Is it my problem or his?
 

i haven't been logging into sbf for quite a few months. decided to login last night since i have got nothing much to do.

anyway, i have been with my current bf for 6 months plus and when we first had sex, it was kind of awkward. i wasn't a virgin and he wasn't one either but somehow, our actions on the bed felt weird. he even suggested a break after our first time because he felt that the chemistry isn't right. (my first thought, he may just be after sex)
however we decided to forgo sex for the time being and things seems great. then we had sex for the second time. and surprisingly, it was good. from september to october or so, we did it 5-6 times. during that period, my sex drive wasn't high (as compared to my sex drive in the past) and after that, i stopped him from touching me for about 2-3 months or so till today. today when we did it, everything was ok at the start but somehow, i just can't get wet. i was very dry! when he inserted his fingers in, i can hear the wetness but after awhile, i got dry again and this resulted in him not able to penetrate me well. this isn't the first time. our foreplay is always good and can last up to 3 or 4 hours but when it comes to penetration, his cock either ends up sliding out because i am too wet or unable to penetrate because i am too dry and i will end up blowing him till he cums. i always feel bad when that happens because it's like i can't make him feel good through penetration.

any ideas on how i can make my sex with him much better? or is it because 2-3 months without sex, my drive dropped and thus i wasn't able to get wet easily? i used to be able to get really really wet very easily. eventhough sometimes i reject his request to have sex, i want to make him feel good on bed too when we do it.

Re: Is it my problem or his?
 

Suggest both to watch porn at the begining.

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might be hormone in balance on your side . very common with girls now days . its just a guess . Another suggestion is to get him to paint you !

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get him to paint you !

or gel might help ~

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from the start, both of u looking 4 sexual aspect, not pleasing each other nor involving much in2 mental aspect.
the greatest sex machine is the MIND
after ur 1st trial, phobia 4 each other mite hv built-up oredi (in other word: stuck up) therefore alot more mental barriers need 2 b overcome. furthermore u mentioned sumthin abt CHEMISTRY being not enuff, which is the greatest obstacle of all.....

2 me, it seems like u'r looking 4 other stuffs in a relationship, which is not sexual, dear. that is why u're driven by desperation to bonkin, not enjoyment in current relationship. perhaps its part n parcel of growin up or learnin.... do stay cool n enjoy ur relationship

jz sharin

Re: Is it my problem or his?
 

Neither!

There's no indication of affection or physical attraction as to how much you want each other. Trying hard to have sex is a bad idea. Maybe you should remain as friends.

Sex is convenience, Love is a debt.

Re: Is it my problem or his?
 

You said that the two of you are quite irregular in making love. When 2 couples do it regularly, they develop their own rhythm and pattern to adjust and coordinate to each other. Do longer foreplay, and try to make love on a more regular basis. May help, just a suggestion.

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If you are too wet, use a towel to dap dry your pussy. It works. If you are too dry, maybe you shouldn't be having 2-3 HOURS of foreplay. Your pussy may look like a hole but it's not an eternal well. After 2-3 hours of foreplay, you are surprised you are dry during sex?

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I guess both of u have too much on your minds. We are not machines. Relax yourselves and work on the romance. Things will fall in place. :)
Good luck!

Re: Is it my problem or his?
 

I agreed with bro naturegreen... If there's no chemistry, no point in forcing...

From the way you said, seems like there's some problem with yourself. Perhaps cut short the foreplay... Cause my ex used to dry up easily... Hence sometimes short foreplay will be just great...

And of course, might be that due to long time no sex... I suppose you don't really finger yourself often right?

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Sounds funny to me on the sex part, seems that interest is not there...
If got interest, sure can get wet, I dun think u lust for him. That explain
the most of the question since I read that you can 3 months no sex with him.
He's just a good company to u, maybe I'm wrong.

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I guess both of u r to stress up or may be he is not the one u really love

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start with quickies and move up the duration from there.

use "in the heat of the moment" mood more and plan less.

want to bonk, do it now and here. agree between the 2 of you for this to happen. whenever you want it, pull him into the nearest private space and vice versa. :)