[Goddessxenia]

Originally Posted by Havanna Slicks

i believe we need to separate things inside of session and outside of session, yes she is skilled and whatever it is we pay her inside a session, she fulfilled her obligations, outside of session is her own private time and space, she can do whatever she wants, we didnt pay her outside session, who are we to judge her, unless u're saying there is a standard code of ethics and conduct that a domme has to observe before she is deemed a 'professional' domme? here and wehcat is public area, everyone and anyone can do or say what they want, u like can read, dont like move on, no need to wine like it...

turn it the other way round, a domme is 'professional' outside of session but cmi inside a session, would u pay for her? if cmi session think give u free also dowan right...

there is no professional body or guideline as to the skills, behavior or conduct of a domme, so how to define professional in this sense? is there certain qualifications or certification whether they pass teh bar or not? a prodomme ie PD is a domme who collects a tribute for a session, doesnt mean she is professional or not...

personally i find so as long a domme fulfils her obligations within a session, well groomed, observes hygiene, has a certain skill level, respect limits, she is pretty much her job well done, professional or not, doesnt really matter to me, juz my 2 cents... sexy and fun just completes my idea of a good domme...

that said flip the coin, contents of a session, quirks and kinks of a sub, personal particulars should stay pnc no matter what, similar to a lawyer/doctor - client privilege... imagine u had the most awesome and wonderful session ever only to have such info revealed, nobody will wan that to happen unless with explicit consent...

previously there was a group of students doing a project on BDSM, they approached me for a video interview similar to the one they did on eva, i accepted on the condition no photos or videos to be taken, if u had read the article, the sub at the end of the article, tonie, yup that's me... if i'm a retiree with no vanilla obligations, i would have agreed to do a video interview...

If a domme were to share pnc info freely, that is what I would deem unprofessional... a sub share with domme is because he/she trust her, she shld respect it instead of abusing that trust and use it against the sub... if we do not have trust or protection understanding that our info is safe, who will dare to share anymore...

Hey, I really appreciate u speaking up for me. And it has been almost 2 yrs since we met before Xmas that year. I still remembered clearly that I was woken by a sub who told me to checkout your post on Xmas morning. I know I am too expensive to see repeatedly but I thank u very much for remembering what we did that fateful day which have u being reasonable with me over the years and keeping me in fond memories...

Today I entered into this forum by mistake cos I thought it was another website saved on my chrome toolbar and since I'm in, I might as well check out the latest gossips. Sadly I found myself being the target board again, the last time I checked in Oct 2019 where one of my subs posted a reviews, I was being criticized by those dickhead keyboard warriors.

But it was very very comforting to have u voice your concerns for me, I suppose not many of my regular subs will go this far for me. I could understand because most wanna be discreet and tend to comfort me in private msg thru my Wechat. Is not just once that u have voiced for me and u really warm my heart and I'm teary at this moment when I type. I am very thankful for my diligence/work ethic in making sure I deliver your requirements when u seek me up for a 2 hours session 2 yrs ago. I suppose only those I have met for sessions knows how much I do to make sure it is enjoyable, clean and space comfortable for short intimate time I had with u guys.

I rarely meet subs outside my session for drinks/dinner because I had to be fair to those who pay to see me. And the past 4 yrs as a Prodomme, I have nvr engage in any physical sexual activities nor have a personal slave for my pleasure because I keep a strict rule to separate work and private life. Am so glad u understand this perfectly. Hence I would like to meet up with u for dinner when I'm back to SG for sessions on 3rd Feb. It would be my treat of appreciation for your fond memories of me. It is because of these fond memories which makes u stand on neutral ground and sees a clearer pictures of the situation instead of jumping in the wagon of uncalled accusations.

Session or no session aside, I must admit that U are a person undeniably worthy of having a coffee/drinks/dinner with and I am apologetic that it took me 2 yrs to realize this precious quality in u. I maybe late to be friendly but I hope I could make up for it. As U have been in my Wechat for yrs so u know that I have a busy schedule flying all over S.E.A for sessions hence making me difficult to be/make friends with anyone even in my private life. Sometimes for my obligations to my other subs, I don't get too comfortable or friendly with u guys. It may seem as arrogance but it was indeed a SOP for my work. At times, I do feel lonely being far away from home and all alone in hotel to eat or drink, rushing from session to session and destination to destination. But I will always make time for anyone who is nice towards me. As such, I really hope we could catch up during my next return to SG. PM me on my Wechat ya.

Btw, enjoy your CNY and I wish u every success in your future endeavor.