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Since she got alot of guy friends around.... possible of her having other sex buddies are quite high.... u never know what girls are thinking these days..... got bf liao they still go out find sex.... haiz... the world is really changing to a certain extent... thats why i advise u.... bonk while u can dun think too much about feelings unless things become clearer for u..... right?

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Maybe she was hungry for something else other than your instant noodles. :p

Then i think it boils down to how strong your feelings is for her. If later...along the way, if you think that when she gets attached, you won't feel anything. then its perfectly fine...however if you think you are going to have heartache, better act soon and have a good talk to her. If she rejects the idea of you two an item, you can focus your time to look for someone else (if you wants to go into relationship) while maintaining the buddy buddy relationship with her...(F or non-F type up to yourself).

Gals/Guys alike when they are a couple, they do not like to see their other one talking to/being chatted up by another gal/guy...esp...some stranger and exchanging contact no. You are perfectly normal. Take your time think abt it and plan your action plan if any....Cheers!!! :)

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Tell her you feel sick and can you kiss her
1)to make yourself feel better
2)to prove that you are not gay.
Kekeke.... :D

BTW, you called me over the weekend but din realised it till pretty late. I returned your call but also not pick up by you. So, wat's up??? Hope everything fine with you. Any good news of good luck with the recent bouts of blind dates you had?? Those CMI, dun waste time on them hor.... :)

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How I wish. Anyway she's the only one that has responded to my phone calls despite her busy work schedule. She gave me a comfortable feeling. The only setback we are of the same surname but we are of different dialect group. Maybe being cantonese, she may be pan tang

Me hope that this can make it this time. Actually to tell you that I am going bangkok to attend wedding. What you want me to bring back?

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We are approaching space age already, hope she is not so particular about such things. :)

Bring yourself with lot of beautiful memories back can already. ;)

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Bring yourself with lot of beautiful memories back can already. ;)[/QUOTE]
I brought muself 4 an 1/2 viagra. What do you think?

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So you are going to keep bonking away....like duracell rabbit?? Take care ...always remember Tomahawk and my advice hor!!!
CheerS!!! :)

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hey pal, dun panic.....first of all, I think you might have did her in the wrong hole, thats why 2 time s oso no feeling.....and worst...your nick is so obvious that this may happen...... :D (just lightening thing up)

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Ah? Wrong hole so no feeling??? Don't get it. :confused:

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Bro Bangkok Master have asked me to look for him when I reached there. I have decided that to spend more on shopping. I will always remember both your add-vices. I have reached to a stage where I can control my urge and to bonk or not to bonk that is the question become my cliche now. :p

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As technology advance in leaps and bounds, the way of living changes. Different people come in contact bringing an influx of multi cultures, believes, mindsets etc. Just like this forum, most of us meet here almost everyday but yet scattered all over Singapore or even the world. How many times we might have brush our shoulders with each other. So close yet so far. :)

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Hoi, new target, never hear you say before? :eek:
BTW, how come never see you ask me what I want you to bring back? :mad:

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I believe your answer will be same like mine right? :D

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Errr......Would it be too much if I ask for some FRs??? :D

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Actually i feel that you already know the answer yourself. its not a qns of whether should you tell her your feelings. its whether can you stand her being the center of attraction of other guys. think about this u said u been clubbing with her for quite some time rite?? and you know her dressing and whats she will be doing there. till now if you say that you got feelings for her, will you because of her past(if she is sleeping around) affect you? if she accepts you, you must forget about her past. if not even when you two are together, you will be the one ruining the relationship due to insecurity. ask yourself if u love her. if you do tell her about your feelings it wont kill you or your buddyship with her. it could maybe make both of your friendship stronger.

points to ponder: if u went to bed with her, surely you can talk about anything with her right?

by the way how old are you?

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So bro, after all the advises, any decision? Do you want her to know your feelings or simply play along? :)

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Really don't know how leh. Met up with her today again. She was with her friends, and don't know why but I felt quite uncomfortable at first, seeing her talking all the way to this other guy friend of hers.

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I can accept the past, but it's the future that I'm more concerned about. I can accept her behavior in the past, but if I were to be her bf, I definitely won't like her behaving like that (as in being so friendly to guys that approach her etc).

And well, about talking about anything... Nope. I can talk to her about all kinds of stuff, but somehow I find it awkward to bring this topic up.

And BTW, I'm 28. She's 27.

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You 2 had sex twice and yet you still find it hard to bring it up to her? Why? You should bring it up and talk to her about it. Only 2 outcomes. Either you talk to her and confess to her about your feelings and see what is her reactions. Or you talk to her and she laughed and the 2 of you will end up in bed the 3rd time.

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How old are the both of you? One cannot be too possessive, it will not help things, also stop torturing yourself. If you really like her then go for it, no point pondering here what's next but be ready to accept the "complete" her. :)

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U have a good thing going! Just keep screwing her as and when it happen and don't expect anything more! Don't get luvvy dovvy etc. sex is the thing. nothing else matters. don't get confused! u r on to a good thing! envy u bro!!

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Well, sex never crossed my mind. Had all along just enjoyed her company, that's all.

Envy me? You don't even know what she looks like. :p

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hey why bother abt the look, COVER THE FACE FIRE THE BASE. this always work....and you too could save alot of $$$ from your Geylang spree :D

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You say like macham I'd always get to bonk her. No la. Actually that second time was quite unexpected. After the first time, I thought it'd never happen again, that it was well, maybe a 'birthday gift' (cos that night we happened to be celebrating my birthday).

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tell us more in detail how both of u started e 1st n 2nd time bonking,maybe we can analyst fr it whether it's for lust or for love to her

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Ok... well, hope in no chance would she get to read this. Else based on the descriptions I'm giving, she's sure to know that I'm referring to her.

1st time
I had planned to celebrate my birthday at a club with a group of friends (which included her). As I was expecting to get drunk, I had booked a hotel room earlier (in fact it was one of my buddies' idea). What I thought is that the all my buddies (which included her) and I would be staying over. (BTW, all my other buddies feel something could be going on between her and me cos we're always going out. But so happens that 1) she's attached (though the relationship is on the rocks 2) she's not really my type (in the sense that I find her too high maintenance (so in the same sense, she probably won't consider me as I ain't rich enough for her) and feel insecure with her) They were supposed to come over to the hotel first to place their stuff and then we could go for dinner together before going to the club. Turned out however that only this girl came. And after the end of it all, she was the only one who stayed over. And well, I was supposed to give her a massage, but with her being in a bathrobe and us on the bed, somehow it ended up into us having sex.

2nd time
Two of us were out having a drink. At one point in time, I had this stupid idea of 'passing her the drink through my mouth' (think you guys should know what I mean) and she also 'returned the favor'. This went on a couple of times, and there was one instance whereby some of the drink spilt on her and she was commenting that I'd have to lick her breasts if it spilt even more. Ok, by this time she was already a little high (she ain't a good drinker, we only had 2 jugs of drinks that night) and so I knew it was just a joke. Anyway, later when we left, she said she was hungry but didn't want to go nearby to eat, and so I suggested her coming to my place and me cooking instant noodles for her. And well, after the food, she went over to my bed to lie as she was feeling tired (I suppose). Went over to accompany her on the bed and from a kiss, things slowly progressed again. Oh, and while kissing only, she was already asking me to go close the door.

In short, both occassions happened when she was high (though on the first occassion, we did have sex again the next morning). Both occassions it was me actually that started things in a sense (probably by arousing her or something) but she was pro-active (if that's the word), removing her own clothes herself and mine too. Both occassions after it was over, none of us mentioned anything about it. She just said not to mention it to the rest of the buddies, that's all. Anyway, since it all happened when she was high, maybe it all meant nothing.

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Probably not. My ex and I went "intimate" on the first date and it was not even a week knowing her (as a friend). She was pretty pro-active, probably as a result of the years of clubbing and partying.

The one thing I regretted was going steady with her cos' she goes out with many other guys and, to a large extent, suffers from some severe form of paranoia. Worse was that, she does all kinds of stuff with her guy friends, from drinking to clubbing.

And, yea, heaven knows what she did before knowing me. Definitely, not the best candidate to be a wife, but was a ... good short term companion who left lots of headaches and scars.

My point is, spend time with a girl whom you are really interested in and, yet, be aware that time, money and effort spent may not yield any ... dividends. Time, money and effort spent is considered ... "invested" or just spent.

Since then, I carry an exceptional level of skepticism towards such women. I mean, however I hate to sound like a jerk, they can't be trusted. Honestly, even MLMers can be can considered "trustworthy" for once. I know... you guys are laughing.

Even the most demure sweet young thing you see today can be a "wolf in sheepskin". It sounds laughable, but true. If I have ten bucks in my pocket and have to choose between 4D and buying a girl a drink, you can be sure that I will have a 4D ticket in a matter of seconds.

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You are indeed skeptical and pretty cynical about such gals. I guess we cannot help it, in a simple perception, the partying/clubbing gals always came across as an easy laid, surrounded by guys like files attracted to shit, one hand with a fag the other with a bottle. The all time-unsolved mystery of all time, while all know that she is just an admin clerk but manage to party four times a week. After knowing a few of them, most are really pretty decent gals, who have their own opinions and know what they are doing. Matter of fact, some are pretty conservative.

It takes time to know a person but let’s not be too subjective against all of them, know where we stand and let the story unfold. ;)

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Hey Mate, as said before in my earlier post. You say that you dont mind the past but you are concerned abt the future, that you mind the way she talks to guys and all. Well welcome to reality! She wont change for you, I can tell u frankly to forget it before u two reach the stage that you can't even be friends and trust me that will happen. If you cant accept her for who she is, you are sure to freak out, be unhappy and no matter how much u try to suppress these feelings, it gets worse. In the end, u will end up with a big fight with her over her behaviour and u will start to hate her for not appreciating your feelings for her.

Secondly as you said, she was high when it happened.... well put it this way girls are humans too. Its just that we have been taught that men are the proactive ones, girls are supposed to be moaning "no, no" and trying to push us away. In actual fact, they do get aroused too and they will act "proactive" too. It may mean just that they want to have sex and nothing to do with feelings for you.

Thirdly sorry to be harsh dude but after twice in bed and you giuys are still friends only??? Its a very clear signal that she treats you as a fuck buddy. If it was serious shit and she really wanted something with you, dont you think you two would have talked about it??? Or at least be acknowledging each other as a couple???

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just keep her as a buddy bro .. bonk when theres a chance ... u know if things will change if she behaves differently ... towards u .... let the good times roll ... and let them come naturally ... u are thinking a bit too much ... i think ...

in any case if she becomes yr GF and then still fools ard .. u can do the same too ... then i guess the stauts of GF will down grade to sort of like flings or buddy again .... there will always be a past for anyone u meet .. and u can never garrantee the future ... just enjoy the good company u have ... and if things work out they will ... if not just too bad .. thats life ..

its like year 2005 now ... almost 90% of the guys and gals go choing .... flings .. this and that ... i think we are getting real open ...want a wife or gf without past or 12 fear dammm secure .. get a wife from Veit ehehehee ...