[peanut123]

Hi Cherie,

I think you should have a heart to heart talk with your husband. If something is holding him back from sex for such a long time, it must be pretty serious (for a guy to turn down sex on a regular basis, the reason cannot be trivial).

You will definitely get advice from bros here about spicing up your sex life, etc, but I think that's not getting to the root of the problem. Until you tackle the root, any solution will only be temporary.

I don't think it's because he doesn't love you anymore, because a guy can jolly well have sex even with a woman he does not love (that's why this forum exists in the first place).

As a guy, I think some of the reasons a guy would reject sex is:

1. He is really burned out (possibly from work).
2. He's very worried or guilty about something (work, health, finances).
3. He has another woman outside.
4. He has performance anxieties, but that doesn't seem to be the case since he can perform when needed, albeit for a short time.

Have a serious discussion with him. I think that's the only way to clear this up and you can both take corrective actions. It cannot be totally unilateral, BOTH parties must work on it.