Miscellaneous ramblings of a cheongster
 

Decided to stick it here since it'll invariably touch on heart matters :D

Been cheonging for years, got most of the t-shirts, and lately feel like I'm loosing interest in this hobby. Age must be part of the reason and I can't believe I'm spending more time on an online sex-oriented RPG game than prowling the area G and visiting my gals in their home towns :rolleyes:

OMG, I'm begining to think clicking a few buttons in the game has something to do with real sex... help...

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Hahaha!.. Talk about aging with the time eh?.. Alternate realm / dimension sex?

Well bro goodpartner, not really sure what's your age group but I think can say roughly around 30s lah.. Perhaps as you say age does play as a factor in your interest of sexuality. But I'll dare say that besides that factor, the amount of time that you have "cheonged" also plays a part..

How to put it? Take me for example: I'm 32 this year and I've been in the "scene" for the last 13 years, so technically it means I've started since 18.. (Wow.. Didn't realise this long until I typed it out..)

Anyway for my part, I've grown immune to GL/FL/WL or whatsoever nowadays too.. Last time I'm used to if whenever saw a SYT with SKIRT on (I'm a sucker for skirt dresses!!), my blood will rage and will want to explore further to see how pretty is that lass.. Now different already! If bypass any lady in GL, pretty lass or not, with dress or without dress ("Sure or not?.. Yeah, right..."), it seems not really able to arouse me anymore..

I deduce that for my case it's simply, probably, tired of cheonging, to look for lass, the energy to keep looking out.. I suppose I think that instead of me out there hunting, I'll rather them come to me on a silver platter instead.. :D

But hey, that might still not be enough to get me interested 'cause... Now I've already got somebody else actually... Hehehe...:p

Cheers!

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Agreed with u.
I also like not very keen in finding FL liao.
Guess humans r like that.
Start to lose interest when anything bcome too regular.
Unless its yr favour hobby lah.

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Sherlock Holmes and the Mystery of Lost Mojo...take it easy bros, fuck I'm also like that!

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Hi Bro Gaofar,

How are you, man? Talk about aging with the time..hehehe

Women, Chicks and Girls and Us are like Wine.

Please allow me my 2cents worth of wine aging to try to explain what happens as wines age and to dispel the myth that wines continue to improve with age.

We seem to have had a rash with old bottles of wine wondering if they are any good or wondering why they don’t taste as good as they did a few years ago.

First and foremost, wine is made to be consumed, not aged. That having been said, most wines do benefit from a little age, and with the exception of wines priced at over $100 per bottle, most wines have been sufficiently aged for our en-joyment when they are purchased from a store or winery.

Please note not to age the white wines more than 4 or 5 years from the vintage date (not the date of purchase) and red wines no more than 6 years. However, some sulfite free red wine brands should not be aged at all!

Keep in mind that wine is fruit juice, and fruit juice will lose its fresh fruit character as it gets older. A year or two of aging allows the fruit characters to “marry” and the more elusive bouquet to form.

In addition, the tannins begin to soften and the apparent harshness of a young wine begins to disappear. However, excessive aging allows these changes to progress too far, and if a wine becomes too soft and/or the fruit structure becomes too muddy, we refer to it as “flabby.”

A few wines (much less than 1% worldwide) are made for extensive aging, and these are the wines that costing hundreds or thousands of dollars per bottle. Because of their unusual aging potential and relative scarcity, these wines are collector’s items, and as such, the law of supply and demand drives the price upwards. The other 99+% are designed for consumption within a few months or a year or 2 after the grapes are harvested. Most wines receive sufficient aging for complete enjoyment in the bag between the store and our table.

If we ever “forget” about a bottle of wine and open it when it is “over the hill”, don’t despair – we can always cook with it or use it as a marinade. Old wine loses its fruit character; red wines begin to taste like prune juice and white wines taste like burnt apple sauce, but an old wine will not poison you or make you sick. Fortunately, nothing pathogenic to humans can live in wine. It will simply taste bad.

My advice: If the wine tastes good now, it may not get any better, so drink up and enjoy it while it’s good. Cheers and Chill to all good bros! :D

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I still like sex.
Still like to look at pretty and sexy gals.
Just that I m not that horny anymore.
Thats y semi-retired.;)

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I've no specific theme for this thread. Just wanted to own one to jot down random thoughts about my cheongster life. This is a good start.

LoL... I'm pretty sure in due time, SBF will have more threads like this for "uncles" to chat about "aged sex" if there's such a term. Maciam like those uncles who sit around in geylang coffee shop to talk cock but oblivious to the parade nearby.

Me not over 40 yet lor and blessed with those genes that make me look in the 20's especially to most overseas chicks. :cool:


This one I share similar sentiments. The challenge and sextisfaction now come in the form of being hunted. I guess it has to do with age too, the joy derived from still being "desirable" at this age. LMAO


chim...aged sex I mentioned above, but wine...ok but still I blur :confused:


Welcum brudder :D

The truth is that I'm still horny, but not by sight alone. Heck, not even touch! Nowdays when I pay for sex, I've this fear of un-performance in my mind so much so that it actually affects the actual performance!

Now, I only enjoy sex when I know for sure that the gal also enjoys it with me...something lidat.

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Exactly!!! ;)

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Me not that horny is also bcos work too many at a time.
Also hate the mind game u had to play when hving sex.
And bro, even yr own gf might not b enjoying all the time.
So don't think FL will since they 1 day at least do 1 time.

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Somehow, that's the challenge leh. It's exactly because they are pros and have multiple sex per day that when they truly enjoy it with you - it'll make your day right? It's not just fuck-n-forget, but fuck-n-concquer. (Disclaimer: I take it that all seasoned cheongsters here can smell KC tactics a mile away)

Usually I focus my investment on those demure and shy type.... slowly gaining their trust, opening up their heart, and eventually really enjoy the sex with me. E.g. some pros don't even allow frenching nor let you touch here and there during the first visit... then after a few more visits... progess from everything no-no....to frenching... free sex... all the way to... *ahem* (won't mention else I'll get zap - not that I'll do it :p).

Ya, I'm something like a player (or bastard?!) lidat, but hey I always treat them well and make known my intention (to play) along the way - okie maybe after they've fallen for me (so ya, bastard!). If they can accept me for who I am after that, then adds on to my trophy collection. Cum'on, I can't be the only one who play this way around here :rolleyes:

Well, with too many of these, some will get sticky... very sticky. A few almost melted my hearts but I stop short of getting that forbidden T-shirt too.

And so... matters of the heart.....:D

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girls r like that bro, hw they treat u depend on hw they see u in their eyes, their feelings 4 u, irregardless of FL or non-FL,

in the case of FL,

if no feelings 4 u at all, just fark 4 $$$ = wayang wayang only, SOP sex, GFE only if r robert or yan dao or can make her happy

if gt some feelings 4 u, doesnt see u as purely a customer, or doesnt see u as a bad guy = abit more than SOP sex, willing to give some GFE, willing to tcss with u, willing to ask 4 yr name.:D

if gt more feelings 4 u, enjoys yr company and sees u as a friend instead of customer = can expect more fun with her, GFE on the rise and also gt the chance to see the other faces of her, u will also end up liking her more or dislike her

if she falls 4 u = like wat u said in yr post, can play bastard liao but also time to plan escape route in case things get out of hand or gets too sticky.:p

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Having gone through a couple of failed marriages I've decided to lead a single's life ever since. But...women, how can we live without them.... how can we live with them :rolleyes:

Mingling with WL so often, I'm afraid it's only a matter of time before I have my own sad fuck story. I'm in a very dangerous position :o

Some of these WL are just so irresistible. :D

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i've seen a couple of friends gone thru failed marriages and it somehow have an impact on me as well. I've not been thru marriage but 30 something guys like us have to either get a viet bride abroad or look for those left on the shelf sg women to marry just for the sake of getting marriage which in my opinion will have a higher tendency to fail.
Singlehood might not be a bad thing afterall especially if u have a few close friends in the same situation.

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Yea, let's chat about singlehood. ;)

I've little encounter with viet gals except at the bars and perhaps seen one friend went through a failed marriage with a viet wife too. She speaks good english and quite trendy type, not a WL.

Picking one from those marriage agency for overseas wife... no experience. I was walking pass Golden Mile Tower that day and saw a group of Thai (I think) in one of the agency...all quite young, got a couple of SYT who are lookers. If only I'm ready for another marriage maybe I'll walk in there and then :D

As far as Thai, PRC and Indonesian WL which I've more KC experiences with, I would rank Thai and Indo close, with PRC far off as desirable life partners. It should have a lot to do with their culture. Baring the exceptions, PRCs are generally too materialistic, Thai can be really genuine at heart, and Indo gals are less demanding too.

It's true, flocks of the same feather fly together (or watever...lol), my close buddies are roughly in the same kind of situation like me. Just wondering when we grow old, will we miss out much in life, like kids and stuffs. Hate to becum those lonely old men in future - die also nobody know lidat :(

With the trend that I'm having on commercial sex (the need to seek feeling to really enjoy a good fuck), it's not much difference from paying for emotional thingy. We've all heard stories of old uncles paying WL just to chit chat - Scary.

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know this singlehood topic would popped up soon :)

Many of my friends, both males and females, have been or are getting married. So every time I get a wedding invite, I become sentimental. People saying that the lack of romance is a con for staying single and it is not the myth of freedom. A relationship by definition requires compromise, and compromise means the "loss" of absolute freedom.

I don’t know about the ladies, but most guys are not ready to surrender their “Absolute Freedom” until say their late 30's, and nowadays probably the early 40's. I guess guys don’t really grow up until later in life. In the immortal words of one prominent celebrity who was quoted for cheating on his wife, he committed a "youthful indiscretion." He was 50 when he had the affair.

I'm single and in a relationship now that may lead to something--commitment? (OH! NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!)... To tell you the truth, I rather enjoy being single but I got bored of one night stands and meaningless partying. Now I look forward to spending weekends to be with my galfriend - it makes the day somehow brighter. It can sometimes be difficult because there are of course obligations when sharing your life however the cost is certainly worth it. I would still prefer commitment and all the happiness and sense of purpose it brings to life. I know I will miss my exciting bachelor days when I got "hitched", along with the peace, quiet and ample free time when I wanted it.

In my perfect world, my wife and kids would live next door :p

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Life's a bitch isnt it.......
When you're not married and see others marry, you wish you were
When you're married and you see those singles enjoy fruits of singlehood, you wish you were too.....
Hahaha, this will have no end and no beginning.
The only end to it is when one finds self fulfillment, if not, they can marry divorce and be single again and get married they'll still not find the end!

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Yeah right, the above sums up my thoughts and life controversial. :p:rolleyes:


It's true with age, this sense of purpose will become stronger, regardless of what a player one may be in the younger days. So perhaps the solution is not to get committed until you've "play enuff" - whatever that means.

Sometimes I admire those bros who can maintain a happy family life but lead a double life makan outside without the wife knowing - plus leading such a life without guilt and still have complete trust from the wife. I for one just cannot do this without having nightmares. I threw in the towel as I can't bear to lead such double life without guilt. Laudable it may seems but deep in me I really wanna to play. That's why I always warn bros not to start playing if they can help it :D

Ya, LOL.

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But bro goodpartner, this is a commercial sex forum. The views you get from here can be a little skewed towards that end. Almost everybody is sexually deprived in singapore or for that matter in the world as well. Sex is a constant need, it is not wrong to seek sexual fulfilment. It is the desire that you peg it to, that creates problem, esp when we mix emotional fulfilment with sexual fulfilment. Again, it is not wrong too, it is just who suffers in the end. If you constantly seek extra-marital sex, you suffer from that constant need to keep it there. You suffer when it is exposed. You suffer when you lose your wife's trust. But dun come back and say, hey why the society cannot allow me to have sex with WL. Come on, geylang is there with all those chicks lined up to give you pleasure. Society only punishes you when you can't pay the price for your actions.

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Yeah, that's what I often tell others here too (abt the skewed views)...lol ;)

My situation is not that simple and definitely not anyone can appreciate given the little I've share so far.

All I'm saying is that some bros can really lead a double life so skillfully without concerning heart matters - which I admire.

I'm in federal jail now, so I'll have more time to ramble here more often :D

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Seems like our bro goodpartner has no more rambling left.. (or is he charging his energy level to one shot blast a good one out?..) :D

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hmph, talk about aging samsters and their pent-ups...i guess it's kinda inevitable too... some folks are commitment-shy but grow tired of a cheongster lifestyle eventually or are confronted by a palpable sense of loneliness at some drastic juncture in life. still others have been stuck in loveless relationships and unfulfilling lifestyles for all too long, and crave a little escapism and adventure away from their meaningless routines. so what's your story, morning glory? it's all part and parcel of growing up and growing old. confronting fears, uncertainty and angst while coming to terms with what your life means and where it is and will be going. and since everybody brings a different tale to the table, it's really hard to comment on stuff like this, without falling into the traps of overgeneralization and preachiness. unfortunately, one life is all we have (unless some sorta non-empirical religious mumbo jumbo works for you). we have to be responsible for our own choices, ultimately. because this life is the only singular and certain chance that we have, even if we may not quite like the cards we had been dealt along the way. live it. or lose it. often, the light that burns twice as bright burns twice as fast. what is your choice? what is action without consequence? and...don't forget...what are you here for? we are but limited and fragile things. before you even realise the true meaning of mortality, it's all over. just make sure you dun have any regrets when the end comes calling. bro TS, looking forward to more meandering rambles from you. cheers.

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married, single dun tin is issue
issue is little bro rule big bro:D

i single n still crave 4 sex:p
mo on prc bcos of the cultural proximity
but not p n FO type...
looking for GFE... n in the end get arggh BURNT!!! (KCed!!)

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unlcle kevin
u english teacher or wat
minus my pts
u got mental
dis is sammy forum not england forum da

some abbrev u no understand i educate u lo:D

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I'm back!!! :p

Would you all believe that I was kidnapped by a gorgeous chick (again) and have been busy fighting off rescuers all these while? :D

ANY cheonsger pls feel free to rumble and rant here, this is not only my thread.

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Bro, great post which sums up a lot from the hearts! I'm on the journey and indeed the eventuality is coming for me. I wonder what are my options by then :rolleyes:

Like the wise guy say, the most important things in life are not what we've lost nor what we want but can't get - it's what we're having NOW that really should matter most. Well, I guess I should just enjoy the journey as it is now...

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Earlier this week I found another new gem in one of the GL houses. :rolleyes:

Almost prettier than the prettiest terak I'm having now. Look super sweet with nice smile, petite with full B cup, I'm mesmerized by her looks :cool:

In my first visit, she told me she's from northern thailand (again!) and asked me to visit her next year during songkrang after she'll ROD. I never really take it seriously...

Today I visited her again and found her more attractive, with extra GFE...
She reminded me to look for her in her home town again, and jokingly ask me to marry her; said she likes my smile...

I asked if I will see a lot of Sg customers at her home during the songkrang, then we can all fight over the water war; she as the trophy...LoL. She say I'll be the only one she invite...

Then after the passionate FJ, told me the date of her only off-day and wanted me to meet her that day :D

OMG... here I go again, same old shit again... yadayadayadayada

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Life's not all about pretty gals and great sex lah. Set some goals ba. At different time of ur life u'll require different 'NEEDS'. Identify what u need now is important if not life will be meaningless le...



TS - Thks of letting me post in ur thread

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Hahaha!.. Bro goodpartner, kenna KCed all over again?..

Well, I do hope that you are seasoned enough to know what you are doing.. Sometimes, for myself, I place a limit telling myself that no matter what happens, you'll never finish finding a girl that will take your heart away, no matter how many times or how old you have become.. I've always tell myself that 2 or best 3 times are enough of heart attacks for me in my lifetime.. :D

Cheers and regards!

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Ya lor....and wat's that saying I read somewhere recently?? Something like..."Most people do not know what they want in life, but live their life looking for it." :D :rolleyes:

Mind sharing what are some of your life's goals bro?
It may help me get some ideas outside of looks and sex.

Say for myself, I'm not burdened by financial issues though I'm not rich but can retire anytime. Thinking of being a volunteer and spend a few years of my life so see what's "out there" - they say will help change my life's perspective?

But then if it's poverty and such, I think I've seen some among all my tirak's, qing-ai-de, and sayang's visits and "contributed" in my own little way - ya la, with some personal agenda, what a hypocrite heh?

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The thing is that my chances of getting KCed (or opening myself to it) is especially high when the relationship with one of the existing tirak is getting more "mature". I seems to want to get myself KCed as some kind of escapade from another.

So maybe that's a "seasoned" act? :o

Case in point, I'm about to visit and celebrate the birthday of one of them for the 4th time...

p.s. I think the only way NOT to fall into such KC traps is to retire from cheonging althogether... plus this forum.... how is that possible?