Originally Posted by Naim

I am in total agreement with you on this one. Why not just know that they do have our attention and leave it at that?

But sometimes, I do think that it is, in some way, our fault. The problem with us guys is that when the pursuit is on at the start of the relationship, we DO run after them, pick them up at the MRT, pacify them when they are angry, etc. and we do it without reason or thought. Women accept that to be the norm. That's where the problem begins for us. How do we sustain that kind of attention without burning out?

Originally Posted by Five Stone

Hee hee, in relationship just be 'kiang' enough liao, if she dont do it, in the end you are the one doing it..... :o

Originally Posted by blurqueen12

yo...i m a ger here....NOT all the bad stuff u write bout us ARE true OK...u cannot GENERALISE all women like dat...! but there are certain guidelines which i agree it's true coz i m guilty of dat.

when i sae:
Nothing la - means something happen or i not happy but i jus dun wan to tell my bf
Then why in the first place let him feel something is wrong???

ok lor...my fault (when in an argument) - i tink it is also partly ur fault...but i dun wan to extend the argument wif u...but i m not happy either..y must i always be i saeing sorry
Either thrash things out nicely, or be forgiving enough to let it go, dont let him have that kind of LL feeling....

anything lor - can't thing of any ideas of wat to do or wat to eat...but i dun realli wan to do anything or eat anything. jus dat my brain cannot think now
Sure, cant think is ok, just dont complain when we make our choice regardless of the consequences.....

njoy urself wif ur female friend ok - worry dat he mite do something wif the female friend
Would appreciate that you just spell things out, tell us your concern, better still, make the effort to come along.......

no - i i dun feel like sex la...BUT if u turn me on i mite wan to haf it
Yeah rite, by the time we turn you on, we're turn off.......

ok lor i go home on my own - sian ji pua...u r my bf leh...y u not sendin me home...later something happen to me den u will regret it
Hey, sometimes just be reasonable. For example, BF dont drive, GF stay Punggol, BF stay Jurong. Time now is almost midnight, can still catch last bus but to send GF back means $20 taxi home, is this worth it??? You tell me.

...pls la...n not all gers r $$$ suckers ok? i do pay for my bf dinner if he not enuff cash at times n movie...it's like if u got money u pay lor if u dun haf money i pay. we take turns to treat each other. so it's not entirely a one sided thing. dun generalise all gers as evil. it's not fair to us.

hahah but i muz admit..sometimes i dun understand myself..so how can u guys understand us...hahah

Originally Posted by blurqueen12

yo...i m a ger here....NOT all the bad stuff u write bout us ARE true OK...u cannot GENERALISE all women like dat...! but there are certain guidelines which i agree it's true coz i m guilty of dat.

when i sae:
Nothing la - means something happen or i not happy but i jus dun wan to tell my bf

ok lor...my fault (when in an argument) - i tink it is also partly ur fault...but i dun wan to extend the argument wif u...but i m not happy either..y must i always be i saeing sorry

anything lor - can't thing of any ideas of wat to do or wat to eat...but i dun realli wan to do anything or eat anything. jus dat my brain cannot think now

njoy urself wif ur female friend ok - worry dat he mite do something wif the female friend

no - i i dun feel like sex la...BUT if u turn me on i mite wan to haf it

ok lor i go home on my own - sian ji pua...u r my bf leh...y u not sendin me home...later something happen to me den u will regret it

...pls la...n not all gers r $$$ suckers ok? i do pay for my bf dinner if he not enuff cash at times n movie...it's like if u got money u pay lor if u dun haf money i pay. we take turns to treat each other. so it's not entirely a one sided thing. dun generalise all gers as evil. it's not fair to us.

hahah but i muz admit..sometimes i dun understand myself..so how can u guys understand us...hahah

Originally Posted by OceanEleven

Just my humble opinions........ :D

Originally Posted by 180sx

Bros
After reading the thread, I do agree with wat most bro said here. There is one thing I dun understand. Why is it always the guys fault when in a quarrel? It seems like no matter wat I always got to be the one to apologise 1st. So guys when is the last time ur gf/wife apologise to u 1st after the quarrel? Seems like they are so perfect and have no faults like that.

Originally Posted by MachoDevilX

There is a saying that Guys think with their brain. And Girls feel with their heart. The rationale is we can never fully understand a girl. And we really don't have to, since it's almost impossible to. If we try, we may become too sensitive and over-react.

We just need to pamper her, act according to her mood, and follow her emotions. Of course just be by her side, supporting her whenever she needs us. Of course certain times, we will not be able to be physically there to support her since we might not even know when she needs us if she doesn't says so. But at least must re-assure her beforehand that we are always 100% ready for her. 100% be with her mentally.
:cool:

Originally Posted by OceanEleven

It seems that guys have to be gentleman at all times, no matter the gal do to us or say about us such as calling us bastards insulting our mothers, we also cannot raise our hands, lay a finger on them, cannot use vulgarities on them etc so what is so much about apologising.......... :o

Originally Posted by blurqueen12

plz la...in my case i haf to do the oppozite...i m the ger n yet i haf to give in to wat me bf sae...everithing........i alwayz kenna scolded.....but i never scolded him b4. he take me for granted too much

Originally Posted by Tomahawk

So how? Break up with him? :D

But seriously, I wish I had a gf like you. Kekeke...

Tomahawk

Originally Posted by blurqueen12

if he still take me for granted too much .....n continue to scold me for watever small matterz...i mite brk up wif him. there'z a limit to wat my heart can take. i m not hiz punchin bag :mad:

Originally Posted by blurqueen12

if he still take me for granted too much .....n continue to scold me for watever small matterz...i mite brk up wif him. there'z a limit to wat my heart can take. i m not hiz punchin bag :mad:

Originally Posted by naemlo

1 advice to u, break up...

Originally Posted by blurqueen12

nah i dun wizh to nehow brk up ...n i luv him too much...unlezz he realli realli brk my heart

Originally Posted by naemlo

So u can tahan his character?? If u think u will be happy n tolerate him then by all means stay with him.

I always advice my friends when they told me their 'story', n I gonna tell this to u n the rest. Good friends can always be there to lend u a ear, shoulder n advice u. In the end of the day, it's still up to individual to choose the path... if it turn out to be good then he/she has make the correct choice but if it turns out to be bad, he/she cannot blame others but just himself/herself, dun go KPKB. Accept the fact he/she make the wrong choice n life still goes on as normal n dun think of stupid stuff.

Originally Posted by 180sx

Bros
After reading the thread, I do agree with wat most bro said here. There is one thing I dun understand. Why is it always the guys fault when in a quarrel? It seems like no matter wat I always got to be the one to apologise 1st. So guys when is the last time ur gf/wife apologise to u 1st after the quarrel? Seems like they are so perfect and have no faults like that.

Originally Posted by naemlo

For me, I never in my life quarrel with my gf. I will let her nag n nag, make a big fuss n so on... After she has finish n I know she has cool down then only I will reason with her, if I'm wrong I will apologise.

Originally Posted by OceanEleven

Argue, you lose, dont argue you also lose, in the end LL you still have to do it......

Originally Posted by 180sx

After reading the thread, I do agree with wat most bro said here. There is one thing I dun understand. Why is it always the guys fault when in a quarrel? It seems like no matter wat I always got to be the one to apologise 1st. So guys when is the last time ur gf/wife apologise to u 1st after the quarrel? Seems like they are so perfect and have no faults like that.

Originally Posted by OceanEleven

It seems that guys have to be gentleman at all times, no matter the gal do to us or say about us such as calling us bastards insulting our mothers, we also cannot raise our hands, lay a finger on them, cannot use vulgarities on them etc so what is so much about apologising...........

Originally Posted by blurqueen12

plz la...in my case i haf to do the oppozite...i m the ger n yet i haf to give in to wat me bf sae...everithing........i alwayz kenna scolded.....but i never scolded him b4. he take me for granted too much.

Originally Posted by Tomahawk

But seriously, I wish I had a gf like you. Kekeke...

Originally Posted by naemlo

1 advice to u, break up......

Originally Posted by axeman24

Bro I salute you at least you can tahan her nonsense I bet you are immune to the noise already. For me thought I must say I am quite patient but i still have my limits

Originally Posted by axeman24

Bro I salute you at least you can tahan her nonsense I bet you are immune to the noise already. For me thought I must say I am quite patient but i still have my limits

Originally Posted by blurqueen12

if everione has the same thinkin like u ...everi family will brk up once the rought patch comez

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

Pssst, bro, (whispering), he only know his gf one week leh... wait he know his gf one year lah... then see the difference lor, kekekeke :D

Originally Posted by naemlo

I dun get u, my previous statement was wat happen to a couple it all depend on themselves to THINK. Friends can be there to advice only.

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

Pssst, bro, (whispering), he only know his gf one week leh... wait he know his gf one year lah... then see the difference lor, kekekeke :D

Originally Posted by naemlo

I learnt to control... cos I know when she's 'boiling' there is no point trying to reason out or quarrel with her. She keeps asking me a question when she making 'noise'. "Y dun u quarrel with me?", my reply "I rather reason out with u".