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thks kangtuo and singviet for ur valuable advice.

Actually i dont mind sending mthly allowances to her family as long as it is an acceptable amount. I can understand why they need and think of $ cos they ar very poor, their grandma hse is a complete mess, only hav harden mud as their flooring.My gal 1st hse i can only say it is more like a wooden partition, size not more than 2 of current hdb room, toliet and kitchen space included.

By using the $ my gal asked from me, her grandma hse is under going basic renovation and starting to rear some fishes to sell by using the rice field beside the hse. Now my gal lived in a much better living condition, just that i dont understand why she need to rent such a big hse, when a normal 1 will be enough.

anyway, if i am really going to marry her, i will accept the responsbility to make her immediate family living condition better, and i think i hav the duty to do that. Maybe it is just me, but i cant bear to see my gal family struggling in vietnam while we ar enjoying ourself in sing.

All i wan is that my gal stay truthful to me and dont lie to me just to get some $, and hopefully her family/her will not hav additonal irrelevent demand such as buying luxury things cos that is what irks me most. get an inch , wan a metre if u guys noe what i am talking abt haha.

But from all the post in this topic, i am getting abt worried now, cos apparrently it is in the blood of vietnamese to be get an inch wan a metre type, and most of them ar scheming devils. It will be very tiring to "spar" with ur love 1 own family if they behave that way.

++to kangtuo: her father in USA already divorced her mum. Her mum remarried but her 2nd daddy usually not in hse for few mths, thats why her father in USA stop sending $ to her family.