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Originally Posted by temperance

If like that you could either request from or train them. If they still refuse then you 'gehsiao' ask for permission to go for 'professional help' cos you really miss the feeling very much. You see whether they will still refuse bo. If they still refuse then you have a legitimate excuse for cheonging liao lor.

by the way, i didnt gehsiao, i just went for professional help myself... yup, i used it as an excuse. it's the minor things that set us to go into vicious cycles. she doesnt reciprocate, i do something similar to her and then she will just up the stakes the next time round. end up, we would be trying to make each other miserable.

I think for this generally got to find out what are her preferences like first. As for the fattening part, you could soften it by saying ' Aiyah, dont you know that I love women who have abit of bak' or something like 'I want to fatten you up so that you won't ganna snatched away' or something along the lines lor. Like what Bro Derelict pointed out, say something they like to hear. Isn't it true for men too? I guess everybody likes to have their egos stroked right?

please lah, u think i havent done that before??? she would rather starve herself and totally ignore my preference. fyi, i like my woman to have a bit of meat. if i like thin ones, i would have just gone to my backyard and gotten myself a bamboo pole to go out with. i can tell her i dont like this pair of shoes (not becos of price, just didnt like) she would buy it. so, i always ask her, who do u dress for and who she is trying to attract. definitely not me cos i dont like it in the 1st place.

Bro, you're either kind of contradicting yourself 'yup, let's talk abuot what to eat if u want me to have a stroke and claim my insurance', or I have missed the point completely. I do know of lots of gers who appreciate good food/ won't mind going out of the way/ dun mind poor hygiene/ etc. As long as the food and the company is pleasant.

i meant, whenever i whine to friends about my problem in deciding what to eat when with her, i always suspect i very possibly might get a heart attack. i agree that i know of women who would go to geylang, sit dangerously close to the road for frog leg porridge. it is only after we r attached, they suddenly developed this sudden disdain for the place. but why on earth did we enjoy ourselves so much then??? hmmm... it was all a front for me to fall for them and then, the ugly head rears itself...

Ah... That cannot be blamed but it certainly could have been pre-empted. Common sense to know that anywhere in town or even those neighbourhood shopping malls would be packed during lunch and dinner time mah. It's only a matter of common sense right? Simply point out the possibility and maybe let her come up with a contingency plan,' What if the place too crowded? Would you like to have something else?'

nope, contingency plans will have to go through her first. friday nite, taka basement 2 crystal jade at dinner time, any idiot would know to expect a long queue right??? tell me 1 person who doesnt know about this and i will eat my whole bloody laptop with tobasco sauce!!!

If she's really into you, she'd probably want to wait with you for the parking lot and go to the diner's with you, instead of going shopping by herself 1st.if not, well, maybe she's just not good enough. And for the picking up part, if she's really into you, she'll be considerate and offer to meet you at the makan place instead of demanding that you go and pick her up. Worst come to worst can meet somewhere in the middle, compromise abit.

with the exception of my current gf, no gf of mine has ever accompanied me in the car to find parking. am i the only unlucky one here???

If cannot even compromise during courtship/ dating period, then no need to look forward to a 'future' liao lor

that's why no future. been putting up with it cos they were trivial compared to what she has put me through. she was an ex-ktv ger. got her out of that life. provided for her, sponsored her to courses. realised that many guys were still calling her. brought her to change cell number. after changing, end up still gave her new number to all those people i didnt want them to call in the first place. did she ever think about how i would feel???

did she think about how i would feel when i found out that she drove my car out to meet the guy when i was in the states and let the guy drive my car??? how stupid can she get when my car has a specialised number plate (sponsored by boss)! and my buddy followed them all the way to fragrance hotel in joo chiat... main reason why i got rid of the car, cos i dont want to think what they did in it...

what future do i have with her? spent my waking hours this past few weeks to think of how to weck vengeance on the guy, but in the end realised that she has found a day job at a beauty chain and gone back to ktv in the nite. the guy is in financial trouble. i m going with my buddies tonite to see if it is true. if so, then she really loves him, although he is married. i will give up my vengeance and wish her all the best.

however, i think someone up there has been very kind to me, for sending my kimchi gf to me, to show me that i should not be so pessimistic about life and love. for that, i m thankful.