Originally Posted by JeffArch (Post 2928070)

I too had a fair share of having an affair with my own assistant. Though the initial phase was erotic and exciting, I am now left heart broken.. Sharing my story here...

I am married for almost 10 yrs and have a wonderful wife, 2 lovely boys. I have never strayed till last year Aug, I started to have an affair with my own assistant, Serene (not her real name). Serene is a very attractive woman and will turn heads where ever she goes. She was even approached by model agency on the street for photo trials. Needless to say, I was very proud having her round my arms when we went out. Sex with her was wonderful especially seeing her 34D boobs when she is riding me. She even allow me to have anal sex with her. However, Serene is also a married woman and has a young child.

Our affair had been a tumultuous one…it lasted for about 9 months and in between these time her husband found out about us.. At that time, Serene was very much in love with me and was ready to divorce her husband and stay with me. However, though I really loved her, I cannot bear to leave my wife and family. There was also part of Serene that made me hesitate.. and that is she attracts men just like bees to honey..she was never short of suitors. Everywhere she goes, especially when she clubs, there will be hordes of men asking for her numbers. Even during her younger days, she had countless ONS and though she had admitted all her past to me, I was still concern that eventually she may leave me..

Anyway, Serene eventually reconciled back with her husband as I was not willing to commit to her. But we still continued our affair despite all that had happened. Early January, her husband went overseas to work on a 3 years assignment. It was because of me, Serene had decided to stay in Singapore and not leave with her husband to overseas. After her husband left Singapore, we got even closer and almost spending everyday together.

About 1 month ago, we had a heated argument about our relationship. Serene ended up crying because I was again not ready to divorce my wife. On that night, she went to look for another man for comfort.. and the person happens to be one of my junior staff whom had liked her as well..They drank and even had sex on the same night.. I was of course devastated when she told me about it. In fact, she even said she don’t love me anymore and wanted to stay with this colleague of ours. She had only known this person for less than 1 month.

To make a story short, she actually came back to me again after 2 weeks. I don’t know whether she still really love me at that time but now again, she has left me for the same person.. It has been a month since then and she is still with him.. I am really troubled now as I really love her deeply. To make matters worst, as she reports to me, I see her everyday with the other guy. Till now, my wife is still not fully aware of our past affair though she had suspected it but never really confronted me.

I don’t know whether she is doing this to make me jealous or she really has fallen for the other guy. I am going crazy now.. I cannot forget her but yet I feel that I should not break my wife’s heart.. Though I am now really contemplating of leaving my wife coz I didn’t know I will miss Serene so much.. I am thinking of her almost every minute of the day…

My advice is..if you want to have an affair.. try not to have it with your direct report unless you are ready to accept the consequences if anything goes wrong..I am a classic example, though I still have my family, I dont know why I still long for her.