Is there true love?

[TheSeeker]

While there is no lack of threads in this subsection of SBF.

Most however tells of sad, unfortunate experiences..

Hereby sharing a short 25 min video..

我想給我老公找個新的女朋友！

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PZYYT6uzkts

Not sure how many have seen this but I just felt like sharing this really touching video..

For bros and sis who needs a little reassurance, for those who needs a reason to draw some strength from.. to go on and believe..

Stay strong!

[dyelook]

there is true love, bro..
problem is will the love last till one enters coffin..;)

[Edyta]

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[Edyta]

plenty of infatuation yes
true love commonly exist between parent and child coz thats biology
romantic true love? v rare n v few thats why u see them featured prominently in newspapers etc cos well they are rare so its news worthy
most romantic love are conditional - if u still look gd, if u can earn enough, if this if tht.
personally i no longer believe or pursue this kinda "love"
then the mind can focus on other things in life tht can bring alot of happiness as well

[VielSpass]

True love must be abled to withstand all that life can throw to them

[TheSeeker]

there is true love, bro..
problem is will the love last till one enters coffin..;)

Thanks bro, I personally believe there is as well.

In my humble opinion, I think it takes both in a relationship/marriage to keep it going..

When one party falter, it doesn't help for the other to turn a blind eye or to back away.. ^^

[orangeproud]

plenty of infatuation yes
true love commonly exist between parent and child coz thats biology
romantic true love? v rare n v few thats why u see them featured prominently in newspapers etc cos well they are rare so its news worthy
most romantic love are conditional - if u still look gd, if u can earn enough, if this if tht.
personally i no longer believe or pursue this kinda "love"
then the mind can focus on other things in life tht can bring alot of happiness as well

Yes, rather take my mind to focus on other aspect of life that can bring a lot of happiness as well as peace rather to pursue those ' true love which will bring u disappointment & betrayal.

I believe true love does exist, but mostly in less developed countries or rural side, where poverty kick in, the couples will take care of each other even he/sh!e is handicapped or terminal ill, even donate their own organ to save their loved ones.

In developed & modernized country like Spore, everything evolve with money, even pursue studies, we r taught to study hard to earn more money not how to be a good moral better man. We spend our lifetime pursuing higher status, more money. People become more self centre, believing money can buy everything including relationship. Love is conditional between couples in this society, even friendship is conditional, most will want to make friend with those same family background or superior family background rather with those less-privilege.

[dyelook]

Thanks bro, I personally believe there is as well.

In my humble opinion, I think it takes both in a relationship/marriage to keep it going..

When one party falter, it doesn't help for the other to turn a blind eye or to back away.. ^^

true love for me is nothing.. you get it when someone admires you..
with so many temptation and women acknowlegdement in genders equal i think ETERNAL LOVE is the hardest to get nowadays.. and thats what i'm hoping to look for.. the problem is either you or your partner dies then only you truly finds it..;)

just follow the flow & enjoy it while it last.. ;)

[TheSeeker]

plenty of infatuation yes
true love commonly exist between parent and child coz thats biology
romantic true love? v rare n v few thats why u see them featured prominently in newspapers etc cos well they are rare so its news worthy
most romantic love are conditional - if u still look gd, if u can earn enough, if this if tht.
personally i no longer believe or pursue this kinda "love"
then the mind can focus on other things in life tht can bring alot of happiness as well

Hi Sis,

Infatuation in my opinion is like the bud of love..
Nurture it with sunlight, water and the right kind of nutrition and it just might blossom..

While biological love is usually deem as unconditional, it derives from biological blood ties. There are some instances when parental love stops after having found out the kid isn't his/her as well. It's just 2 sides of the coin I suppose.

Yes, true love is rare not because it does not exists but because it requires meeting the right person under the right circumstances and both has to have/believe in the same objective.

And yes, if a relationship is based solely on good looks, wealth etc, it is conditional.

Of which good looks in my opinion is the most superficial because beauty fades in time. How many ah peks/ah mahs still looks good past 60s..?
Of course I don't mean to go for someone you can't stand looking at, just as long as he/she is presentable and 顺眼
At the end of the day, it is who stays on by your side and not who doesn't but looks good in him/her 20s, 30s etc..

As for wealth, 生不带来，死不带去.
For bros or sis who believes in flaunting wealth as a lure, I used to do that and think likewise too. It might feel good getting the attention of a drop dead gorgeous babe but if you decide to settle down, would you marry him/her.. Ask yourself if you are willing to lead your life with someone who puts on a mask and is only there for the money..
At the end of the day, what self worth is there if the only reason why I have someone by my side at my deathbed is because of the money which I am about to leave behind..

Just my 2 cents worth but sis I hope someday you'll meet your Mr Right too.. ^^

[orangeproud]

true love for me is nothing.. you get it when someone admires you..
with so many temptation and women acknowlegdement in genders equal i think ETERNAL LOVE is the hardest to get nowadays.. and thats what i'm hoping to look for.. the problem is either you or your partner dies then only you truly finds it..;)

just follow the flow & enjoy it while it last.. ;)

Especially with so many temptation & variety of different trees in a forest. Guy are taught "won't or dun give up whole forest because of a single tree".:D

[TheSeeker]

True love must be abled to withstand all that life can throw to them

Yea bro...

http://asia.elliottback.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/01/cute-old-couple.jpg

Behind each loving photo of aged couples, lies untold sacrifices..

Beyond the test of time, standing true through life's trials and tribulations..

[TheSeeker]

true love for me is nothing.. you get it when someone admires you..
with so many temptation and women acknowlegdement in genders equal i think ETERNAL LOVE is the hardest to get nowadays.. and thats what i'm hoping to look for.. the problem is either you or your partner dies then only you truly finds it..;)

just follow the flow & enjoy it while it last.. ;)

For love to be eternal, it has to first be true..
Next comes all the effort towards maintaining it that way..

Just my thoughts..
If someone is there for a specific reason, example for money.. The moment you have lost all of it, you lose all of your appeal..

It doesn't necessarily has to be death.. Conditional love shakes at the sight of the smallest sign of trouble..

[dyelook]

For love to be eternal, it has to first be true..
Next comes all the effort towards maintaining it that way..

Just my thoughts..
If someone is there for a specific reason, example for money.. The moment you have lost all of it, you lose all of your appeal..

It doesn't necessarily has to be death.. Conditional love shakes at the sight of the smallest sign of trouble..

hmmm... yup..

true love... just hope you do find it someday...;)

[TheSeeker]

Especially with so many temptation & variety of different trees in a forest. Guy are taught "won't or dun give up whole forest because of a single tree".:D

Hi Sis,
Yay I got it right this time.. lol

Temptations are always there but that is what makes us human.

The difference is meeting the right person at the right time under the right circumstances.

While there are guys who won't or dun give up whole forest because of a single tree.. There are also guys who are in the forest trying to find that single tree.

Having someone to settle down, to love and to hold doesn't sound like such a bad thing..

At different phases in life, personal agenda does change.. :)

[Edyta]

Yes, rather take my mind to focus on other aspect of life that can bring a lot of happiness as well as peace rather to pursue those ' true love which will bring u disappointment & betrayal.

I believe true love does exist, but mostly in less developed countries or rural side, where poverty kick in, the couples will take care of each other even he/sh!e is handicapped or terminal ill, even donate their own organ to save their loved ones.

In developed & modernized country like Spore, everything evolve with money, even pursue studies, we r taught to study hard to earn more money not how to be a good moral better man. We spend our lifetime pursuing higher status, more money. People become more self centre, believing money can buy everything including relationship. Love is conditional between couples in this society, even friendship is conditional, most will want to make friend with those same family background or superior family background rather with those less-privilege.

in a village, its a simple life. community is tightly knitted. its a different world out in the city. there were more of true love stories fr our grandparents era

[TheSeeker]

hmmm... yup..

true love... just hope you do find it someday...;)

Lol thanks bro..

I started this thread only because I hope it gives bros and sis who has lost that faith some strength..

I sincerely hope you'll find your eternal love too. :)

[Edyta]

Hi Sis,

Infatuation in my opinion is like the bud of love..
Nurture it with sunlight, water and the right kind of nutrition and it just might blossom..

While biological love is usually deem as unconditional, it derives from biological blood ties. There are some instances when parental love stops after having found out the kid isn't his/her as well. It's just 2 sides of the coin I suppose.

Yes, true love is rare not because it does not exists but because it requires meeting the right person under the right circumstances and both has to have/believe in the same objective.

And yes, if a relationship is based solely on good looks, wealth etc, it is conditional.

Of which good looks in my opinion is the most superficial because beauty fades in time. How many ah peks/ah mahs still looks good past 60s..?
Of course I don't mean to go for someone you can't stand looking at, just as long as he/she is presentable and 顺眼
At the end of the day, it is who stays on by your side and not who doesn't but looks good in him/her 20s, 30s etc..

As for wealth, 生不带来，死不带去.
For bros or sis who believes in flaunting wealth as a lure, I used to do that and think likewise too. It might feel good getting the attention of a drop dead gorgeous babe but if you decide to settle down, would you marry him/her.. Ask yourself if you are willing to lead your life with someone who puts on a mask and is only there for the money..
At the end of the day, what self worth is there if the only reason why I have someone by my side at my deathbed is because of the money which I am about to leave behind..

Just my 2 cents worth but sis I hope someday you'll meet your Mr Right too.. ^^

everytime i ask a single guy friend what kinda wife he want? he would say all the above n most impt gd character, compatible, presentable. then i say hey why don't u consider A, B n C? he would say no la A too fat, B too tall, C so flat chest n face so ugly. to a guy looks isv impt.

ask a gal friend the same she would say. then i say why dont she consider X, Y n Z? she would say no la X is too poor, Y is boring n no career prospect n Z is stingy n would never buy her an LV bag. to a gal financials is v impt

infatuation can start only aft these conditions are met 1st.

[TheSeeker]

I believe true love does exist, but mostly in less developed countries or rural side, where poverty kick in, the couples will take care of each other even he/she is handicapped or terminal ill, even donate their own organ to save their loved ones.

I agree with the settings Sis..

That's why I think flaunting beauty/wealth only serves to lure unwanted attention.. It is only true when the other has nothing to gain yet chooses to stand true.

In developed & modernized country like Spore, everything evolve with money, even pursue studies, we r taught to study hard to earn more money not how to be a good moral better man. We spend our lifetime pursuing higher status, more money. People become more self centre, believing money can buy everything including relationship. Love is conditional between couples in this society, even friendship is conditional, most will want to make friend with those same family background or superior family background rather with those less-privilege.

Trust me.. Even with money, it brings a lot of headaches.

Some examples..
"should i tell her the truth or pretend I am just another white-collar working class..?"
"but what if she knows and is there only for my money..?"
"would she leave if I pretended that all my businesses failed and I owe large amount of debts..?"
"should I sell my car and test her..?"
"but what if she is true and gets angry over what I did..?"

[dyelook]

Hi Sis,
Yay I got it right this time.. lol

comfirm 100% right?:p
if you survey orangeproud past post then maybe youll not think youre right this time..;)

[orangeproud]

everytime i ask a single guy friend what kinda wife he want? he would say all the above n most impt gd character, compatible, presentable. then i say hey why don't u consider A, B n C? he would say no la A too fat, B too tall, C so flat chest n face so ugly. to a guy looks isv impt.

ask a gal friend the same she would say. then i say why dont she consider X, Y n Z? she would say no la X is too poor, Y is boring n no career prospect n Z is stingy n would never buy her an LV bag. to a gal financials is v impt

infatuation can start only aft these conditions are met 1st.

Totally agree, raise my both hands & legs to agree. To a guy, they prefer gals with pretty face, good figures & at the same time has good characters. Is rare & difficult to find such a gem, so they compromise themselves choosing look over character then end up divorce, then they repeated the vicious cycle again & again.

For gals, they look for someone who is financial stronger background, athletic or fit, humorous, romantic, caring & loyal type.....but normally those family-oriented, loyal, faithful good husband type is those boring, serious, frugal type. Soon, they tired of this boring life, looking for more exciting world outside. So, is hard to have best of both world, but humans are greedy creatures, nvr content with what they have.

Anyway, nobody is perfect. If u are a perfectionist in marriage life, u will get disappointed.

[TheSeeker]

everytime i ask a single guy friend what kinda wife he want? he would say all the above n most impt gd character, compatible, presentable. then i say hey why don't u consider A, B n C? he would say no la A too fat, B too tall, C so flat chest n face so ugly. to a guy looks isv impt.

Hmm, I can't really comment on that..
Personally I like her to be feminine, pleasant and not overbearing, a little blur/silly.. Lol, I like to play the pampering and doting role.. It's just me..

As for the looks department, as long as she is presentable, that is what I mean by 顺眼.. has got nothing to do with her physique, cup size etc.. Lol, in fact I prefer her not to be too pretty..

Drop dead gorgeous babe attracts a lot of attention.. And with attention comes the competition..

ask a gal friend the same she would say. then i say why dont she consider X, Y n Z? she would say no la X is too poor, Y is boring n no career prospect n Z is stingy n would never buy her an LV bag. to a gal financials is v impt

infatuation can start only aft these conditions are met 1st.

Finances, society standings, careers does bring along security..
It makes sense that girls prioritize these as prerequisites.

Maybe it is just me but I dislike feeling like a piece of meat dangling in the market when people are poking and prodding me trying to assess if I make the cut..

From a guy's perspective, I think it is important to hold back and not reveal one's true net worth unless I think she is the right person because it helps to distinguish those who are suitable from the ones who are not.. :)

[dyelook]

Totally agree, raise my both hands & legs to agree. To a guy, they prefer gals with pretty face, good figures & at the same time has good characters. Is rare & difficult to find such a gem, so they compromise themselves choosing look over character then end up divorce, then they repeated the vicious cycle again & again.

For gals, they look for someone who is financial stronger background, athletic or fit, humorous, romantic, caring & loyal type.....but normally those family-oriented, loyal, faithful good husband type is those boring, serious, frugal type. Soon, they tired of this boring life, looking for more exciting world outside. So, is hard to have best of both world, but humans are greedy creatures, nvr content with what they have.

Anyway, nobody is perfect. If u are a perfectionist in marriage life, u will get disappointed.

blame it on the media...:p;)

[TheSeeker]

comfirm 100% right?:p
if you survey orangeproud past post then maybe youll not think youre right this time..;)

Lol Bro, :eek:

I thought orange says she is a girl on the other thread? :confused:

[dyelook]

Lol Bro, :eek:

I thought orange says she is a girl on the other thread? :confused:

if theres a normination.for the most blur samster of the year award then i'll surely norminate you...:p;)

[orangeproud]

I agree with the settings Sis..

That's why I think flaunting beauty/wealth only serves to lure unwanted attention.. It is only true when the other has nothing to gain yet chooses to stand true.



Trust me.. Even with money, it brings a lot of headaches.

Some examples..
"should i tell her the truth or pretend I am just another white-collar working class..?"
"but what if she knows and is there only for my money..?"
"would she leave if I pretended that all my businesses failed and I owe large amount of debts..?"
"should I sell my car and test her..?"
"but what if she is true and gets angry over what I did..?"

Of course, I believe & agree that money brings in more headache. If a love or relationship is built or based on monetary, it is definitely not true love, just a transaction, but guys sometimes are self deceiving creatures, psycho themselves although they know the gals love their wealth more than his person, psycho them the gals will one day touch by them & fall in love with them....blah.....etc.

[orangeproud]

Lol Bro, :eek:

I thought orange says she is a girl on the other thread? :confused:

If I say I'm not a gal, would u get disappointed?;)

Hee........just kidding, dun mind pls.:p

[TheSeeker]

Totally agree, raise my both hands & legs to agree. To a guy, they prefer gals with pretty face, good figures & at the same time has good characters. Is rare & difficult to find such a gem, so they compromise themselves choosing look over character then end up divorce, then they repeated the vicious cycle again & again.

Hmm, hi sis/bro.. :p

I don't know if you will agree with this but a pretty face fades away and a good figure sags with time.. Beauty is not only skin deep but it is also temporary..

Because I accept this as an undeniable fact, therefore in my opinion looks is not of the utmost importance..

For gals, they look for someone who is financial stronger background, athletic or fit, humorous, romantic, caring & loyal type.....but normally those family-oriented, loyal, faithful good husband type is those boring, serious, frugal type. Soon, they tired of this boring life, looking for more exciting world outside. So, is hard to have best of both world, but humans are greedy creatures, nvr content with what they have.

Anyway, nobody is perfect. If u are a perfectionist in marriage life, u will get disappointed.

Well said.. That's the competition which I dread the most..

For example if a guy have a few millions in savings, a steady job, owns side businesses, a luxury car and his own place but she meets someone who has 10 times of what the guy is worth.. Imagine that kind of temptation..

Regardless of how well-off one is, there is plenty of others who are financially stronger.. So gold diggers are definitely out..

[TheSeeker]

if theres a normination.for the most blur samster of the year award then i'll surely norminate you...:p;)

LOL! thank you ah bro!

Different mah, I never go look, see others profile mah..

If I say I'm not a gal, would u get disappointed?;)

Hee........just kidding, dun mind pls.:p

Nope, why would I be disappointed..

Lol, it doesn't matter to me if you are a bro or a sis..
I am glad just to be friends.. ^^

By the way, I really enjoy the views exchange.. helps me to see things from different perspectives.. ^^

[korean]

My definition of true love not necessary to be eternity. If you truly love a person, you would want him or her to be happy, so it not necessary for him or her to be with you forever. To me true love should not be selfish. I guess it maybe debatable whether true love should be selfish or not.

Parent love is conditional. You want your children to be nice to you and listen to you yeah? Then it is conditional. If your children don't love you n and wanna eat up all your property n money n you still love him or her, then I would say it is unconditional.

I guess almost anything is conditional in this world...

[TheSeeker]

My definition of true love not necessary to be eternity. If you truly love a person, you would want him or her to be happy, so it not necessary for him or her to be with you forever. To me true love should not be selfish. I guess it maybe debatable whether true love should be selfish or not.

Interesting... I didn't think there would be a bro/sis who thinks the same way..

Many years ago, I used to feel the same way towards someone..

For a long time, it didn't matter to me that she was someone else's..
Just as long as she is happy..

14 years after, the love I once had for her no longer feels the same..
Yes, I still do hope she is happy but the way I felt for her is no longer there..

Had I really loved her? I would like to think so.. but I do not know for sure..

[korean]

It is funny to wait till one party to die in order to prove whether it is true love. How if one has short life span? Easier target to achieve. Does that mean we need to wait till we or out parent pass away then at that instance then can confirm and chop whether it is true love?

Interesting... I didn't think there would be a bro/sis who thinks the same way..

Many years ago, I used to feel the same way towards someone..

For a long time, it didn't matter to me that she was someone else's..
Just as long as she is happy..

14 years after, the love I once had for her no longer feels the same..
Yes, I still do hope she is happy but the way I felt for her is no longer there..

Had I really loved her? I would like to think so.. but I do not know for sure..

[dyelook]

Timed
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it will eventually flames out once money gets in the way... reality mah..;)

[senters89]

Timed
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it will eventually flames out once money gets in the way... reality mah..;)
"it will eventually flames out once money gets in the way... reality mah..;)"
Give you 1 LIKE la brother.

[maxsee]

True love is usually possible if both of you are at a very young age.....As you grows older, you have a tendency to become more selfish. That is when true love becomes harder and harder to find. Coz your love for yourself usually supersede your love for others.

Other than that, most of the parents out there can give true love to their own kids.....:D:D:D

[leakypipes]

True love changes. Takes different shapes. But like all kinds of relationship things - requires effort on both sidesm

[Edyta]

Hmm, I can't really comment on that..
Personally I like her to be feminine, pleasant and not overbearing, a little blur/silly.. Lol, I like to play the pampering and doting role.. It's just me..

As for the looks department, as long as she is presentable, that is what I mean by 顺眼.. has got nothing to do with her physique, cup size etc.. Lol, in fact I prefer her not to be too pretty..

Drop dead gorgeous babe attracts a lot of attention.. And with attention comes the competition..



Finances, society standings, careers does bring along security..
It makes sense that girls prioritize these as prerequisites.

Maybe it is just me but I dislike feeling like a piece of meat dangling in the market when people are poking and prodding me trying to assess if I make the cut..

From a guy's perspective, I think it is important to hold back and not reveal one's true net worth unless I think she is the right person because it helps to distinguish those who are suitable from the ones who are not.. :)

6 conditions on on your dream gal!
u said it yourself haha
I would have a hard time if i am your matchmaker

as for the fear of her being a gold digger - just find a woman richer than u then problem solved but u wld be subjected to her conditions as well

terms n conditions always apply! both men n women are all looking for the best possible deal they can get

[orangeproud]

True love is usually possible if both of you are at a very young age.....As you grows older, you have a tendency to become more selfish. That is when true love becomes harder and harder to find. Coz your love for yourself usually supersede your love for others.

Other than that, most of the parents out there can give true love to their own kids.....:D:D:D

The love that starts at a very young age when we r still naive is pure pure puppy love.

When we getting more mature, we become more selfish & self-centered, calculate the profit & loss of everything including relationship, we dun wan to be a loser in any aspects of life.

[orangeproud]

[QUOTE=TheSeeker;13301097]Hmm, I can't really comment on that..
Personally I like her to be feminine, pleasant and not overbearing, a little blur/silly.. Lol, I like to play the pampering and doting role.. It's just me..

As for the looks department, as long as she is presentable, that is what I mean by 顺眼.. has got nothing to do with her physique, cup size etc.. Lol, in fact I prefer her not to be too pretty..

Bro, I feel that some women may not that type pretty but somehow she has charisma look in her, and charisma won't faded with age. They have those charm in them that the more we look at her, the more shun yan she is, this type of woman I admire. Whereas, some women u may see her very pretty initially but belong to bu nai kan type.

Your standard of shun yan type maybe is someone like Linda Chung or Jeanette Aw which is quite out of reach?

But I believe when genuinely fall in love with someone, it is the feeling or chemistry that count most, at that time look may be secondary factor.

True love ah! True love! Does it exist? Maybe? I think just talk abt faithfulness before qualify to talk abt true love? How many of us can stay faithfulness with one & only love throughout your whole life???:rolleyes:;)

[sixnine696900]

Bro,
In my humble opinion, there are not true love, but there is true happiness....:)
True love is the the opposite of true bliss......LOVE is to give.......and give and give................... the rest is for its selfish reasons.....optimal love is give and take.......BUT...and is a big but.... you .have to find the right soul mate.....hahahaha..............:D
Seriously, if not found the soul mate....you end up giving more than you get back.


Cheers.

[TheSeeker]

It is funny to wait till one party to die in order to prove whether it is true love. How if one has short life span? Easier target to achieve. Does that mean we need to wait till we or out parent pass away then at that instance then can confirm and chop whether it is true love?

It doesn't necessarily has to be death.. Conditional love shakes at the sight of the smallest sign of trouble..

Hi Bro,

I don't think it is necessary for true love to prove itself through death.. On the contrary, would it not already be too late..?

It is not easier either if a person has a shorter life span.. Because departures are always rarely easy..

[TheSeeker]

6 conditions on on your dream gal!
u said it yourself haha
I would have a hard time if i am your matchmaker


Lol, Sis playing as matchmaker. Sis, why not share with me what do you seek for in a guy so I can keep an eye out for you too.. ^^


Please do allow me to clarify a little on what I mean though..

Character Traits
Feminine = 小鸟依人, 小女人 types
At the end of the day, I would like that support she can lean and count on
Pleasant and not overbearing
An overbearing person in my opinion is someone who imposes his/her thoughts forcibly across.. Negotiating is fine though..
A little blur/silly
Lol, I like to play the pampering and doting role.. It's just me..
Presentable = 得体 = 顺眼
This has got nothing to do with looks because in my opinion, the prettiest chiobu is a turnoff if she acts like a spoilt brat in public or in front of family and friends.
Not a gold digger
Money in my opinion is secondary, I am perfectly capable of earning more. Besides money earn is to be spent anyway.. However I can't accept it if that is the basis why she chose me.. At least there has to be some feel involved?

It does not matter if she looks good or average because that fades in time.
It does not matter her physique or cup size because is only temporary.

It only matter for her to at least have some of the qualities I seek because I know what makes me tick. I would like to devote my heart and fall deeply in love one last time..

For someone who has been drifting for such a long time, there is a part of me longing to settle down someday as well..

as for the fear of her being a gold digger - just find a woman richer than u then problem solved but u wld be subjected to her conditions as well

terms n conditions always apply! both men n women are all looking for the best possible deal they can get

Lol Sis, actually there was a period in my life when I was pretty close to a super rich girl.
But no, it didn't work out that way for me..

As for the best possible deal, I am not interested in that really.. I rather find a right deal.. :)

[TheSeeker]

Timed
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it will eventually flames out once money gets in the way... reality mah..;)

Lol Bro, money is subjective I guess..

For me money is secondary, money earn is to be spent anyway.. But if it is the only reason why she chose me then I rather not..

1 or 2 high end LV bags a year is still acceptable for me but if her taste is like 1 or 2 high end Hermes bags a year then jialat.. lol

[TheSeeker]

True love is usually possible if both of you are at a very young age.....As you grows older, you have a tendency to become more selfish. That is when true love becomes harder and harder to find. Coz your love for yourself usually supersede your love for others.

Other than that, most of the parents out there can give true love to their own kids.....:D:D:D

Sigh bro.. true love at a young age has past a long time ago for me..
I don't really love myself though but that is a long story by itself..

True love changes. Takes different shapes. But like all kinds of relationship things - requires effort on both sidesm

Agreed bro, well said..


When we getting more mature, we become more selfish & self-centered, calculate the profit & loss of everything including relationship, we dun wan to be a loser in any aspects of life.

In a way bro, I think a relationship should not be like how we manage our businesses/work.

P&L margins shouldn't be calculated or taken into consideration in a relationship.
It shouldn't be who gives more and receives less..
Because if we do that, the relationship will feeling like a transaction..

[TheSeeker]

Your standard of shun yan type maybe is someone like Linda Chung or Jeanette Aw which is quite out of reach?

Lol, no lah Bro.. 顺眼 in my opinion, is how she carries herself..
I used to have super chio female friends but honestly even the prettiest chiobu is a turnoff when she acts like a spoilt brat in public or in front of family and friends.. No idea how to describe that :rolleyes: feeling..

But I believe when genuinely fall in love with someone, it is the feeling or chemistry that count most, at that time look may be secondary factor.

Precisely, that's the same way I feel bro.. 2 people being comfortable in one another's company..

True love ah! True love! Does it exist? Maybe? I think just talk abt faithfulness before qualify to talk abt true love? How many of us can stay faithfulness with one & only love throughout your whole life???:rolleyes:;)

Do you still remember how we met?
I hijacked Sis's thread, got carried away and started blabbering about my ex-gf..

Not trying to blame her or anything but her departure did cause a void in my heart.. I don't know if I can stay/remain faithful but deep inside there is a part of me which yearns to settle down someday too..

While there is this large forest out here, some might just be wandering around waiting for that one tree..

Lol, I better stop here.. Else I might just go on and on...

[TheSeeker]

BUT...and is a big but.... you .have to find the right soul mate.....Cheers.

Yea Bro, hopefully someday I'd heal and stumble on Miss Right.. lol

[archer69]

True love don't exists in this earth anymore.

As time goes by people are becoming more selfish, greedy for power and money, no contentment.

[Atta]

What is true love? Is love that lasts for few years/months/weeks/days any lesser than love that is proclaimed to be "everlasting"?

If you have loved once, I believe you would have at least found true love once. Whether the feelings fade over time, that, I guess is more of change of heart. Fact remains true love once existed.

In short, I do think there is true love. Everlasting love, however, is another issue althogether.My 2 cents.

[korean]

What is true love? Is love that lasts for few years/months/weeks/days any lesser than love that is proclaimed to be "everlasting"?

If you have loved once, I believe you would have at least found true love once. Whether the feelings fade over time, that, I guess is more of change of heart. Fact remains true love once existed.

In short, I do think there is true love. Everlasting love, however, is another issue althogether.My 2 cents.

same understanding :)

probably take titanic as a case study. do bro/sis think it is true love? everlasting?

[Edyta]

Lol, Sis playing as matchmaker. Sis, why not share with me what do you seek for in a guy so I can keep an eye out for you too.. ^^


Please do allow me to clarify a little on what I mean though..

Character Traits
Feminine = 小鸟依人, 小女人 types
At the end of the day, I would like that support she can lean and count on
Pleasant and not overbearing
An overbearing person in my opinion is someone who imposes his/her thoughts forcibly across.. Negotiating is fine though..
A little blur/silly
Lol, I like to play the pampering and doting role.. It's just me..
Presentable = 得体 = 顺眼
This has got nothing to do with looks because in my opinion, the prettiest chiobu is a turnoff if she acts like a spoilt brat in public or in front of family and friends.
Not a gold digger
Money in my opinion is secondary, I am perfectly capable of earning more. Besides money earn is to be spent anyway.. However I can't accept it if that is the basis why she chose me.. At least there has to be some feel involved?

It does not matter if she looks good or average because that fades in time.
It does not matter her physique or cup size because is only temporary.

It only matter for her to at least have some of the qualities I seek because I know what makes me tick. I would like to devote my heart and fall deeply in love one last time..

For someone who has been drifting for such a long time, there is a part of me longing to settle down someday as well..



Lol Sis, actually there was a period in my life when I was pretty close to a super rich girl.
But no, it didn't work out that way for me..

As for the best possible deal, I am not interested in that really.. I rather find a right deal.. :)

Most women love to play the feminine role n enjoys the masculinity of a man. They long for their man to protect, give them security. In return, they want to show their feminine side by cooking n caring for their man. This is nature, we are biologically like this since cavemen time.
From your expectations, I can safely say u would have no prb finding your dream gal. Men have the advantage of time, from 18 to 80 or even older, you can still get women any age tho most prefer 18 to 30 range. All the best, rem to come back here to announce when you are in love ;-)

As for me, no need to help la. my romance life is over, dead, end of life. But i am not pathetic, I enjoy all other aspects in full, my career (v thankful to my boss n firm), family (awesome love), great friends (very blessed) n my sports n hobbies. I am very very contented already, and living in peace, must thank heaven n karma cannot ask for more :-)
thanks for offering your help tho!

[Edyta]

True love don't exists in this earth anymore.

As time goes by people are becoming more selfish, greedy for power and money, no contentment.

not the pure selfless type. extinct already.

its the realistic type
each bring their offers onto the table, usually men give security, women give feminity. their life together is better than being alone, mutually beneficial.

[JuzKaypoh]

I do think that true love do exist but requires a lot of efforts and work on both parties to make it work. Is just a matter of how many of us are willing to do all these.

There are examples around but just maybe unheard of or sometimes we choose to ignore due to all the negativity surrounding us.

[lanpar]

True love starts with oneself.

[TheSeeker]

In return, they want to show their feminine side by cooking n caring for their man.

From your expectations, I can safely say u would have no prb finding your dream gal. Men have the advantage of time, from 18 to 80 or even older, you can still get women any age tho most prefer 18 to 30 range. All the best, rem to come back here to announce when you are in love ;-)

Maybe you are an exception but nowadays most girls can't cook sis..
I don't mind doing the cooking instead.. And yes, it is edible.. I used to make her breakfast in bed.. cook her fav dishes when she comes over..
But that's besides the point..

Nah, that announcement would never happen.. We are alike in that sense, as you have mentioned below.. ^^

As for me, no need to help la. my romance life is over, dead, end of life. But i am not pathetic, I enjoy all other aspects in full, my career (v thankful to my boss n firm), family (awesome love), great friends (very blessed) n my sports n hobbies. I am very very contented already, and living in peace, must thank heaven n karma cannot ask for more :-)
thanks for offering your help tho!

not the pure selfless type. extinct already.

its the realistic type
each bring their offers onto the table, usually men give security, women give feminity. their life together is better than being alone, mutually beneficial.

Selfless love was probably killed by people we have once willingly given it to..

Even the realistic kind has lost it appeal..

[TheSeeker]

I do think that true love do exist but requires a lot of efforts and work on both parties to make it work. Is just a matter of how many of us are willing to do all these.

There are examples around but just maybe unheard of or sometimes we choose to ignore due to all the negativity surrounding us.

I believe it still exists too Bro..

At least it exists for those who have not been betrayed against by it..

As for those who have, it is an uphill battle trying to revive it again.. One can only endure this much agony.. Once it has past it's threshold, the human heart dies..

[JuzKaypoh]

I believe it still exists too Bro..

At least it exists for those who have not been betrayed against by it..

As for those who have, it is an uphill battle trying to revive it again.. One can only endure this much agony.. Once it has past it's threshold, the human heart dies..

First thing I guess you need to do is love yourself first before anything.

If you don't even heal or tend to the broken or numb part of you, nothing will come la.

PS: there are still loads of ladies who can cook la

[Edyta]

Maybe you are an exception but nowadays most girls can't cook sis..
I don't mind doing the cooking instead.. And yes, it is edible.. I used to make her breakfast in bed.. cook her fav dishes when she comes over..
But that's besides the point..

Nah, that announcement would never happen.. We are alike in that sense, as you have mentioned below.. ^l..

eh u sure or not still reminiscing cooking breakie for her?

[TheSeeker]

eh u sure or not still reminiscing cooking breakie for her?

Lol, Sis.. I wasn't reminiscing..

Just saying that I used to do it, that's all.. ^^

Then again, coming to think of it..
I really should disassociate things I say from her huh?

[Edyta]

Lol, Sis.. I wasn't reminiscing..

Just saying that I used to do it, that's all.. ^^

Then again, coming to think of it..
I really should disassociate things I say from her huh?

你中毒很深
To exorcise your past memories of her:
1. work n exercise n play every min n sleep n wakeup n repeat - this u have tried n once u run into her u think of her again - method failed but gd news is u have other successes

2. find a rebound relationship - this is proven to work even by therapist u can try. but u cannot fall in love or else double whammy. as to how to find one, u know better than i do no need to teach u.

3. let me use my kendo stick beat the hell outa u till u wake up.

#3 not recommended, risk of severe injuries is high

try #2 ? its different fr your other commercial experience.

[sunhuan-con]

I only believe parental loves are true and unconditional.

[TheSeeker]

你中毒很深

Wonder if I should sign up for those spa detox packages..
All the hype about 排毒 and stuff might just help.. :p

To exorcise your past memories of her:
1. work n exercise n play every min n sleep n wakeup n repeat - this u have tried n once u run into her u think of her again - method failed but gd news is u have other successes

Work - checked
Exercise - checked
Play - hmm, depends on what kind of play this is referring to.
Sleep/Wakeup - checked

Any suggestions what play should constitute of? It is some sort of hobby or ??

2. find a rebound relationship - this is proven to work even by therapist u can try. but u cannot fall in love or else double whammy. as to how to find one, u know better than i do no need to teach u.

This is probably the most difficult to achieve Sis.
I've heard about this rebound relationship thing but honestly have no idea how about getting into one.

Well, first of.. A rebound relationship is not a genuine one. Can't just walk up to a lady and ask if she would get into one with me. It's almost definitely gonna backfire.

Secondly, most female friends I have are old time friends. Known them for like 15-20 years and I hate to sour the friendship if things gets out of hand.

Lastly, I've heard like sometimes when people gets close together.. Feelings/emotions might come into play even when it was a known rebound relationship between both individuals.

3. let me use my kendo stick beat the hell outa u till u wake up.

#3 not recommended, risk of severe injuries is high

OMG, a kendo stick.. Can I make you a counter-proposal?

How about we swop that kendo stick with a softer object.. Like maybe a pillow/bolster? :p

try #2 ? its different fr your other commercial experience.

For #2 to work, I first must at least know of someone who is willing to fill and try out that role.

If there is even such a person, would you think if she would agree on the below?


I might fall in love with this person.
If she falls in love with me.
If the former happens, I hope she could at least give us a chance. And if it happened vice versa, I will honor it as well
I am the kind of person who relishes in showering her with love, care and stuff like how I would in a real relationship. Non-sexual manner.
Please do not panic.
If there is ever a day she decides to call it quits for whatever reason. Please do not end it merely with an sms.

[dyelook]

hmmmmm... i think sis edyta #2 is hinting for you to find a sb..;)

wanna open a thread? i bumpzz for you everyday..:p

[korean]

I felt without meeting true love at least once, life is not considered complete.

[PPGirl]

hmmmmm... i think sis edyta #2 is hinting for you to find a sb..;)

wanna open a thread? i bumpzz for you everyday..:p
i can help to bumpz too ;)

I felt without meeting true love at least once, life is not considered complete.

Agreed.

[Edyta]

Wonder if I should sign up for those spa detox packages..
All the hype about 排毒 and stuff might just help.. :p



Work - checked
Exercise - checked
Play - hmm, depends on what kind of play this is referring to.
Sleep/Wakeup - checked

Any suggestions what play should constitute of? It is some sort of hobby or ??



This is probably the most difficult to achieve Sis.
I've heard about this rebound relationship thing but honestly have no idea how about getting into one.

Well, first of.. A rebound relationship is not a genuine one. Can't just walk up to a lady and ask if she would get into one with me. It's almost definitely gonna backfire.

Secondly, most female friends I have are old time friends. Known them for like 15-20 years and I hate to sour the friendship if things gets out of hand.

Lastly, I've heard like sometimes when people gets close together.. Feelings/emotions might come into play even when it was a known rebound relationship between both individuals.



OMG, a kendo stick.. Can I make you a counter-proposal?

How about we swop that kendo stick with a softer object.. Like maybe a pillow/bolster? :p



For #2 to work, I first must at least know of someone who is willing to fill and try out that role.

If there is even such a person, would you think if she would agree on the below?


I might fall in love with this person.
If she falls in love with me.
If the former happens, I hope she could at least give us a chance. And if it happened vice versa, I will honor it as well
I am the kind of person who relishes in showering her with love, care and stuff like how I would in a real relationship. Non-sexual manner.
Please do not panic.
If there is ever a day she decides to call it quits for whatever reason. Please do not end it merely with an sms.


haha look like u already appointed me as your matchmaker, all the criteria there. Where am I to find u the candidate? lol
This one leave to other bros n sis help u!

I actually have a #4 option for u. This is a v wicked method n trial n tested by yours truly. 99.9% would work. Its called 以毒攻毒。 Just go back to your ex, restart the relationship from where u both left it. There is a 0.1% chance u can find bsck the woman u lost eons ago. Most likely you get the ah ha moment n WTF u go back to lather rinse repeat! Be warned its very painful ok. After the repeat cycle your brains n heart will be fully awakened. At that point you WILL leavr for good cos you are fully convinced the person you reminiscing day n night no longer exist. That image belongs to the past n will never be back again. Try at your own risk, don't come back n strangle me.

#2 still can try. like the bro n sis here says they will bumpz ur thread to find a candidate.

#1 play refers to focusing on something v intensely be it hobby or sports that u are fully immersed in it.

#3 Pillow fight ah u ask fr your candidate fr #2 lor

[Edyta]

hmmmmm... i think sis edyta #2 is hinting for you to find a sb..;)

wanna open a thread? i bumpzz for you everyday..:p

what is a sb? sex buddy?
he needs a TLC buddy no?

[dyelook]

what is a sb? sex buddy?
he needs a TLC buddy no?

sugar babe/baby...:p

[TheSeeker]

hmmmmm... i think sis edyta #2 is hinting for you to find a sb..;)

wanna open a thread? i bumpzz for you everyday..:p

i can help to bumpz too ;)

Lol Bro and Sis, I think you know what those SB are for..

I might be wrong but that #2 role sound like a total mismatch for any of them.

First of, I think maturity plays an important role here.
I have neither the time, energy nor interest running around with those 小妹妹s. Age does matter when priorities are totally different.

Secondly, SB are interested more in their wants than providing an emotional support to get this over with.

Thirdly, it has to be of a non sexual basis throughout the rebound relationship.
This is because I sometimes need to drink a bit to help pour my heart out.
Presuming if one party got drunk, the other should put a firm foot in to prevent things from spiraling out of control. It doesn't help if it becomes a out of the frying pan into the fire kind of situation.

So, I might be wrong but a SB would therefore be inappropriate.

[TheSeeker]

I felt without meeting true love at least once, life is not considered complete.

Hi Bro,

Despite being in the situation I am in.
Yes, I still do believe and think true love does matter in life.


For all that life is worth, it is the people we meet and care about that makes the difference.

One can be successful or even wealthy but those doesn't go on with you.
No amount of money or achievements matters when one last close one's eyes.

Personally, at the end of the day, I would want to pass on looking at the person I love.

If she is still alive and well, standing by me.
I want to know that she would be provided for.. For as long as she lives.. I made that vow and I will do everything within my means to stick by them.

If she isn't, I would look at her photo as I close my eyes for the very last time hoping I'll get to meet her again wherever it may be..

[TheSeeker]

haha look like u already appointed me as your matchmaker, all the criteria there. Where am I to find u the candidate? lol
This one leave to other bros n sis help u!

tsk tsk! poor me.. even Sis is jumping off the boat the moment things gets serious.

But nah, I am not pinning any hopes on it, lol..

I've tried looking myself some years ago but it didn't work out..

I actually have a #4 option for u. This is a v wicked method n trial n tested by yours truly. 99.9% would work. Its called 以毒攻毒。 Just go back to your ex, restart the relationship from where u both left it. There is a 0.1% chance u can find bsck the woman u lost eons ago. Most likely you get the ah ha moment n WTF u go back to lather rinse repeat! Be warned its very painful ok. After the repeat cycle your brains n heart will be fully awakened. At that point you WILL leavr for good cos you are fully convinced the person you reminiscing day n night no longer exist. That image belongs to the past n will never be back again. Try at your own risk, don't come back n strangle me.

I have reassessed the entire thing myself too Sis..
Back then, I believe closure was all I really needed.
I did try to ask her for the reason but all she did was avoid it entirely..
So, if closure is what I would not be getting then it defeats the purpose getting back with her.

This is because I already know that once innocent girl, no longer exists..
Yes, I did what you did as well.
But it wasn't a patch up, it was a catch up after she insisted I meet her.
Hell, it was painful.. I still remember how I mourned her lost.. Not physically but who she was..

I'll never straggle you Sis, I am thankful you care..
Really, that matters to me..


#2 still can try. like the bro n sis here says they will bumpz ur thread to find a candidate.

SB probably wouldn't work for me.
Refer to my earlier replies to dyelook Bro and PPgirl Sis.

#1 play refers to focusing on something v intensely be it hobby or sports that u are fully immersed in it.
Well, I like muay thai boxing and the gym.
In fact, I have a room at home just for that purpose.

#3 Pillow fight ah u ask fr your candidate fr #2 lor
But there is no candidate.
Besides I was trying to ease your fears of causing grievous bodily harm with your kendo stick. :p

[TheSeeker]

what is a sb? sex buddy?
he needs a TLC buddy no?

Ok, I just goggled this "procure a TLC buddy" and it came as no surprise to me that this does not exists.


This is probably why the commercial ladies sometimes gets a little too involved with me.

Maybe I had opened up too much and sounds like an easy target or something.
Maybe as they claimed, they saw something very different in me..

What they do not understand though is how I can compartmentalise these sessions over my emotions. How I am immune to their charms when so many before me have fallen..

For a heart to love, it first has to be willing to accept.
Not opening up one's heart, means nothing can possibly get in.

[dyelook]

Well, I like muay thai boxing and the gym.
In fact, I have a room at home just for that purpose.

interesting... any chance to have a glimpse?:)

[PPGirl]

Hmm i have a female frd into muay thai too ;)

[dyelook]

Hmm i have a female frd into muay thai too ;)

wow:eek:... more interesting... care to share a glimpse too?:p

[PPGirl]

wow:eek:... more interesting... care to share a glimpse too?:p

Glimpse of?

[dyelook]

Glimpse of?

her face loh... hehe, if you wanna share a glimpse of her other body parts i also dont mind de...:p

[PPGirl]

her face loh... hehe, if you wanna share a glimpse of her other body parts i also dont mind de...:p
Cannot show face de..

[dyelook]

Cannot show face de..

show body...:p

[PPGirl]

show body...:p

Also cannot lolz

[dyelook]

Also cannot lolz

http://i1096.photobucket.com/albums/g328/JerMing/Mobile%20Uploads/Screenshot_2015-07-12-21-06-14_1436706421552.jpg

[TheSeeker]

interesting... any chance to have a glimpse?:)

Sure Bro,

I can take photos of the room an upload to my folder tomorrow.

Hmm i have a female frd into muay thai too ;)

Nice Sis, is your friend from any muay thai organisation/gym?

Have some female friends practicing it, might well be someone I know if she is..

wow:eek:... more interesting... care to share a glimpse too?:p

Lol..

[dyelook]

Sure Bro,

I can take photos of the room an upload to my folder tomorrow.

waiting... thanks, bro...:)

[TheSeeker]

waiting... thanks, bro...:)

Sure Bro, will PM you when I have them up.

Now, I got to go get some sleep..

Goodnight everyone!

Cheers!

[Edyta]

tsk tsk! poor me.. even Sis is jumping off the boat the moment things gets serious.

But nah, I am not pinning any hopes on it, lol..

I've tried looking myself some years ago but it didn't work out..



I have reassessed the entire thing myself too Sis..
Back then, I believe closure was all I really needed.
I did try to ask her for the reason but all she did was avoid it entirely..
So, if closure is what I would not be getting then it defeats the purpose getting back with her.

This is because I already know that once innocent girl, no longer exists..
Yes, I did what you did as well.
But it wasn't a patch up, it was a catch up after she insisted I meet her.
Hell, it was painful.. I still remember how I mourned her lost.. Not physically but who she was..

I'll never straggle you Sis, I am thankful you care..
Really, that matters to me..




SB probably wouldn't work for me.
Refer to my earlier replies to dyelook Bro and PPgirl Sis.


Well, I like muay thai boxing and the gym.
In fact, I have a room at home just for that purpose.


But there is no candidate.
Besides I was trying to ease your fears of causing grievous bodily harm with your kendo stick. :p

eh are u that worm in my stomach? u really knows my weak spots. ok i won't runaway, will stay on the "serious matter" :-P

so you went back to do the "lather rinse repeay" already n u still reminiscing? u belongs to the die hard romantic.

end of breakfast time, gota go work soon. chat again.

[PPGirl]

Nice Sis, is your friend from any muay thai organisation/gym?

Have some female friends practicing it, might well be someone I know if she is..
Hmmm not too sure. Will check with her ;)

[TheSeeker]

waiting... thanks, bro...:)

Hi Bro,

PM sent, just leaving you a note here just in case your inbox is filled with admiration notes..

Here is the folder.
Hobby (https://www.sammyboyforum.com/album.php?albumid=72)

Lol, basically I am into a number of physical sports.
i.e. Boxing, Muay Thai, MMA

I started with Taekwondo in my primary school, sparred with some "bros" and started to go into other disciplines..

Am old now so for conditioning, I tend to just jog, skip and lift weights.

Lol, are you interested in those too bro?

[dyelook]

Hi Bro,

PM sent, just leaving you a note here just in case your inbox is filled with admiration notes..

Here is the folder.
Hobby (https://www.sammyboyforum.com/album.php?albumid=72)

Lol, basically I am into a number of physical sports.
i.e. Boxing, Muay Thai, MMA

I started with Taekwondo in my primary school, sparred with some "bros" and started to go into other disciplines..

Am old now so for conditioning, I tend to just jog, skip and lift weights.

Lol, are you interested in those too bro?

nice..;)
keep it up, bro..

[TheSeeker]

eh are u that worm in my stomach? u really knows my weak spots. ok i won't runaway, will stay on the "serious matter" :-P

so you went back to do the "lather rinse repeay" already n u still reminiscing? u belongs to the die hard romantic.

end of breakfast time, gota go work soon. chat again.

For once worm sounds kinky..
In stomach some more.. :shy:

hehe, as for weak spots.. I'm sure you know mine too..
Aww.. it's comforting to know that you are not running away and promises to stay.. ^^


Yeah I did but well.. I never got closure..
it's only always possible to rule one's heart.. For a period of my life, she once meant the world to me..

Hope the breakfast was a good one.. Take care at work ya.. :)

[TheSeeker]

nice..;)
keep it up, bro..

Thanks Bro, I've been at it for a quite a while now..

No worries, I am not violent or anything..
So, if you are interested in it, we can work out together..
But no, I don't have female friends invited over to work on the sandbag.. lol :p

[JuzKaypoh]

Yeah I did but well.. I never got closure..
it's only always possible to rule one's heart.. For a period of my life, she once meant the world to me..


Bro.

Take it as a closure the last time you met. Some ppl ain't good with ending a relationship properly. Negative comments are always harder to come out esp in Asian society.

Sometimes certain chapters in life doesn't closed the manner we would like to be. Is up to you how you would like to define it.

Just remember the good things when she meant the world to you and forget about the rest. At least, you are in a much better shape now in other areas of your life for what has happened to you, right?

[dyelook]

Thanks Bro, I've been at it for a quite a while now..

No worries, I am not violent or anything..
So, if you are interested in it, we can work out together..
But no, I don't have female friends invited over to work on the sandbag.. lol :p

we sure can if you can find a job for me in sg...:p
btw, me a Malaysian.. just started going to gym this year in january 1st.. wanna throw away my alcohol addiction..;)

[Edyta]

Hmmm not too sure. Will check with her ;)
well done sis, u found him a target!

[dyelook]

well done sis, u found him a target!

i thought he found his target in you...:p

[Edyta]

For once worm sounds kinky..
In stomach some more.. :shy:

hehe, as for weak spots.. I'm sure you know mine too..
Aww.. it's comforting to know that you are not running away and promises to stay.. ^^


Yeah I did but well.. I never got closure..
it's only always possible to rule one's heart.. For a period of my life, she once meant the world to me..

Hope the breakfast was a good one.. Take care at work ya.. :)

oops sorry bro didn't mean to sound yucky but its simply a direct translation from chinese. i got excuse, i am only half chinese :)

since u been thru the repeat process, its time to move on. closure is elusive, after a while it doesn't matter anymore. its over, water under the bridge. ppgirl has intro u to a muay thai girl! all the best!

breakfast is gd cos i cook it myself :p

[Edyta]

i thought he found his target in you...:p

no la, i have said before romance is over for me. even if i want to, i am no longer worthy given my circumstances. i am happy to chat with all of u here.:)

[TheSeeker]

well done sis, u found him a target!

Oh please.. I don't spar with girls..

Especially since it would be soooo embarrassing if I lost.. Nah, just kidding..

[TheSeeker]

we sure can if you can find a job for me in sg...:p
btw, me a Malaysian.. just started going to gym this year in january 1st.. wanna throw away my alcohol addiction..;)

Ohh.. what kind of a job are you looking for Bro?

I can ask some friends who are in the headhunting/recruitment line to help keep a lookout.. :)

[TheSeeker]

i thought he found his target in you...:p

Ohh.. matchmaking line huh Bro?

Hmm, that is a tough one but I can still try and ask around..

[Edyta]

Oh please.. I don't spar with girls..

Especially since it would be soooo embarrassing if I lost.. Nah, just kidding..

not spar with her lah. u know go n train together? supper, drinks? u shd b expert :p

[TheSeeker]

oops sorry bro didn't mean to sound yucky but its simply a direct translation from chinese. i got excuse, i am only half chinese :)

since u been thru the repeat process, its time to move on. closure is elusive, after a while it doesn't matter anymore. its over, water under the bridge. ppgirl has intro u to a muay thai girl! all the best!

breakfast is gd cos i cook it myself :p

Lol, I was only kidding..
So, Sis where the origins of your other half?
I mean as in your heritage..

sweat.. what muay thai girl?
That's for dyelook bro.. ^^

Lol, what did you make?
I used to do western breakfast..
Apart from that, I can do the traditional bread toast, congee too..

[TheSeeker]

no la, i have said before romance is over for me. even if i want to, i am no longer worthy given my circumstances. i am happy to chat with all of u here.:)

I personally think you are a very interesting person.
Intrigues me in many ways not many had for a very long time now.
And yes, I admit reading what you have posted did spark that extra curiosity in me..
Nevertheless, I hope you don't get me the wrong way though..


Sis, if someone right came along in your life, do reconsider.
I believe it would be comforting for a lot of us to know that you are happy.

Achievements and status may play a part of who we are in our lives, it may path our future but ultimately a home is where the heart is.

I understand circumstances as I have been through some myself.. A lot of which still bottled deep inside..

I've learned a little on how we should not let circumstances curtail what the future may hold.

I sincerely think you are a nice lady and that you shouldn't feel unworthy of anyone.. Not you at least..

[TheSeeker]

not spar with her lah. u know go n train together? supper, drinks? u shd b expert :p

Well, a sport is a sport.
Though it may get a conversation going but that is as best as it gets.

Drinks are best drunk with someone whom connects on a deeper level. Someone who we can relate and open ourselves up to..

Lol, i crap a lot in real life with peers, subordinates and people around me. But you know, someone to talk heart to heart with is rare and few in between..

[Edyta]

Lol, I was only kidding..
So, Sis where the origins of your other half?
I mean as in your heritage..

sweat.. what muay thai girl?
That's for dyelook bro.. ^^

Lol, what did you make?
I used to do western breakfast..
Apart from that, I can do the traditional bread toast, congee too..

i will tell u my heritage another time
too obvious on my identity

ppgirl intro to u right? since when bro dyelook ask for muay thai gf?

i made a batch of hainanese pork chops! not the kinda food u eat for breakfast tho. i am not hainanese btw.

[Edyta]

I personally think you are a very interesting person.
Intrigues me in many ways not many had for a very long time now.
And yes, I admit reading what you have posted did spark that extra curiosity in me..
Nevertheless, I hope you don't get me the wrong way though..


Sis, if someone right came along in your life, do reconsider.
I believe it would be comforting for a lot of us to know that you are happy.

Achievements and status may play a part of who we are in our lives, it may path our future but ultimately a home is where the heart is.

I understand circumstances as I have been through some myself.. A lot of which still bottled deep inside..

I've learned a little on how we should not let circumstances curtail what the future may hold.

I sincerely think you are a nice lady and that you shouldn't feel unworthy of anyone.. Not you at least..

ok 1 day i tell u my life story then u will know why i am a gone case. but i am ok n happy in life still cos i am contented.

[Edyta]

Well, a sport is a sport.
Though it may get a conversation going but that is as best as it gets.

Drinks are best drunk with someone whom connects on a deeper level. Someone who we can relate and open ourselves up to..

Lol, i crap a lot in real life with peers, subordinates and people around me. But you know, someone to talk heart to heart with is rare and few in between..

give her a chance la, she might be your future wife for all u know!

drinks or la kopi i am always available as a friend n listening ear.

[VielSpass]

True love must be able to withstand the test of time...

[dyelook]

hmmmmm.... why my instinct tells me theres a chance of true love happening in this thread?:p

[PPGirl]

well done sis, u found him a target!

Oh please.. I don't spar with girls..

Especially since it would be soooo embarrassing if I lost.. Nah, just kidding..
My frd said she is not practising at this moment.

ppgirl intro to u right? since when bro dyelook ask for muay thai gf?
.
Haha i din intro. Just happen to know a gf of mine was into muay thai ..thats all :)

[TheSeeker]

i will tell u my heritage another time
too obvious on my identity

ppgirl intro to u right? since when bro dyelook ask for muay thai gf?

i made a batch of hainanese pork chops! not the kinda food u eat for breakfast tho. i am not hainanese btw.

Hehe, then forget I ever asked Sis..
Overexposure is never a good thing..

Erm, nope.. ppgirl sis merely said she has a female friend who is into the sport.

Hmm i have a female frd into muay thai too ;)

wow:eek:... more interesting... care to share a glimpse too?:p
Lol, this is when dyelook bro got all flustered and excited.. Though he didn't say it outright but it starts from humble beginnings.. :p

Wow, pork chops sounds like an interesting breakfast..

[PPGirl]

Erm, nope.. ppgirl sis merely said she has a female friend who is into the sport.

Lol, this is when dyelook bro got all flustered and excited.. Though he didn't say it outright but it starts from humble beginnings.. :p


Yeah great minds think alike.

Well dyelook is kpo :p
Thats y he ask for my frd's pic lolz

[TheSeeker]

ok 1 day i tell u my life story then u will know why i am a gone case. but i am ok n happy in life still cos i am contented.

I understand Sis..

Contentment is a rare quality especially in the society we live in.

I wish I could say the same but what I have doesn't quite meet in terms of how I perceive contentment to be.. I guess I am only human..

For me, I first have to feel complete.. Everything else are but a temporary transition in life.. :)

give her a chance la, she might be your future wife for all u know!

drinks or la kopi i am always available as a friend n listening ear.

My frd said she is not practising at this moment.
Haha i din intro. Just happen to know a gf of mine was into muay thai ..thats all :)

Lol, PPgirl sis has replied on my behalf.
Plus.. I am not the 随便 kind k.. :p

[TheSeeker]

True love must be able to withstand the test of time...

Yes Bro, a few simple word yet not many bothers to uphold..

hmmmmm.... why my instinct tells me theres a chance of true love happening in this thread?:p

Well, I'm happy for you Bro..

So, who is the lucky girl? :)

Yeah great minds think alike.

Well dyelook is kpo :p
Thats y he ask for my frd's pic lolz

Hehe, Hi Sis..

Wonder if dyelook bro is referring to your muay thai female friend..

Regardless, 恭喜老爷 贺喜夫人， dyelook 少爷 has found his destined one.. ^^

[Edyta]

Yes Bro, a few simple word yet not many bothers to uphold..



Well, I'm happy for you Bro..

So, who is the lucky girl? :)



Hehe, Hi Sis..

Wonder if dyelook bro is referring to your muay thai female friend..

Regardless, 恭喜老爷 贺喜夫人， dyelook 少爷 has found his destined one.. ^^

oooh like this ah? i guess i am abit slow here.
congrats bro dyelook, hope u manage to get ppgirl sis to intro u. let us know how cute she is ok?

[PPGirl]

Well, I'm happy for you Bro..

So, who is the lucky girl? :)

Wonder if dyelook bro is referring to your muay thai female friend..

Regardless, 恭喜老爷 贺喜夫人， dyelook 少爷 has found his destined one.. ^^

oooh like this ah? i guess i am abit slow here.
congrats bro dyelook, hope u manage to get ppgirl sis to intro u. let us know how cute she is ok?

well as i said earlier dyelook is just kpo.

Just saying my gf is into muay thai thats all.
Am not intro-ing my gf to either dyelook or Seeker or anyone else.

[dyelook]

suddenly you 3 turn target to me... i go back hide in my friendly thread...p

[PPGirl]

suddenly you 3 turn target to me... i go back hide in my friendly thread...p

3? Did i?
Pls read my posts carefully b4 making such remarks :rolleyes:

[TheSeeker]

well as i said earlier dyelook is just kpo.

Hehe Sis, yeah I know.. just teasing dyelook bro lah..

Just saying my gf is into muay thai thats all.
Am not intro-ing my gf to either dyelook or Seeker or anyone else.

Thankfully, if not your gf KO me when we spar.. then how? so xia suay can..

suddenly you 3 turn target to me... i go back hide in my friendly thread...p

Lol, don't shy lah bro.. lai lai share share..

3? Did i?
Pls read my posts carefully b4 making such remarks :rolleyes:

Erm Sis, maybe it is the kaypoh word?

Maybe use the word curious loh.. see got better reaction not..

[dyelook]

3? Did i?
Pls read my posts carefully b4 making such remarks :rolleyes:

Hehe Sis, yeah I know.. just teasing dyelook bro lah..

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[orangeproud]

There is a true love real story which happened in Spore.

Carolyn Lim: Struck down by lighting, not by life.

There is a former teacher, Carolyn Lim, 31, was struck by lighting when she was windsurfing off East Coast beach. She was in coma for six weeks, after she regained her consciousness, she was unable to walk, to talk, to feed herself. She was sank into depression, but with the support of her boyfriend, William Ng and her family, she managed to pull through and had a rapid recovery. Despite being wheelchair bound, her boyfriend did not abandon her, continued to stay by her side & encouraging her. Eventually they get married, and she is now a mother of a 14-month old Isaac.

Her inspiring book "Making Pink Lemonade" describes her struggle to get life back on track. Her motto is to learn to make lemonade from the lemons that life throws at you.

Really feel touch that her boyfriend & her family all the while show their support to her despite her handicap, they did not abandon her....this shld be so called TRUE LOVE.

[dyelook]

50 years ago
when trying to date his wife he said to his wife
believe me

40 years ago
when his wife gave birth to their daughter
he hugged his wife and said
sorry for the trouble & painful months

15 years ago
when their daughter get married
holding his wife hands and said
you still have me with you

last year
when he heard the news from the doctor that his wife has cancer, he said
i still here with you

today his wife past away
holding back his tears he planted a last kiss on his wife lips and whisper
wait for me

in his entire life he didnt tell his wife 'i love you'
but his love for her speaks greater than words
true love is what you do to maintain and not just saying out in words
its better to love with you heart than saying 'i love you' a million times

[VielSpass]

True love must be able to withstand the test of ye.

[Edyta]

50 years ago
when trying to date his wife he said to his wife
believe me

40 years ago
when his wife gave birth to their daughter
he hugged his wife and said
sorry for the trouble & painful months

15 years ago
when their daughter get married
holding his wife hands and said
you still have me with you

last year
when he heard the news from the doctor that his wife has cancer, he said
i still here with you

today his wife past away
holding back his tears he planted a last kiss on his wife lips and whisper
wait for me

in his entire life he didnt tell his wife 'i love you'
but his love for her speaks greater than words
true love is what you do to maintain and not just saying out in words
its better to love with you heart than saying 'i love you' a million times

This is so beautiful.
If only one can find such a companion, life would be so meaningful.

[viviankoh]

Yea bro...

http://asia.elliottback.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/01/cute-old-couple.jpg

Behind each loving photo of aged couples, lies untold sacrifices..

Beyond the test of time, standing true through life's trials and tribulations..

Is this not what all of us wants... seems so rare..

[taitaikunu]

Hi bro,
After reading almost all the posting,
This is my take on TS's questions.
There is true love....
She truly loves my money, and I truly loves her young sexy body.
When it comes to unconditional love, that is a bit harder.

Cheers

[sammyboyfor]

http://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg/singaporeseen/sites/default/files/public/article/images/featured/2015/03/kwamain.jpg

[orangeproud]

Hi bro,
After reading almost all the posting,
This is my take on TS's questions.
There is true love....
She truly loves my money, and I truly loves her young sexy body.
When it comes to unconditional love, that is a bit harder.

Cheers

http://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg/singaporeseen/sites/default/files/public/article/images/featured/2015/03/kwamain.jpg

When we r young, we more on looking for lust rather than true love. As we r getting older & more mature, we r attracted by someone not only by her pretty face & great body, these r not the main attributes when is looking for lifetime partner.

Physical attraction become secondary factor, we tend to look for someone more than have attractive appearance but share the same thinking with us, same moral value, same goal towards life.....can share with her whatever topics, communicate with her.....sometimes, even we din say anything out, she also can read our mind by our small gesture.......we can laugh tgt over a funny show, cry tgt over a tragic sad show.....we share the same sentiment in our lives. She taking care of our daily live well physically & mentally.....always stand by your side encouraging u, giving u advice when u encounter some problems.

Watching each other growing & ageing day by day is a blissful thing....at this time, u still find her beautiful as she has the same rapport with u....she may no longer physically beautiful but she is definitely more beautiful in her mind as time passed.

Well-rounded lifetime partner who will stick with u through thick & thin is someone I yearn for.

[sammyboyfor]

Well-rounded lifetime partner who will stick with u through thick & thin is someone I yearn for.

Yeah it's great to have a lifetime partner but you'll still be paying for sex with hot young chick.

[orangeproud]

Yeah it's great to have a lifetime partner but you'll still be paying for sex with hot young chick.

It's vary on individuals, depend on individual's need. Some or more may see sex as a very important component in their love life, there's some who look beyond sex in their r/s, yearning their r/s will accelerate to next level in terms of physical need is meet, emotional & spiritual needs are also satisfied by the true love that u have found especially when one is ageing.

Can see some old man juz pay money to find whore to listen to them & chit chat with them, it may sound ridiculous & foolish, but is happening in our real life, as those old men are feeling lonely & empty in their hearts.

[Boinkboinkboink]

Can see some old man juz pay money to find whore to listen to them & chit chat with them, it may sound ridiculous & foolish, but is happening in our real life, as those old men are feeling lonely & empty in their hearts.

Companionship is the keyword.

Hot young chick, well, eye-candies to show off you still "can". ;)

[viviankoh]

When we r young, we more on looking for lust rather than true love. As we r getting older & more mature, we r attracted by someone not only by her pretty face & great body, these r not the main attributes when is looking for lifetime partner.

Physical attraction become secondary factor, we tend to look for someone more than have attractive appearance but share the same thinking with us, same moral value, same goal towards life.....can share with her whatever topics, communicate with her.....sometimes, even we din say anything out, she also can read our mind by our small gesture.......we can laugh tgt over a funny show, cry tgt over a tragic sad show.....we share the same sentiment in our lives. She taking care of our daily live well physically & mentally.....always stand by your side encouraging u, giving u advice when u encounter some problems.

Watching each other growing & ageing day by day is a blissful thing....at this time, u still find her beautiful as she has the same rapport with u....she may no longer physically beautiful but she is definitely more beautiful in her mind as time passed.

Well-rounded lifetime partner who will stick with u through thick & thin is someone I yearn for.

Much appreciated for the advice. I can't believe I have learnt so much here.

[makeyouhappy]

Sorry for coming jumping in so randomly .. But everytime i see a topic like this i can't help but want to express something..

True love exists, but it might not be in the form we expect.

There's a theory that breaks down romantic love to 3 parts: love of the mind, love of the body, and love of the relationship.

Infatuation, lust and Commitment.

So what does true love mean here?

A relationship that has all 3 of the above components. And it takes effort to maintain all 3, especially Commitment.

"True love" as portrayed in the media overwhelmingly emphasises infatuation. I had this fairytale-like, idealistic view of what a perfect guy should be .. Only to get thoroughly hurt.

Since then, true love has been dead to me. A relationship takes work and resources, just like everything else.

[Boinkboinkboink]

A relationship takes work and resources, just like everything else.


Yes, so very true!

[bonkning]

"Behind each loving photo of aged couples, lies untold sacrifices.. "
Since then, true love has been dead to me. A relationship takes work and resources, just like everything else.
is a lot of trust... and fate.
had a friend who wanted to break with his long time gf cos he was in financial trouble n din want her to suffer with him. when he brought it up, she cried ... said she din mind. So she paid for most of their outing dating even wedding housing expenses until he settled all his problems and took over abt 5 yrs later ... now happily married with 2 kids
and his wife is one hottt chiobu... and i think he will love her forever even if her beauty fades
but i think his case is rare.

[ringo6668]

Yeah it's great to have a lifetime partner but you'll still be paying for sex with hot young chick.

Fully agree with you bro this is what iam enjoying my life now:D