson加以改善，创立了性感集中训练的基本治疗方法。这种方法通过 拥抱、抚摸、按摩等触觉刺激的手段，来体验和享受性的快感，克服对性行为的恐惧心理，建立和恢复性的自然反 应，使用于治疗心理性勃起障碍和早泄。治疗期间应注意：只准许享受触觉带来的性快感而不准性交；通过增加配 偶的快感来取得自身快乐。具体操作可分为非生殖器性感集中训练和生殖器性感集中训练2个阶段。①非生殖器性 感集中训练——夫妻双方可在不受任何干扰的情况下，在密闭的环境中裸体进行非生殖器性感集中训练。要集中精 力，不谈一切与性治疗无关的事情，专心进行爱抚和体验，轮流爱抚对方的性感带以外的其他任何部位，重点体验 爱抚身体所带来的快感，以消除对性行为的恐惧、不安和压抑感，使夫妻双方树立信心和亲密感，自然而然地达到 性唤起。这一过程需要1—2周，其间不得性交。②生殖器性感集中训练——夫妻双方可以将爱抚的范围扩大到双 方的性感带，例如女性乳房或男性的外生殖器，但不准性交。当女方达到性唤起时，可用手触摸阴蒂或用手指轻柔 地伸入阴道内，女方可触摸阴囊或阴茎，若愿意也可进行口交。这一过程需1—2周，待效果巩固之后，即可试图 性交。
(2)阴茎挤捏疗法(squeezetechnique)：早泄的发病原因主要是阴茎感觉过敏。此法即可以 提高阴茎的感觉阈值，以提高阴茎对刺激的耐受能力和延缓及控制射精的能力来治疗早泄。操作方法：性感集中训 练法中生殖器性感集中训练阶段，通过女方对男性阴茎的刺激，提高阴茎的感觉阈值。男方取仰卧位，把注意力集 中到体验由女方刺激阴茎的感觉上。女方坐在男方旁边或两腿之间，轻柔地抚摸阴茎，使阴茎勃起，当男方感到高 度兴奋，将要射精时，可示意女方停止刺激，并用双手大拇指放置于阴茎头的腹侧冠状沟，其余四指放在阴茎背侧 面，用力捏紧15—20s。这种捏挤效果是抑制射精反射，有时可引起阴茎疲软。此法反复3次，第4次刺激时 即可射精。这种挤捏技术也可用于性交中，开始采用刺激较弱的女方上位性交姿势，当男方感到高度兴奋，将要射 精时，可示意女方迅速脱离男方，并采用挤捏技术，待男方射精感缓解后再次反复进行。美国性医学家Kapla n在1989年报告性感集中训练法对早泄治疗有90％成功率，但目前对这种疗效仍有争论，有报告其成功率低 于35％，而且此法由于需要女方长期密切合作，不少病人因为难于遵循训练规则而常失败。
(3)口服药物治疗
(4)阴茎海绵体药物注射疗法：有实验报告，在阴茎海面体内注射血管扩张剂(papav—erine，ph entolamine，prostaglandineH等)，以治疗早泄，虽然早泄依然存在，但是射精后阴 茎勃起可以维持一定的时间，对提高配偶的性生活满足度有所帮助。此法对勃起功能正常的年轻人，有诱发持续性 阴茎勃起(prapism)的危险性，应予慎用。
(5)阴茎假体植入术：在阴茎勃起障碍伴有早泄的患者中，施行阴茎假体植入术者有50％报告早泄好转，其他 50％患者早泄依然存在，但是射精后也可以维持阴茎勃起，对提高配偶的性生活满足度有所帮助。但是，阴茎假 体植入术价格昂贵，可根据经济情况酌情选择。
(6)阴茎背神经矫形术：最近利用阴茎背神经矫形术治疗早泄在一些国家试用，其治疗效果虽然在一定程度上被 认定，其安全性和有效性仍有待于研究。具体手术方法是，在阴茎背部冠状沟皮肤上做横切1—2cm，剥离筋膜 暴露放射状分布的阴茎背神经，除中心部神经分支以外，将逐个切去0．5—1．0cm长度，缝合 切口。
(7)局部表皮涂药：有几种制剂如喷雾剂和软膏剂用于治疗早泄。这些制剂的主成分为局部麻醉药(9．6％l idocainespray，pilocaine-lidocainecream等)，性交前涂在阴茎龟头，通过局部麻醉作用来延缓射精潜伏期。但是，这些制 剂缺乏正规的临床实验结果，而且由于药物含量过高，引起局部麻醉效应过强，常导致性快感障碍，或阴茎勃起障 碍。也由于药物作用时间过短而常趋于失败。SS-cream是利用生药提取的有效成分而按照严格的制剂规范制成的新药，该药可以提高阴茎感觉阈值，降低感觉 神经兴奋性，并能增加阴茎血流量而有助于勃起。对53名原发性早泄患者进行，伪药对照，随机投药，二重双盲 ，多剂量SS-cream安全性有效性的临床实验结果，半数有效剂量(ED-，，)为Ss．cream 0．枫／次，临床有效剂量为SS-cream0．2沙次。而且，对早泄合并轻度勃起障碍的患者也有效，临床有效率达84％，平均射精潜伏期延 长到11．4min。此药是利用生药成分制成，药理作用平稳持久而安全有效。除轻度局部灼热感外，无性感障 碍或勃起障碍等全身性副作用。使用方法是SS-cream0．2g在性交前涂在阴茎龟头，性交前洗去。此药药效持久达1—2h，不受性交时间的限制。

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有益性功能的维生素与矿物质

众所周知，维生素是人体代谢中必不可少的“生物活性物质”，有些维生素与性功能还有着密切的关系。而且，这 些维生素在人体中贮存量很少或没有贮存，常常出现不足或缺乏，故应注意从食物中摄取。
　　
　　维生素B1：具有维持神经系统（包括植物神经）功能正常的重要作用，能预防和辅助治疗阳痿、早泄等症状 。含维生素B1丰富的食物有谷类、豆类、酵母、干果、硬果、山芋、马铃薯、动物内脏、瘦肉等。
　　
　　维生素B5：可增强性兴奋与性高潮。含维生素B5丰富的食物有菇类，萝卜、花椰菜、豌豆、 胡椒等。
　　
　　维生素B6：可促进性激素的分泌。含维生素B6丰富的食物有香蕉、栗子、山芋、葡萄干、菠 菜等。
　　
　　维生素E：能增强肾上腺皮质的功能，增加类固醇激素的合成，从而使性激素增加，还能增加睾丸和卵巢的重 量，促进其功能，并具有一定延缓衰老的作用。含维生素E丰富的食物有谷物胚芽、葵花子、核桃、鸡蛋、麦胚油 及其它植物油脂等。
　　
　　维生素PP（尼克酸、烟酸）：能使皮肤血管扩张充血，增加性感，可治糙皮病。含维生素PP丰富的食物有 鲜鱼、大麦、虾、瘦牛肉等。
　　
　　有些矿物质对增强性机能、增加性感等有更重要的作用，如：
　　
　　锌：缺锌的人性机能低下，第二性征发育不全，血浆中的睾丸酮明显减少，前列腺的结构功能受影响。含锌丰 富的食物有牡蛎、瘦肉、鱼、芝麻、核桃等。
　　
　　猛：缺猛影响性功能和第二性征的发育，卵巢或睾丸发生退行性变化。含猛丰富的食物有甜菜、郑心菜、菠菜 、坚果、茶叶、咖啡等。
　　
　　钙：能维持肌肉、神经的正常兴奋性，使肌肉维持一定的紧张度，对预防早泄、阳痿等有一定的作用。含钙丰 富的食物有虾皮、小鱼（连骨）、海带、紫菜、瓜子、牛奶等。

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