[bjboo]

Originally Posted by Mark Lim

Bro bjboo,

if you are not married, please go ahead and enjoy her company and may be some actions later. there are many nice girl in BJ that dun ask for money, if you are lucky you may find some. if she dun ask for money, bring her to a nice dinner, buy her some clothing or handbag. you have found a good friend, we call that in chinese: 红颜知己.

if you are married, please be cautious. dun get into emotions and affect your married life. i have seen too many cases of singaporean man leaving their wife for a chinese women, including one of one my best friends. they normally started with some fun and getting to know each better. after a while, you start to compare her with your wife, or she will demand that you leave your wife for her.

my best advice is to have a clear principle. your wife shall always be the one who will live with you to old age, the one who loves you and will be there with you despite adverse circumstance. there is no replacement for such love which you must reciprocate. you can have some fun outside occasionally, but must consciously remind yourself that you are out for fun. dun let your small head over rule your big head.

Mark Lim

good advice. we all just adults having fun. no strings attached. get too close siam already.