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Originally Posted by babyjohnwong

one aunty and one uncle totally couldn't stand me
because i didn't marry an ethnic chinese
came to scold me saying I let down my parents
what do you think I should do? divorce my wife because of their views and find an ethnic chinese to marry?
why should I do something just to please others? this is my life, my choice
you cannot please everyone in the world
I chased them off and I never spoke to them again
my parents eventually accepted my decision and my wife, so who are they to say otherwise?
Immediate family members or relatives or friends, it doesn't matter, this is your life, not their life
As long as you don't commit crimes or do anything against your conscience, then just do what you want
why care so much about what others think?

everything in life is about discipline, well mostly
taking the easiest example, if you don't study hard, memorise and practise the questions
do you expect to get straight As in your exams all the way?
maybe yes, if you are a genius
if you have no discipline to diet and exercise but continue to binge eat, you can't expect your body to slim down
if you cut down on your food and exercise everyday, you will lose weight
another way is to eat nothing but fruits I heard, but I never tried
anyway, some girls like plump or fat guys, so it is entirely up to you and your luck then
i can only suggest

married one, then she said she changed her mind about having children
so i divorced her and married the second one
I have sex with my wife, once to twice a week at least
thing is i am very attracted to slim girls, my wife was 48kg before we got married
now her weight is around 20kg more after having 3 kids
i find it hard to be erect or stay erect, so i had to do other things such as watch porn, close my eyes to fantasize, cross-dress etc
I just cannot get naturally aroused with her, but I love her lots
yes, i cheated on her with two other girls
but at least I don't get the feeling that I got ED, I get aroused with them naturally but not with my wife
another thing of getting aroused is foreplay, my wife doesn't like foreplay, she just likes jumping straight into sex, ask her to give bj, she only gives like one bj every few months
whereas the other two girls does it without even thinking, but i don't need the bjs when i am with them anyway, already rock hard when i see them getting undressed, just looking at their beautiful bodies alone is enough to get me high
i love my wife and kids, getting divorced will only ruin my kids lives
anyway, my sex life is fabulous right now

How come it seems like most people can go from dating stage to gf or dating to marriage easily? While I can't. I need to point out one thing, good exam results is not genius, there is no such thing, it is all down to a large bulk of hardwork. Those who say that they did not study but scored well are either lying, cheated in exams or it was a kindergarten exam. It is not just caring what other people think of us visiting a prostitute, it is due to my mum giving me bad advice that's why I went. Btw I binged eat was due to bullying trauma, meaning I did not actively choose to do so. I think my life got severely sabotaged from bullying, that's why I am 33 with no first gf, a sad life with a sad ending.

I keep getting rejected and cold shoulder by not just women, but men(for friendships) as well from age 21 to 24 after previous stages of buylling in my life. I tried dating 5 women when I was 30 to 33 but no woman want to go out on a second date with me. My university grades and subsequent career path is severely sabotaged thanks to the multiple stages of bullying. That's why I got forced to visit a prostitute because eventually I became 33/34 without a first gf and with little savings to plan for stable gf or marriage. It's a very sad situtation/sad life actually.