What is most depressing to a man?
 

As a man in 40s, I have gone thru different situations. Family problems, financial problems, health problems...

I find the most depressing moment to be the time when u experience for the first time, the effects of ED. Just imagine, u are in bed with a hot chick and making out. U got her pussy all wet and she's feeling high. At the moment that u want to enter her, yr lil bro goes limp. Whatever u do or the girl does also cannot revive it.

That was the most depressing experience for me. Just want to share about this and see any bros feel the same way.

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Nothing beats exercise when it comes to keeping your virility going well into middle age.

Go for a bike ride 5 times a week for about 1 to 2 hours. Don't go easy. You need to work up a good sweat at about 60% to 80% of your maximum heart rate.

If you're too scared to ride on the roads, you can ride the trails on a mountain bike but watch out for those trees and ruts.

If you aren't confident enough to ride trails, your last resort is stationary bike in a gym environment. However, it can get pretty boring peddling away for a couple of hours and going nowhere. You need plenty of will power.

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When I was younger, I used to hang out at a friend's bicycle shop. Once we were talking about bicycle seats and how it pressed on the veins below our testicles. This is the area between our ass and testes. It seemed that long periods on a bike's seat compresses the veins and reduce blood supply to our vital part. That was the time I stopped cycling and switched to swimming. Less injury.

It's always good to keep a healthy lifestyle with exercises. But sometimes it's hard to explain why even a healthy person can suffer from a flaccid lil bro. A healthy young 25 yr old guy can even suffer this. It's the worse curse that can happen to any guy.

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I've been cycling all my life and never had a problem. However, for those who experience numbness in the testicle area, there are seats with a split down the middle..

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well, i also been wondering is this a myth ?
anyway whether i have the mood, i still go for some short distance cycling.

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I also have the problem. Sometimes my penis don't stiff (limp). After some foreplay, my penis is get erection. But after sometime, it become limp:mad:. A bad comment or response from my sexual partner, will directly make my penis doesn't work anymore.

When I can have a full erection, premature ejaculation's never hapen (not a problem in this situation). Only erection problems. I try viagra, but not very helpfull.

Yes maybe must do exercise like Sam said. My cholesterol level's high, maybe also have effect on this.

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Seems like you and I facing the same issue. I'm extremely sensitive towards my partner's feeling and mode during intimacy. If there is any disruption or negative feeling in me or my partner, my sexual desire will evaporate in a few seconds, it's frustrating indeed.

Besides having a helathy mind and physical body, to overcome or prevent this frustrating situation, I always try to arrange to have sex with my partner in a decent place with pleasant surrounding that makes us feel safe, secure and protected from external interruption including switching off our cell phones. Timing is another important factor to consider which you would have experienced a better performance in the morning after waking up from your bed or after taking a good nap in the afternoon.

Having sexual intercourse activity consistently subject to individual capability either on a daily basis, for 4-5 times a week, 2-3 times a week or only once a week would develop a satisfactory sexual experience for most in the longer term. Conceptually, I find it no difference from physical exercises, we need to build up our stamina in order to enjoy fully the most fulfilling love making exercises in one's lifetime ... Obviously, making love with different partners would yield different results - need to be selective sometime to minimize frustrated sexual experience, unfortunately this includes spouses and girl friends.

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Well, what you said are right, my friend. I am in my mid 40, being separated with my wife (almost divorced), make me looking women to fulfill my need. But unlike when I young, meet woman, fuck and ejaculate easily, now I need more time to relax and enjoy with my sexual partner. That's why when doing with WG, at least I take 90 minutes time. To have sex after wake up, must book the girl overnight:).

To make me feel better, I repeat (RO) in order to know the girl better (not to love, just making love :). All the situation make me perform better, unless there's a disturbtion like you mention above.

Thank you for your comment.

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Additional notes on saddle positions.

Adjustments has to be tried and tweaked during the 1st ride after installing a saddle.

Shift the saddle too forward or too far backwards aching or numbness in the testicle area will be felt.

Have the nose of the saddle tilt too high there will be stress at the area between the testicle and the penis after a while.

Have the nose of the saddle tilt too low and the butt will keep sliding down when braking the bike to slow down.

Seat post set too high up stress will be felt at the area between the testicle and inner thigh area.

Have the saddle tentatively installed at a neutral position and do a test ride on it with saddle adjustment tool at hand.

Adjust accordingly until the ideal saddle position is felt.

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Me also mid 40s but i dont go for WG except 1 time for the past few years. Divorced also for 7 years. Recently can get hard but it might soften suddenly without warning. I've started taking more care of my body, i.e. less alcohol and some health supplements. Quality of hardness is improving. Took Cialis before but few days after the effect wear off, lil bro seems to be even softer. So I stopped that.

Let's share our experiences. But 1 thing for sure I wont do is buy from the roadside stalls in red light area. We only have 1 dick. Must be careful.

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Do you always exercise regularly? How is the effect? I try to exercise now, still strugle to maintain, but hope will get better hardness.
Wow, already 7 years as a single without WG, you must be have a a girlfriend:). Thanks.

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Braddah,
1) Cut out the coffee and alcohol. Drink cranberry juice, water and other juices not sodas.
2) Get some excercise
3) Stop jacking off
4) Reduce stress. If you are stressed impacts ability to perform.

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This past year my exercise is climbing stairs. My weight dropped from 77kg to 68kg. Within the ideal BMI range.
This past 7 years went thru more than 10 GFs. But WG less than 5 times. Hopefully the present GF is the correct life partner. This week we had a session where i had to lie still and cannot move. She teased me from head to toe. That was the event that I had my hardest Hardon in years. But when it was my turn to tease her body, my Hardon died down. Thinking to practicing Pelvic Floor Exercise. See any improvement.

1) Down to 1 cup of coffee a day. Alcohol about twice a month. But no juices intake.
2) Climbing stairs is my daily exercise.
3) Guilty of jacking off on occasions.
4) Only the day when we are dead then can have no stress. This is a stressful society we live in.

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Braddah, try yoga and meditation. Sex is also a form of stress release but you should try yoga and meditation first.

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Alcohol just kills it for me. Every time I drink, no need to think about having sex any more, even using ms palmer doesn't work.

Also I notice that I'm always freaking hard right after my gym sessions. So sex after exercising is the best as I am alot harder and sensitive and for longer. Exercising cause alot of testosterone to be release in the body thus bringing up the sex drive.

Jacking off to me is fine so long as you are healthy and the accompaning sex drive. Forcing an ejaculation is no good and only adds long term stress.

Yeah. I notice I have trouble performing if I have alot on my mind. Sometimes rock hard but cannot cum and sometimes cannot get hard. I need to be relatively relaxed before I even start, thus sometimes am wasting money on the WL here.