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Originally Posted by ssd3469
I also am considering not finding a gf or getting married at all because I think I might be sabotaging another woman's life because I am 33 without any savings. A bit too late to start afresh already, cause already lost out on $400,000 of income opportunity costs. The latter is why I finally took the plunge and went to visit a prostitute. I became a BBFA, another reason to visit a prostitute because which woman wants a BBFA?
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I was almost bankrupt twice. First one was a failed business. Second one was my kids health weren't good and one kid is special needs. So the constant spending at Mount E & private therapy forced us to sell our house just to raise funds for the kids' medical. I also had a 4th one that passed away.
Now all 3 (including the special needs one) are fit and healthy as they're top 6 swimmers in their category.
You're in this state because you think yourself into it.
Now in case you misunderstand, this isn't a lecture.
I've had depression when my 4th passed on so I understand it's not easy to think yourself out of a depressed state. So, Bro SSD, we all can't help you, because you've to get yourself out of this hole you're in.
It's not easy but you must always try to think about the solution.
But let me give you something you can do to help if you are willing to try. There are the 4 happy chemicals in your body, Serotonin, dopamine, endorphins, and oxytocin help promote happiness and pleasure while reducing depression and anxiety.
Do some research about them and how to get them into your system daily, so you can slowly get your mood out of this depressed state. The 4 things I did to be happily drugged daily were sex, exercise, doing difficult work and overcoming them and lots of sleep.
Meantime besides the above, try to distract yourself with a goal, like for example, to earn $300000 income in a year. The distraction will also keep your mind off all the negativity.
So for example, if you're visiting prostitutes, don't think that you're doing it cuz you're a loser, but just enjoy the sex and let the happy drug calm you after the deed. Same for exercise or doing difficult work or sleep or just plain achieving $300000 income. Just relax, enjoy the 4 activities and distraction, and hopefully, slowly you'll come out of it and you are happier and richer and more sexed.
Hope that helps.