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Originally Posted by SEAJ
Hey Helm, I appreciate your low-key response to my quite over-the-top, tongue-in-cheek posting.
There is no way I or anyone else can know what all precisely you are going through, but I can pretty well detect that you are probably going through some challenges in your personal as well as professional life. And to this I’d suggest that you first just try to straighten out your professional duties before you even try tackling the personal ones. It is hard enough to take on a new career position when middle aged, but in your case, not being able to speak the language, not being settled in, observing and trying to conform to new work and societal cultures must be challenging enough without you trying to also tackle all the personal hubris.
Just concentrate on work whilst meanwhile absorbing the mores in Vietnam and sooner or later you will come to understand that your personal situation is not so desperate as to warrant you having to sponsor this girl or ANY girl now. Trust me on this – you do NOT want to add on to your woes by having to deal constantly with this totally useless and wasteful (Money AND your brain power/emotion) distraction. It’ll all come together by itself before you know it.
And BTW - I hope you will soon realize that being an expatriate in a third world country brings with it certain privileges like a higher placing in the socio-economic pecking order, aura and mystique of being able to provide better for ladies there, and of course more disposable income than your local peers. You're selling yourself short if you do decide to go ahead with this gal. Give yourself time and within a short period of time, I am quite sure that you will be able to do way better. Remember, money is KING and you who will be doling it out can and MUST use it to its most effective use; you're the King!!
My best wishes to you.
SEAJ
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Thanks SEAJ,
I'm not experiencing any challenges in both personal and work. Workwise, i just treat the locals like kids . I give instructions, they follow.
That's what my boss told me. It does not bother me, i do not speak their language. All the correspondences are in English.
As for personal live, again, not into mid live crisis or whatsoever. It's just, I'm not really a cheongster and my fishing skills sucks big time.
To me, getting a VB companion is a transaction. I pay her to in order bonk her exclusively for a period of time. I'm not looking for commitment and is well aware of the risk. what she does behind my back does not bother me as long i do not know. And if somehow, i do find out, i'll move on...