得不到的真的是最怀念的吗?????
 

like wat's stated in e thread.... do u agree tt be it whether is in r/s or watever tt u wanted so much to have/get but cant get/have it n e tot of it keeps running ard in ur mind???? normally u can't concentrate in doing ur daily routine s per norm cos u been pondering over it??? can sumbody pls advice???? cos I'm encountering some of tis kinda problems n I'm gg bonkers soon!!!!

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tired is e only word I can tink of nw!!!! Lost of interest in doin my daily routines!!!!! Omfg...... tis is sibei unlike me!!!!!shit!!!! I tink it's reali bothering me!!!! been a wk n been tryin 2 make myself nt tink of him but juz dunno y it's runnin ard in my mind!!!! WTF is wrong w me???

你要结束我还想要付出，能不能最后的吻，能不能幸福没有伤痕。爱你爱到恨了你，恨你让我如此爱你，我恨你， 我恨你但是我更爱你。

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我的離開 對你卻是自在
就算沒有她 你說結局也是分開
能不能捲土重來 能不能我等你回來
你的孤獨 對我卻是酸楚
愛走到末路 你要結束我還想付出
能不能最後的吻 能不能幸福沒有傷痕
愛你愛到恨了你 恨你讓我如此愛
我恨你 我恨你 但是我更愛你
愛你愛到恨了你 恨你讓我如此愛
不恨你 不恨你 那是不夠愛你
最愛最恨都是你 最愛最恨都是你


e above lyrics describe my feeling for him nw even though thr's no 3rd party at all

Re: 得不到的真的是最怀念的吗?????
 

girl , let and let die . time will dilute the yearning , lust and love .

Re: 得不到的真的是最怀念的吗?????
 

This kind of feeling can last for years, i can understand cos i hv been thru. Everytime i go somewhere, i start looking into the crowd hoping to see her face.

And the worst thing i had done is looking for a galfren who looks like her to replace what i missed. And i found out later in life that although she resembles her, there is alot more missing other than resemblance. Nothing can replaced.

Either you do what u hv to do now to be with him, otherwise u will end up just like me, always looking for a replacement to fill up the empty void left behind.

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Looking for replacements wil nvr b fair for both parties!!!!!
juz dunno y I juz can't let go!!!!

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you can let go. and you will. go no contact and make yourself busy with other things.
the more you pine over him, the more you clingy and unattractive you will seem to him and the only end result is that you will push him away further.

going no contact, you will gradually think of him less and will help you heal yourself, and is your best chance to get his attention (in a good way). it's not a guarantee, but it's your best chance to get him. and if not, it won't matter because by then you'd not care at all. i know, because i was in the same boat. you'll get through this! i'm with you in spirit! remove everything about him from your life and find yourself!

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It happen more than twenty years ago, every now n then, i playback the events on my mind. If i can turn the clock backwards, i will never let her leave. It was pride, arrogant, dignity and i was young then and my world was so big, i totally ignored her. Yes now i have my regrets. I even took the trouble to find out where she lives n work but i hv no guts to approach her n anyway she is divorced with 2 kids. Sometimes when i m down, i drive all the way near her house just to catch a glimpse of her from far. And how i know she divorced from facebook lor.

I think u r just like me. It will come back n haunt u every now n then.

Re: 得不到的真的是最怀念的吗?????
 

You are still too young, after several years you will notice it is just a trivial, a experience, and not important at all

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Actually i got attracted by the title "得不到的真的是最怀念的吗?"
For my situation, it was "得到了又不会珍惜最怀念的，最遗憾的。"

My first love was the perfect girl (attitude, behaviour, face, figure)...
But during that time I was looking for greener pasture as I thought I could find a better one (was young and dumb that time)...
Then after the breakup (which I initiated), immediately i felt a sharp pain in my heart and she left with face full of tears (i think she must be 5 or 10 times more painful than me)...
Yes and now years on, i still feel the pain in me, although i have a wife now and she is good but still no where near her...
And like bro magical said, I drove to the place she works to catch a glimpse of her but no guts to approach her...
One most agonizing moment was when I just stood 2 meters away from her back while she was carrying a heavy load and I have no guts to offer to help her, just stood there and tears poured down my eyes...
5 years past and until now she still remained single and no bf after me...
I think I've ruined her life...

But i think time is still the best remedy...
Somehow human beings need to learn, either the hard way or the soft way...
I learned the hard way and my advice for those bros who always like to flirt and look around........PLEASE CHERISH THE ONE BESIDE YOU NOW!!!

Re: 得不到的真的是最怀念的吗?????
 

yes.....珍惜眼前人肯定没错的。否则会后悔莫及。

tt's I tink it's rather true than u cherish watever u have nw!!!!! cos u nvr knw when is e next moment u gonna lose e person/thing.
ppl always say I'm nt thinking rational enuff when it comes to things like tt.... I dun deny e fact tt i'll put in more effort than anybody when it comes to emotional....is tt bcos I'm lack of self confi??? I always ask myself y m I always at e losing end??? cos I'm a lady? NO!!!!! I'm losing cos I'm investing too much emotions!!!! maybe it's juz me who is plain dumb to ppl who r always nice & dotes me!!!!! at e end of e day, do wat i deem fit n follow my heart is all I do nw!!!!


I thank all of u for ur advices n apologize if I've made u tink of ur unhappy n 痛苦's past!!!! thks ppl!!!! E world wun stop spinnin due to a lil setback

Re: 得不到的真的是最怀念的吗?????
 

altho i have no power but up u in my heart bro:o

Re: 残念
 

遗憾有时是伴随着后悔的情景. 失去了他,实在可惜. 他已走远, 就让内心一点点残存的残念陪着你吧! 因为后悔是比损失更大的损失, 比错误更大的错误. 调整你的视线, 生命正在驶向下一站, 不要在伤感中错失沿途的景观. ;)

Perhaps you might want to read this:
http://sammyboyforum.com/showthread.php?t=232578

Re: 残念
 

Thks!!!! I'm ok nw!!!

Re: 得不到的真的是最怀念的吗?????
 

你在我心里已不存在了！！！！我已死心了！！！

当女人对你说心灰意冷时，她真的是对你没有任何留念了！！！

Re: 得不到的真的是最怀念的吗?????
 

This remind me 22 years ago till now i still miss her pretty smile. As my prode I dun want to stir into triangle love, I gave up... Later she called me, but I miss the opportunity again. End up we get married same year and month but different partner.:(

Re: 得不到的真的是最怀念的吗?????
 

I said the exact words to a girl 2 weeks ago. :o :rolleyes:

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I can only hope that you really gave up on him and wouldn't feel hurt. Wishing you the speediest of recoveries from your emotional scarring...

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如果想哭我自己会找地方
你不必担心我会弄湿你肩膀
走在街上到处是寂寞的人
我想谁都不要同情的眼光
受一点伤并不是可怕的事
人就是这样才会愈来愈坚强
谁叫男人永远比女人清楚
爱情它何时该收何时该放

你走吧我不哭无论多痛苦
你走吧我不哭就算会迷路

明天一个人的我依然会微笑
虽然它或许也是伤心的开始
爱情的轮回总是一次又一次
是悲是喜终将都变成往事

明天一个人的我依然会微笑
那怕早已没有人记得我名字
别问我为何执迷不悟的尝试
女人生来就多这么一点痴

tis is hw I feel nw!!!! I wil n I muz move on!!!! thks for all e advices!!!!

Re: 得不到的真的是最怀念的吗?????
 

Remember how you were before this person appeared?
You are just going back to that state, let your body adjust, it'll take some time but dun fight it neither look for a fast cure.
Look forward and walk forward, do not look back, neither let the chains of the past hold you back, cos if anyone is holding you back, its only you yourself.
Keep the memories but wake up to reality.
That's the way to embrace life!

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what's yours is yours.
if is not meant to be, is never be.

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哭了就算了, 眼前的这个男人, 千般好, 万般好, 处处是优点, 他不爱你, 这点, 你永远改变不了. 分手时, 不哭. 当然, 不是要你一点都不哭. 当着面, 别哭, 背地里, 往死里哭, 但要提醒自己,这是最后一次哭, 最后一次放肆自己去痛. 心里能装着一些时间带不走的淡淡悲伤, 爱自己多一点, 也是一种幸福! ;)

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thks so much!!!!!!!!! i gonna b fine soon!!!!!!!!!

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thks!!!!!!!!!!! i'm gonna get over soon!!!!!!!!!!!

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Hey girl, I am going through the same shit and it has been almost 2 $% years. Consider yourself lucky that the other party isn't continually pulling your strings and prolonging the pain, yoyo-ing you around. Then it drags and drags with bouts of hope then disappointment, betrayal, dispair then hope again,.... it's like going through breakups after breakups with the same person.

You just have to ride this out. Everyone can give you logical answers and direction but your mind is never at the heart, so it is damn$% useless and sometimes down right boring and frustrating hearing the same old advice which you could very well give to someone else if you weren't in the shit pile. If you are conscious enough, you've probably given yourself that same advice in those moments of 'enuf is enuf!'. After a while, time won't heal, but you'll get used to it and there will be sufficient distractions to divert your energy. But pray he doesn't come back and rekindle that little hope that you'll carry with you forever.

Before I signoff, here's a BIG HUG from a fellow brother who is still sitting in his pile of shit similar to yours... *HUGS and MUACKS*

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爱情是什么？
　　小时候的爱情是蓝天，希望有白云给它做伴，
　　再大点的爱情是船，希望有海洋给它做伴，
　　再再大点的爱情是沙，希望风能给它做伴，
　　婚后的爱情是小溪，希望山涧给它做伴，
　　中年的爱情是干柴，希望烈火给它作伴
　　老年的爱情是地球，希望月亮给它做伴。
　　很多时候我们感叹自己没有真爱，得不到爱，
其实我们都爱过，被爱过，体验过，追求过，放弃过，
　　有些人看透了，有些人放不下，放不下是因为看不透，
　　看不透是因为觉悟低，觉悟低是因为追求低，
　　追求低是因为没志向，没志向是因为受挫折，
　　受挫折是因为爱错了，早知如此何必当初，
　　所以不要去抱怨哦，
　　也不要说对不起哦，
　　哈哈，反正爱情就是个神奇的圈圈，
　　别被它诅咒了，
　　人生有很多个圈圈，
　　勇敢的去被诅咒吧.

Re: 得不到的真的是最怀念的吗?????
 

thanks...
up you back... (in my heart of coz)

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Hi all,

Actually r/s thus type of thing take 2 hand to clap. And most importantly is to find someone tt love u and u love him/her. There is really no point dragging on when he/she don't love u as there won't be any happiness. Personally I have encounter a few bad experience and I learn from there.
Anyway life is short and why not we spend our life happily and cheerfully. Hope all bros/Sis here get over with it soon.
Tattoo: ur post here v emo. Hope u really 放下来了而不是欺骗ownself as I know it's not easily to say put down then put down. But moral support here for u

Re: 得不到的真的是最怀念的吗?????
 

bitch!!!!!!!!!!! can you like tell me what's happening????

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TS, I hope that your feelings has, or will soon shift from the above song to this chorus.

走在漫漫人生路
点点滴滴都幸福
为爱勇敢付出失败从不在乎
哪怕我一生孤独
回头看看来时路
对与错我都满足
就算起起落落只要不枉此生
走在漫漫人生路