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Originally Posted by Hurricane88
Let me post here stories recently which I sort of involved or advise others... 
Disclaimer - the story may relate a certain person but no name mentioned and just for discussion sake as case studies.
Story 1
A Singaporean married a Viet gal and have a baby after 3 years of marriage. Now the girl already has PR approved. Recently due to disagreement with MIL the wife run away and stay with friends. The disagreement is always about money. Wife working earning 1.5k per month and need to send 1k back to her mother in Vietnam who build a house base on loan.
This guy cannot speak tieng viet and no way to talk to his MIL not to pressure his wife to send so much money. Also never really spent enough time to learn Viet culture and understand viet gals before marriage.
I had given some advice and not sure what else I can advise him more.
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It's always difficult to give any advise given the fact that we only heard one side of the story and no chance at all to hear from his Việt Nam! Wife.
I always believed in 有理走篇天下無理寸步難行. Can analyse to his Wife, what if she is not married to a Singaporean n not earning so much, life still have a carry on in Việt Nam! as in her Việt Nam! Family still need to stay in old house. If they take care of their Việt Nam! Family n spend a fortune on them. In times where they are out of job, in financial crises, who is able to help them in return? In Singapore there are no job security. What will happen to their Sin family esp their child if that happen? Can their Việt Nam! Family help them back? I Guess the answer is obvious isn't it? She got to think of their child...
To be fair, the Việt Nam! Wife should give to her Việt Nam! Family earnings as though she is working in Việt Nam!, that's the standard of living in Việt Nam! Right? If she can earn let's say 5milliion working in Việt Nam!, so giving Việt Nam! Family 1.5 million is fair enough.