[sarahxx]

i met a female friend of mine (she's married for 3 years) last night n this topic came into our convo.. i’d thought i’ll share a little abt wht we chatted (which may or may not represent ur family situations.. )

resentment: most woman can't be physically intimate w a man they’re angry w. i think it's v common for many woman to bottle up feelings and angst instead of opening up the convo n letting u know why she’s mad at u. hence men end up being clueless about what went wrong. for eg, my friend gets frustrated when her hubby lacks involvement w the kids n she refuses to tell him abt it bcos she afraid she'll be too naggy. most womans' sex drive is dependent upon how emotionally fulfilled we r by our partners - hence emotionally when a woman does not feel secure and adequate, she will most likely not want to have sex.

familiarity breeds contempt: there’s a saying “u dont hunt what u’ve already caught” i think whn one gets married and comfortable w each other, u tend to stop making efforts to be romantic, spice things up, look gd for ur partner, do things for ur partner etc. n i think inevitably things will go downhill when u hv to worry abt paying bills, work etc. when this happens, the rs gets boring, n sex becomes a routine.

for me, a little effort goes a long way. for eg, foreplay does not jus happen in the bedroom or when im making out, it happens anytime and anywhere. be it if its a simple non sexual gesture of taking the trash out, a squeeze of my butt when we’re outside, or a flirty text when im at work etc. woman tend to pick signals like this up v quickly to be signs of respect, affection and concern. but of course it takes 2 hands to clap, woman also needs to do her part to make her man feel wanted and important.

3. is she really enjoying sex? or is she faking it: as much as we can orgasm more than men, it is nt easy for a man to push the right buttons to make a woman orgasm in sex. it takes time n effort, i have been in a rs where i cldnt orgasm at all and all i felt was just pleasuring him n thats it (but i didn't mind doing that then bcos i thought i loved him). so, perhaps ur gf or wife not wanting sex cld also be bcos she's not enjoying it as much as u r. and sex to her is probably like a chore where she has to get it over n done with.

i guess there are still many other reasons, but sometimes all it takes is a little more open communication. its quite sad if the end of sex = end of rs. but well, easier said than done. wish all u bros the best.