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Old 13-06-2025, 11:49 PM
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Re: Advice needed (wife may have STI/STD)
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Originally Posted by x4nd View Post
Recently, my wife has had a bout of itchy Vagina with whitish discharge.

She visited 1 gynae and they did some test and told her its only Bacterial Vaginosis (BV) which is common and prescribed her some antibiotics.

After finishing the antibiotics she still has the same symptoms and decided to change to another gynae. This gynae took a look and said she MAY have STD/STI.. Now my wife is a bit blur on this and I think she doesn't actually know what STD/STI stands for. so she hasn't actually suspected I chiong outside before BUT the doctor did tell her that if it is really an STD/STI after the tests comes back, he will explain to her the causes (which we all know STD/STI is only transferable through intercourse or oral sex) which may lead to her suspecting me.

On my side, I dont feel any symptoms. I don't have any itch, no discharge no smell so I don't even know if I contracted anything.

Point to note is I haven't done raw intercourse but have gone for some BBBJs.

Is there a way to tell the doctor to help me or are there obliged to tell the full truth? Me and my wife, though not a perfect marriage we are still holding on and are happy with our lovely daughter. Just sex hasn't been very good (we both dont really enjoy sex with each other anymore and it is always only done during ovulation just to get that chance of another baby) and that is why I have been looking for releases outside.

I am very afraid that if her tests comes back positive for any STI/STD our marriage is gone. Any advice from experience bros here?
bro if i were you, i would just make an appointment first at DSC and test first for the result so at least don't need to scared wife doctor chut stunt at the result.

also, you must consider from 3rd party view rather than your own view. yes while STI points to one party get from outside, this may not mean that you are the one cheating. she could also be the one cheating. the crux of matter here is to be firm and verbal in your suspicion with her. Don't be quick to admit anything; rather, be shocked that she kena STI and full on act like you suspect she cheated or something. Then give both of you some leeway by "compromising" that you 2 forgive each other whoever that has cheated and move on for sake of daugther.

At least liddat can hold on the marriage without being "beaten down" by wife for the rest of your marriage life.

Also, if the sex is bad, suggest you just don't do the sex anymore since you also release outside already.

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to give a bit of context why i give above advice. I am mutual friend with this couple, both the wife and husband are good friends with me and my gf. They were also in same situation and then the wife kena UTI first which lead to test come out positive for gonorrhea. End up when we help them settle time, my gf talk to the wife then found out she actually had ONS with someone outside that hubby don't know and she don't want tell her hubby. The hubby also got cheong outside so he also don't want wife to know. We listen both ends and tell them to make compromise forgive each other for sake of kids.