[Wendella]

Hey man, go easy please, that was a rough day for me. She was a long time cafe acquaintance who I was hoping would be a GF, but suddenly she came up with one after another big financial needs, before we even got a first date. I had to calculate all the signals I'd got over the last month plus of hanging out with her to figure out what to do, and 10 minutes before deciding I did not know which way I would go. In the end, it came down to the fact that she was probably going to be very high maintenance financially, and might even after this cash layout come back and say Thanks you are a good friend. I didn't know her well enough to trust her yet. What probably did it for me, the first time I gave her some cash she needed, the next time we met together at her cafe a couple days later, her focus was on chatting in facebook with someone on her phone, and that just made a really bad impression on me. I went in expecting some warmth and appreciation but instead felt ignored. I noticed when the manager came around she would hide her phone so he didn't see. I thought, Well I can see.