[fwchong]

oh brocutedragon,

keep the CPF nomination to yourself until when you are ready to review to her in the later stage of your life.

If she only has her mum in her family, then one the best way to show that you love her when she has a video chat with her mum and make sure that her mum is well taken care of. As your wife is street smart, she will know if you are sincere.

Key thing is communicate to make things work and since she got no job, that is a good test to see if she continue to spend money or if she is a saver.

Many bro here talk about money because that is the one of the main thing that couple quarrel because one party always spend while the other try to save.

Encourage her to also sign up for language courses and some studies so that she is occupied with a focus in mind.

She is concern for you as she ask you to eat vegetables as she knows your habits. Do that small change in her to encourage her that you are listening to her.

We would love to hear more updates from you so that we can jia yu for you...

it wont be an easy path like many of us have pointed out but if you dont give up, you will make your marriage work...