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Originally Posted by mace
Just as mentioned by many guys in this topic, $$ is a big problem in our relationship. She came from complicated backgrd(mum divorced, brothers gangsters, 1 in jail, 1 just came out, 1 small bro studying). She always in need of $ for mum medical, paying police in jail, personal expenses etc etc. Sometimes i really cannot tahan...not becos of the $$, but the way she "jack up the $$ need" and think that i donno.
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$ is always a problem with the poor. Alot VN family is complicated but its a norm to them.
She will jack up more of the increase in oil price. Whole world is experiencing it.
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I hav been to her hse in HCM twice..to chk out on her stories..most of them seems right.
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Only twice is not many. Try go more often to find out. The whole family can gang up to make the story look real.
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The 1st time i went, she was living in a very rundown wooden shack..but i dont really mind even though she say dont laugh at her hse. The 2nd time i went, she lived in a rented double storey townhse with 3bedrms and with karoke system  .. most prob by using the $ i "sponsored."
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such drastic change in living condition. You must be giving her alot mthly allowance. Else she must be fed by many guys.
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Anyway, i am thinking of marrying her...
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You are rushing. Stand back and observe more. Only visit her home twice is not enuff.
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in but she quoted on the condition that
her mum ar well taken of 1st before marrying me. She propose getting a hse for her mum so that she will not be renting hse anymore. She figure i will need ard 30-40k for a decent hse and some $$ left for her mum to start a small stall or something.
Can any gurus offer any advice on this??
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Her family is number 1. Your money is number 2. You are number 99.
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anyway i think she is quite frank with me, she said $$ works in vietnam, no $$ nothing can be done. if there is $ in love, she will gladly love him so that her family is well provided. and she warned me many many times that loving her will be very stressful but i still decide to go ahead.
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She is telling you she love your $. So what you should do?
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i dont really remeber the district name of her current hse cos it is off the HCM city map, but i do remeber it is quite near the RMIT university.
++btw i still need to Tx ard 2k for her rented hse...
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seems near my girlfriend house. she rent a unit at $120/mth. I only started offering to pay her rent this year. I only transfer $150-$200 a mth.