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好好的去听这首歌吧...或许你有很多的感动..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9MQC8UjxMhE

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wow amazed to see truth and honesty in SBF ..
i think memories sweeten ex relations.
while present time embitters current relations
the true one is always out there.. but u have to look within to find

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yes bro well said, so we need to learn to "珍惜现在拥有的“ :D

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Hey my dear sis,

Bro IK given you a fantastic advice ... but soon our boss is going to give you another one ... :p on "the verb & noun" advice thing :D


Nevertheless, from now on, start thinking positively ... the future one will be better :) which provided you learned from the past mistakes without looking back & comparing :rolleyes:

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再见不如不见
相见不如怀念
占据你心中最柔软地方的那个人一定是得不到的
因为得不到所以倍加珍惜
如果换了时间
换了频率结果是不是会改变？

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3 years ago, I fell in love with a girl introduced to me by her friend. After just 3 dates, I mustered up the courage to ask her to be my girlfriend and everything came together from then onwards. I had the best times of my life with her as we travelled the world together and we stayed over at each others' places so frequently I felt like we were already married and had a family of our own. It felt so real.

And then, things went downhill from there as I knew that living in Singapore isnt cheap and so I took on other jobs to save as much money as I could so that we could one day have enough to settle down. The quarrels began as she demanded more time from me and I insisted that I have to do those jobs and I was focused on money. Even on trips overseas, I would be thinking of how to make more to give her a better future.

Then, one day, after so many fights over this issue, I finally snapped and uttered the request to end it. I went numb for months and weeks and I didn't cry until 3 years later, one day, when I was surfing the net, I came across her profile, saw her picture and broke down. The memories came rushing back and the floodgates opened. I was shocked that a thing that I thought I had buried for 3 years came back so suddenly and the impact of all our times together couldnt stop those tears from falling and the heartache sliced me apart like a thousand sharpened knives stabbing at my heart.

It was too late. Today, I would have given all my fortune to be with her again. But she had moved on. Its true what people say. That no amount of money in this world can buy you true love. And if I were to be given one more chance, I would have given up everything for her for money can be earned back. But for that special one in your heart that you truely love, that person, once gone, might never return or be found ever again. No amount of money can cover the empty void left by the other person.

Many girls tried to enter my life but all failed to make an impact because that special girl is just so irreplacable.

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愛你愛到恨了你 恨你讓我如此愛
不恨你 不恨你 那是不夠愛你
最愛最恨都是你 最愛最恨都是你


then just sex can......why 恨 恨 恨 恨

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I also regret not bonking her more.....

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She had moved on. So should you. All the best!

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Yes... I had Ben and when we broke off... I went thru some horrible phase...
When we had the chance to patch back finally, we discovered the person we were passionately in love with was no longer there. We have changed...
Thus we broke off and had closure.

Probably the lack of closure or the hope of how things would have turned out...feed the desire to pursue the lost relationship.

Time will soothe the hurt, fade the memories n definitely heal the wounds...
Finding a new guy would keep the lonely teary times away.

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This is the most frightening thing that rattles me. That a person you once so loved wholeheartedly can just suddenly change. Sometimes, I sit up in the middle of the night and think to myself, whether I can ever give 100 percent again to another person and I just can't bring myself to come to terms with this brutal fact. How can somebody just wipe another person off from your life just like this confounds me. It is like denying the existence of a close family member in your life. Can human beings really be this cruel?

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Temporary relief with the "rebound"s ... no closure means 3 yrs down the road you'll feel the same thing as the bro in the above thread experienced.

This ache you can't scratch or numb away ...

You have to find a way to make your closure happen I guess.

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Sigh... I guess different people have different emotional attachments to their past relationships. Some can forget and move on fast, while its near impossible for some others to forget..

I'm the second type like some bros here... I would go near her place and stay for a while at times and even more so when i'm feeling down.. just hoping to see her from afar and know that she's alright. She remained a very important person to me..

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if you cannot get, what are you going to miss? nothing, so you will not 怀念!

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Sometimes being kind is a form of cruelty.
If u know eventually this relationship will break off...
marrying or being tgt just because it's the right thing to do or next step...
Or treating the person with tender loving care after the break...
Is cruel cus the love isn't there n she/he cannot move on too.

Since teenage, i've learnt no matter how much of test, testing, tests for the potential soulmate is futile, Ppl change, and u can't stop changes. U can adapt to their changes. ;)

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Question is: What if you cannot be cruel?

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Learn, Accept and Adapt ?

It's after all - Your feet, your shoes, your own journey path.

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Clap Clap..Totally agree ;)

In this world, is not that anyone u love will love u bak! Why waste time 怀念?
might as well start hunting new love instead..or being loved by someone then to love someone..bei ai shi xing fu :cool:

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Then u will be cruel
To yourself

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why are you afraid? You loved, that does not mean the other person loved you the same way you loved her. True love, does not expect return, delights in giving. There is also a phase that you need to go through. The ugly phase, where you will wake up to a monster, where you will discover imperfections, where the person will have character flaws, and you will fight, you will hate the person, and then after that you will decide if you can live with the person inspite of these flaws, because its these flaws that make the person unique.

True be told, you will never be able to give 100%, it will be good if you can give at least 20% of yourself to the other person. There is only One that can give 100% and live to say He can, and you are not that person. What you cannot come to terms with, is rejection. That she left you anyway.

Don't waste time dwelling in bitterness of rejection, but relish in the happy moments that the person bring to you while you are together. Live your life, as if it is your last, have no regrets because whether its your fb, your gf, you wife , irregardless of the status, there is a chance, she will not wake up tomorrow, and today will be the last day you see her. and if she is gone, if you love her, wish her well, pray that someone else is taking care of her, and if ever she needs help, you know you will help her and have no bitterness for her.

just my 2cents