[catlord]

This is why I will never be legally married.

After marriage, the wife's sex drive will always take a nosedive. Of course there are rare exceptions where the husband's sex drive declines faster but 99% of the time, the wife's sex drive declines faster than the husband's. And this is oftentimes not the fault of the husband or the wife. Giving birth, taking care of baby, raising kids while still keeping a job, all these are stressful shit. Plus seeing each other all the time, as they say familiarity breeds contempt. You get more and more comfortable with each other and there's no space between the two of you to miss each other. It kills sexual attraction.

So no matter how horny she was for you before you married her, her sex drive will decline after you get married. Many bros are surprised by it, they feel hurt and shortchanged. They thought their woman will not change forever. I've found the perfect slutty wife, they thought. Why not marry her and I can get to have fun everyday? As they say, men marry women thinking they will not change while women marry men thinking that they will change.

As a man, you have a physical need for regular sex. It's not a question of want, it's a bodily need, just like you need to pee. If you don't get sex, you go crazy and become very unhappy. You will have this need throughout your life, even in your old age if you keep yourself in shape (which I plan to do). This is something women can never empathize on. They will never understand what it's like to have a dick and to have 17x the amount of testosterone in their blood, just like we will never understand the pains of menstruation. And we need good sex, not lazy wife sex. How does it feel like to have to earn your wife's lazy sex, to have to do xyz before she lets you fuck her? Must be not good for your self esteem. As she gets older and older, her looks get worse and worse while you have to do more and more to get laid with her. Yikes.

This is why I will never be monogamous. If you depend on 1 woman for sex, eventually you won't get it. Even in the dating phase, there will be times when she'll be unavailable. She can have periods, get sick, go on holiday etc etc. But you still need sex. After marriage, she will eventually not want to fuck you. But you still need sex. If you have some FWBs on the side, they can fulfill your sexual urges for you. You don't need to pester your SO for sex all the time even when she doesn't feel like it. This can only be a good thing for your marriage, because even after she turns non-sexual, the lack of sex will not be a cause of tension. I still think it's ok to get married if you really want to have kids, but I will only do it if my partner accepts that I will not be sexually monogamous and she's ok with me having FWBs on the side.

But then again, Singapore law doesn't acknowledge prenup, so there's no way I will ever sign a legal marriage in Singapore. Imagine a situation where my wife was ok with it all along until one day she changed her mind and she's not ok with it anymore. She can sue me for adultery and take half my money. The govt will just laugh at our prenup.