A Very Lonely.and.Heartbroken Guy
 

Hi All I am a 21 year old guy.All along I have no girlfriend at all Because
I am not.good looking and I am FAT so girls usually avoid me and I dont.mix around much at all I feel very lonely when.I go out alone feel very sad when I see other people haivng girlfriend So sexy kind and got.feelings for.the.guy I lost mh self.esteem to live and my confidence dropped to 0 My friends advice me to go geylang and clubbing to have fun
but I really want love rather than sex Am I being stupid I know girls are.very hard.to maintain as well I only earn 1.3k monthly.I really wish to have a gf one day.
Everyone.in this.forum please advice.me.on what.to do thanks so much

Re: A Very Lonely.and.Heartbroken Guy
 

i personally do not think all girls go for look or money, i got cute and sweet looking friends with fat or big size bf, handsome anot i dunno how to judge la. (P.S. mostly like funny guys.)

Maybe you should listen to your friend and try joining them to clubbing or ktv, but must be street smart(understand what is love and what is not). expose to more girls and understand how to talk to girls, how you talk is very important ( i think).

reading post in this forum helps alot. good luck

Re: A Very Lonely.and.Heartbroken Guy
 

Looking for love?

Option 1. Be realistic and don't chase after the pretty girls. Go for someone closer to your size, someone who is not likely to enjoy much attention from other males.

Option 2. Join SDU/SDS and meet other singles.

Option 3. Go to an online matchmaking site and get a gf from another country. With the internet, there are plenty of opportunities to meet ladies from other countries who will be most happy to marry a Singaporean. Just remember to be totally honest so they go into a relationship with their eyes open.

(Avoid local matchmaking sites specializing in overseas brides because they are expensive -- unless you have about 10k to spare.)

Good luck, bro.

Re: A Very Lonely.and.Heartbroken Guy
 

Braddah it's easy to get into shape. Not all women go for looks and money. But most women prefer a man in shape with good self esteem confident and some life goals in career and business. At your age you have everything to gain by focusing on these things which really are for you. Love yourself and women will naturally come your way braddah.

Re: A Very Lonely.and.Heartbroken Guy
 

How come your situation same as my NS friend.
Mixed around with groups or go social networking website to know more girls.
U saying u earn 1.3k, I dont think is a big issue. How many of us started of with a high pay job? All have to find our ways out.
I think you should stay positive in life and start to do some changes.

Re: A Very Lonely.and.Heartbroken Guy
 

yeah dude, if you think you're not perfect in anyway then just try to change it? i'm sure you can do something about your weight if you really want to. change yourself for the better and i believe someone will appreciate you for your efforts. i agree with most bros, that knowing how to talk is very important. there are still girls who aren't that materialistic in this world, be patient.

Re: A Very Lonely.and.Heartbroken Guy
 

if it is not due to medication, you ought to do something to slim down. Takes a lot of self discipline, but a fitter appearance will project you as a motivated young guy to appeal to the opposite sex.

Re: A Very Lonely.and.Heartbroken Guy
 

21 years old, No friends?
13 hundred a month, Not enough? :rolleyes:
In that case, you should cut back on Emporio Armani stuffs :rolleyes:

Not good looking But not ugly and only fat
Losing self esteem to live? :rolleyes:
What is wrong with all these 90s youngsters nowadays? :rolleyes:

Re: A Very Lonely.and.Heartbroken Guy
 

Bro 4hm, this place I concur!!!

There was 1 night after a hectic trading session about 3am, was feeling very uptight cos markets were crashings across the board and a heated argument with my then girlfriend on her way home, and after sending her home, I drove to LCK cemetery, parked my car, stepped out, look at the vast space ahead and shouted at top of my voice!~~~~

All of a sudden, someone behind me shouted: Mr, what are you doing!!! :eek:

My heart skipped a few beats, turned around and saw a Malay oldman beside my car. He told me he was the caretaker of the nearby mosque and advised me to go home and don't disturb the dead. I gave him a "thanks, uncle with a weak smile", heed his advice and drove to a nearby pub for 2 shots of chivas before hitting home :D There is really no place without anybody in this tiny nation :p

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Re: A Very Lonely.and.Heartbroken Guy
 

1) slim down
2) work on getting rich first

I in no worry of getting girls (materialistic) but pocket hollow:p

Re: A Very Lonely.and.Heartbroken Guy
 

bro, u dont need to be rich to get love. love comes in all shape and size.
as for being fat, dont worry, but u can get in shape for healthy reasons, as well as make urself more attractive?

its not a 1week or even 1 month thing.. probably many months or maybe 1 or 2 years to get in shape.
just exercise... best way is to sweat like a pig by running every 2/3 days.
start off by walking briskly... after 1 month, then slowly jog and increase... takes tons of patience!

jiayou bro! :)

Re: A Very Lonely.and.Heartbroken Guy
 

Bro I can help u to get into shape . I am a Personnal trainer . Pm If you want a change.

Thank you all who gave me advice
 

Hi Everyone I thank you all for.the advices you all have given me

Re: A Very Lonely.and.Heartbroken Guy
 

Thanks all for the advices you all given me I will work.on it By the way how much does a personal trainer cost