Originally Posted by ACFE (Post 18495228)

I am in my late 20s. I have been with my bf for about 2.5 years and the first two years are long term relationship with timing differences. We have overcome the long distance rs and recently he has came back to sg for almost 6 months but he couldn’t even get a proper job. He has sent near to hundred of resumes but many rejected him due to no working experience.

I feel tough being with him recently as I am a Professional and need to ot always but he seems like doing nothing and slept until noon due to jobless. I need to provide allowance for my parents and we always quarrel because of money. My friends think that we are not compatible as he doesn’t even have a stable job. Let alone planning for our future. His family background is not bad but what I want is someone who is financially independent without relying on his parents.

I need some advices from the bros and sis over here. Been very vex recently over this issue, should I continue waiting for him to get a proper and stable job or should I just move forward to get someone who has common interests and common topics with me.

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor (Post 18524821)

Enough has been said about the qualities desirable in a mate.

All I want to add is the following:

1. "Advice" is a non countable noun. You do not add an "s" to make it plural. "Advice" is like "rice" or "salt". You don't say "rices" or "salts" so "advice" is exactly the same.

2. "Advice" is a noun eg "I need some advice".

3. "Advise" is a verb eg "I advise you not to marry a loser.".

Hope that helps.

Originally Posted by YELLOW (Post 18522522)

frankly since u ar professional .... then its good to hav him to be househusb to balance up. someone gotto take care if the kids and house .... u bring hme the bacon.

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor (Post 18524821)

Enough has been said about the qualities desirable in a mate.

All I want to add is the following:

1. "Advice" is a non countable noun. You do not add an "s" to make it plural. "Advice" is like "rice" or "salt". You don't say "rices" or "salts" so "advice" is exactly the same.

2. "Advice" is a noun eg "I need some advice".

3. "Advise" is a verb eg "I advise you not to marry a loser.".

Hope that helps.

Originally Posted by ACFE (Post 18522455)

Sincerely appreciate so many advices from the bros and siss over here...:)
Actually I am a FT too. I heard many people commented about us(the foreigners) about finding a Singaporean as a bf for something(money/PR status etc) but in fact we actually here to earn so that we have more to support our family back in our hometown.

No wrong to criticise us because due to the FTs the job opportunities for locals have dropped tremendously,part of my relatives are locals too and I understand the difficulties. So sorry about this but we have no choice as well.

Also, this is why my bf is a foreigner(PR) cause I do not want people to think that we FTs are here to get a rich bf and this is why I have always been trying hard to work together with my bf. If we can overcome this hardship then in the future perhaps nothing can split us apart.

I understand my age is quite awkward now cause I am not as young as the teens and should seek for a stable rs but to me age is just a number. What’s matter is we should live our lives with no regrets, getting a compatible partner is nothing easy as well.

Originally Posted by ACFE (Post 18495813)

Thank you for your kind advices. He has tried to apply for those simple jobs but still couldn’t get. Merit of him is he is really good to me and even sometimes when I am showing him my temper he will still give way to me. This is the reason why I stand until now. But all of my friends said “爱情不能当饭吃”. Sometimes he has tight cashflow he will borrow from me, this is what my friends get really fedup of him and don’t even want me to discuss more on him because to them a guy should be more responsible and find ways to solve the problems.

Perhaps both he and me are not in a very good situation to continue.

Originally Posted by Apollo (Post 18545360)

sis feel you, think of “周任发“， maybe now you bf is experiencing his low in life and really has difficulties - as i can see he is trying also but just no luck

If you really love him from your heart, give him some time ...

Originally Posted by doubleholecp (Post 18496033)

hi, just want to understand better he’s also local? just that he’s been working overseas? so that explains the LDR for 2yrs?

I’m pretty much in the same scenario before, graduated during massive economy downturn couldn’t find a full time job in my field of study even though sending resumes after resumes.

But I didn’t just stay at home & nua but worked part time of all sorts at least have some income to support myself (even no pocket money for parents also ok)

some of the part times include sports event helper, construction site mini supervisor handling bangla for a small project, temp dog accommodations where owners go overseas & we help take care their dogs (I even wash their kennels full of dog shit & need to walk the dog like they are my master) etc

It dragged for 2yrs when economy picked up & I finally able to get a full time job but pay sucks big time but at least better than doing part time all the way

I treat my parents makan when I get my 1st pay check sibeh shiok (they also super happy even though my pay not very high)

slowly getting the necessary experience & switch jobs & rest is history

So if he has the will to go look for something to do I think still can put on observation mode...if not I think letting go might be a better option

my 2cents

Originally Posted by sshelterz (Post 18547115)

You are a good son.