Wife behave like a 'dead fish' on bed
 

Dear bros,

My wife and I are married for 5 yrs already, ever since the first time we have sex, she has been behaving like a dead fish. I am alway the one who 'service' her, all she did was moaning and do nothing

I even play XXX movie to let her see, so she can at least 'learn', but to no result. She dont even like to touch my penis, she said she don't like to touch. Everytime we have sex, she only want man on top position. I alway made sure she cum first before me because i believe in both of us should enjoy sex together but i doubt she think the same like me.

So I want to ask any bro here have same problem like me? If yes, how u solve the problem?

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I think the bros from the 'dead fish' thread should learn from the 'is my gf an ex-fl?' thread and vice versa.

Sorry bro to crack a silly joke at your expense. One question, in your normal day life, are you also the one giving while she's the one receiving? I think many couples regularly bring their norms to bed as well.

You probably need to find out a few things first, is she under an impression that sex is taboo or should have strict SOP or men's job? These are mindset that really impedes her from even believing sex can be fun.

Maybe you should try to initiate sex at different place in the house (if permitted of cos), the first being the bathroom. If at all times, sex happens only on the same old bed, then its also the same old sex. At least in the bath or for example in the living room, she can't just lie down.

Talk dirty before you do it, I mean dun terrify her by saying you want to eat her pussy now when you all are having dinner, but take it one step at a time, like while you watching tv just tell her she makes you want to have sex this moment becos she looks very different today and then do it there and then.

There was this time when my (now) ex was chatting online and playing games in the study, I went and ask her to sit on my laps while I watch her play. Then I automatically rabba her (I always like the neck area) and whsper into her ears, actually was without any devious intention, but after 20 minutes she said lets do it now. The whole session was on that chair.

Hope it helps bro. You probably want to time it during her ovulating period when she is more open to sex though.

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haha good suggestion bro!

anyway bro yellowbird, care to tell us how you actually service your wife? maybe more bros here can give some tips or guidance to make her feel better. :)

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Maybe she doesnt feel like doing it at that time. Find something interesting to turn her on

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Buy whip and leather! *nah... just kidding...

Anyhow, dead fish is usually due to naiveness and she may not know how much that she's missing out. From what the TS has described, he's only doing missionary... just basic poke poke poke. Well, try foreplay. She don't have to react much.... but you do your foreplay with her... ;) There was a thread a long time ago (dunno if its still there) on giving your partner an orgasm without penetration. Read and learn bro.

Let me relate to my gf (now wife). Initially she also dead fish. But after a while, I was inventing new styles asking her to try. Then, go to a few MP and learn some 'skills' and do some massages on her. I broke the ice one day by telling my gf that I wanted to do it with her clothes on... just took out her panties and bonked in the hall. Anyway, don't just reserve having sex at night when both of you are tired...

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For some goody two shoes chabor, I think they have this feeling that making love is sex and is 'dirty' .. so maybe you might want a change of tact .. make her realise that it is normal and that sex is ok etc etc

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[QUOTE=Yellowbird;2672659]
I even play XXX movie to let her see, so she can at least 'learn', but to no result. [QUOTE]

bro, take it easy, she ain't gonna change bcos of a movie

its obvious she as psychological issues to resolve.. .
swallow your pride, and both seek counselling
she needs to understand that sex is natural & enjoyable & necessary for EVERYONE

don't suffer the same mistake as me
bcos of pride & thinking of not pressurising her i kept silent for 12 years
now looking back, i see that i was a STUPID MARTYR
i should hv spoken up . . .i dun blame her . . .i take full responsiblity for my inaction

i am now in a situation i would never have imagine to happen, but i can see that its natural to happen. i met someone else i like, getting the lovin' that i wasn't gettin' from my partner. . . all due OUR POOR COMMUNICATION

Now busy trying to nagivate my way thru the mess i created . . .:rolleyes:

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Initiate foreplay and nothing else. Keep doing this and sooner or later, she will get so horny and will do something for you to get you to move to the next step

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As long as she doesn't smell like a dead fish, consider yourself lucky. :p

Wives are not for casual bonking my friend. They are there to make your babies and look after them once they're born.

If you want some fun, fuck a whore instead.

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Boss you promoting extra marital affairs here :eek: I thought all along your stand is to stay faithful to the wife ...

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Yellowbird bro, dont worry. You arent alone here. I suffered the same as you! I always named my wife "(Dead Log) fucking you like motionless just moaning your way thru. You never initiate sex and I was the one to my 1st move. Unlike my other friends wife can initiate sex to their husband or acting desire, passionate and wanted more; but you never and dont?" :mad:

I have been married since year 2000 and since given birth in late 2006. She has been busy taking care of our Newborn & 17 months old girls now, work and other house work. She always complained headache, body-ache, tired and suffered insomia. I have been silent and not forcing her to get intimate cos I was thinking, there wldnt be any fun & enjoyment at All when she is not well...This always went On...and I knew the same old story from her side. Since late 2006, we only had twice intercourse and both failed on me to perform. Dont ask me why? Maybe I have lost interest having sex with my own wife cos I feel I was the one servicing her all the time and she just lay down like a FL. I was feeling so high during our passionates kisses & foreplay with my brother rock harden. She does touch my penis during her our foreplay & even tickle my nips but she doesnt like doggy/ sit on me, prefers missionary. Last 2 times, my insertion was fine and few poke...poke & poke even created her pussy became so wet! However, something not right for me lah? My bro gradually soften up and loosing stamina. This doesnt happen to me with the SYT FL, I enjoyed myself with them and last longer.:confused: After last 2 attempt, I put a stop having sex with her for coming 3 months already and she acting normal. Dont see if she needed to be pleased or wanted to ve intercourse? I am very close to my mother, I always share with her anything since I was younger and I am also her favourite son of other brother. She told me, "I think your wife something wrong with her sex hormone or is she not interested with sex?" I said, I dont know! My mom added, "so funny. You didnt touch her and ask for sex she also acts blur. Why dont you try not doing anything for sometime, let observe if she wants SEX." After a long wait, back to square 1 (Not asking & Crazy Desire....trying to act cool). I also sian oredi! I will DIY myself or pay a little for a SYT recommended by some Senior Bros to me? I have set my mentality, even no sex with my wife. I am feeling contented by other pleasure. I dont mind sharing with the bros here. I kenak caught by my wife watching AV on my computer, she doesnt react anything, feeling mad and scolded me. I think she knew I needed these Stereote. Hahahah......:D

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Bro johntan, i really empathy with you.....i cant imagine same thing happen to me,espeically i really love her,i think i will suffer depression....:(

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Hmm, this is indeed a 'tragedy', I suggest you go seek counselling with your wife as this is the sort of thing that lead to breakups ... if you really love her, should really have heart to heart talk with her and emphasize the fact that this is a basic need ...

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maybe its due to her family background or some problems in the past? did you try talking to her about it? :rolleyes: try to arrange something different like surprise weekend getaways, some sex toys or play dress-up to spice up the atmosphere ;)

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Bro . . .cool down a bit :)
i been there. . .but it is a medical fact that hormones after birth take months to get back to normal to prevent preganancy too soon . . .

but having said that, she should get back to normal by now. . . now she's just using the baby as an excuse to DENY BOTH yourselves of a NATURAL & ENJOYABLE & NECESSARY part of life
again i say, seek counselling so u hv a neutral 3rd party telling her that she needs to get back on track - without ego or guilt bashing by either parties
dun suffer in silence like i did, and let your marriage slide . . .its TOO EASY TO DO NOTHING

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Agree with bros here that TS should seek counselling as soon as possible and have a heart to heart talk wif OC ..

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Most probably your wife feels like making love to you nowadays is just her "duty" or it is just a routine. Bro my suggestion is spend more time with your wife, bring her to places that you all used to visit when you "pak tor" with her and try to rekindle the kind of love and passion both of you used to have. Surprise her by buying small gifts for her once a while. I personally face this kind of problem about 2 years ago. We were married for 8 years then and our kid is about 5 years old, went for counseling and took up some advise from friends who face marriage problem but managed to salvage the marriage after both parties put in effort to make the relationship works out again. Just my humble opinion :)

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i think you should have a heart to heart with your wife to find out the problem or go for a marriage counselling. hope eventually everything goes well for you.

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If you already felt this way, what are the chances your wife feels likewise about you?

What do you expect her to do or respond?
Act like a pornstar, scream "fcuk me deeper", "ram hard into my ass", "cum in my mouth"?

In a previous thread, a samster suspected her gf to be FL-ing as she was too professional in bed and more skillful than him.

XXX movies are meant primarily for pleasure, enjoyment and entertainment.
Sex education was never the main intended purpose.

I suggest you n wife go for sex counseling to find out the real problem.

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Sorry if I sound harsh, but why didn't you test-drive before signing the contract?

If you don't test-drive, and the driving experience is important to you, then it's quite a poor case of judgement.

On the other hand, maybe she's watching too much Jap pr0n. Japanese sex is about the girl lying there and moaning away, that's why they call girls Maguro, literally Tuna. The man must initiate always, in fact the man is the one who will manipulate the Maguro into position as well.

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Not all gers let you test drive .... maybe he din have chance to test drive ...
And even if you test drive, it doesnt mean after marriage it will perform the same ... on hind sight we can say alot of things, but what should be done now is solve the problem first and later can see what went wrong

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alamak bro dun worry lah same old story...many married men face this issue...that why fl are there for us to relieve our fustration..

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Dear Bros,

Thanks for your replies. Sometimes, I really don't like making love to her at all, I don;t enjoy at all although I did cum at the end of the day. I alway made sure she cummed first by giving her oral sex, masterbate etc. All the things that I knew, I have already tried. She dont like girl on top, don't like doggie, basically everything except me on top her.

I am seriourly thinking of going to fl in future to sextify myself. I will stop making love to her for maybe half a year and see what happen..

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bro . . .dun start if you can . . .delay it . . cos hard to turn back

COMMUNICATE with her . . .seriously go for counselling to get neutral 3rd party to intervene without each others ego & guilt . . duns start FL

DUN NEED THESE MIND GAMES of TESTING HER

Cos u got it better than me and still have chance . . .mine only do if want to have kids . . .even only then dun like frenching, touch nips, touch breast, only recently allow licking her, missionary only NO FOREPLAY from her at all, i gotta all the work, definetly NO BJ, no cathbath . . .rub her clit like 1-2 mins "Come in quick before it gets to big", but she's still half wet only . . ."Dun take too long i can't breathe" . . "cumming yet?" . . .sigh :(

Tho she's a good partner in every other aspect . . .this is not a FULL life for me . . . i regret not addressing this 12 years ago . . .now am not sure if i want to do it now, cos i started to look elsewhere . . found by accident i fell for someone . . .tho she not sure about me . . it does not really matter now . . cos if not her, it will be somebody else. . . . i now realised that i had an emotional void all these years & living a HALF life, WHAT A WASTE . . . coincidently, look at Bro Dirtyhairy . . . now that's a LIFE . . .

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[QUOTE=Yellowbird;2672659]Dear bros,

My wife and I are married for 5 yrs already, ever since the first time we have sex, she has been behaving like a dead fish. I am alway the one who 'service' her, all she did was moaning and do nothing
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Sorry, what are you sharing here?:rolleyes:

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Wow so many 'dead fish' around, so this might be one of main reason guys are turning to WLs. Straits Times should have an article on this so maybe gers can wake up and not just keeping pointing at men and perform their duties too.

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Lucky my girl friend is a "lively" fish and always initiates sex. :D

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Like that do you still 'cheong' ... :D

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This is shocking. For me no matter how good a wife she is in other aspect, if she behaves like that, I dont think I want such a wife.

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how to cheong when everytime she meets me also wanna have sex with me? even when she got period she also cheong me....blow job/ handjob... I got no chance to cheong at all.....no more energy :p