[SingleAA]

I have stopped visiting lewd masseurs and brothels for a period of time now, and since my last checkup I completely clear from common STDs (even from Herpes).

Now I am being increasingly distracted with thoughts about doing these activities again.

My main worry is that if I continue with these activities, I will eventually end up getting Herpes and spread it to any possible girlfriend/wife I will have in the future.

Even though a large number of people are tested positive for Herpes, and most of those people do not even show symptoms; I feel that if I were to spread it to my future spouse it would not be nice of me to do so.

I need some opinions. Do you think it is all right to just have a bit of fun and possibly contract Herpes since almost everyone has it? Or is that just irresponsible?

Abstain completely? Go for handjobs only? Or penetrative sex even?

Thanks