[CuteDragon79]

[QUOTE=fallen11;21085646]Question for you. Sorry if i didnt pick out if you mentioned it before in your long story.


Hi Bro Fallen,

I wasn't really expecting to get married so soon when I started meeting VBs. I mentioned that I chatted with more than 40 VBs (Although much much lesser than the senior bros here) and flew to Vietnam to meet 2 other VBs before I met my BX.

My BX, being age 22 from the province, was considered getting "old" for marriage there. Her mindset is different from other VBs in the cities where the average age for marriage is about 27. Both she and her family also don't want to waste too much time on "waiting". She ever waited 1 year with a Korean BF and 2 years with another SG BF. They didn't fulfill their promise of marriage and my BX waited in vain. We both felt it's a good match for the both of us and therefore we proceeded. My MIL requested to register our marriage in Vietnam was because she wanted to see if I'm really sincere about marrying my BX.

The seniors had already mentioned things like how pampered, how spolit, and how demanding our SG gals are especially in BGR and marriage. First ex-wife was all about me giving in to her till I gave up. Got to do most of the house-chores, peel prawns for her etc. Didn't consummate our marriage and therefore able to get annulment. No matter how much they earn from their income, I got to foot most, if not all of the bills.

I didn't get a flat with my second ex-wife because she said even though she earned more than me, she expected me to pay 70% for the flat! Give her allowance and give her part of my yearly bonuses also will complain this and complain that. Pardon me this MOUNTAIN TORTOISE, all along I was "brought up" into the society believing in "fairness" and I was expecting 50% as my duty as a Husband especially in SG. Practically, she is "The Boss" in the marriage. Go overseas holiday also bring parents-in-law and stay together in 1 suite. The SG gals want at least or more than 50% authority in the family but the guy has to pay for most of the expenses, if not all. With her job vs my job, I Zzzz by 10pm daily by the time she returns home. Intimacy rate is like once a year. Either she said tired or have the mindset, "Don't think I can just want it as and when just because got give her $$$ etc) Definitely I CANNOT tolerate anymore in that marriage!

So if I'm gonna "pay", then might as well make it 100% and I call the shots.
I figured out a 1-income family can still be very blissful e.g 3-room flat, average income, take public transport (Also mentioned in earlier posts about happiness and satisfaction level by Bro SingViet and a few other Bros) and therefore went onto this path. Good points about VBs mentioned in earlier posts, can cook, can take care of family, let the man be the "Head" of the house etc. I lived to an age to finally know that having a VB housewife is much better than having a SG career woman. My BX cooks for me, hand-wash my clothes for me, iron my clothes for me and takes good care of me etc. I appreciate her a lot.

Hope these answer your questions =)