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I was introduced to a bro (Bro A) by another bro (Bro B) who have been trying to help him through his misery about mistrusting a prc girl. Apparently Bro A got to know a prc WL and was KC big time. Ok the usual story follows and he was in deep shit over both career and life. In summary, he still continually yearns for her and that was why Bro B went in to try to cure his disillusioned state.

2 other friends of Bro B both gave bad review on Bro A. They basically washed hands. Bro B then asked me if this guy can be helped, I replied no harm trying, any improvement will be an improvement cos he is so very 'down-there' now. So we met up for a couple of coffee sessions and proceeded to use both hard and soft means of pushing and pulling him away from his then current state. Bro B went to the point of introducing another girl to Bro A, and started to teach him the arts of KC. So Bro A now knows Singer C and finally went for supper with her once. I sort of supported Bro B's effort using my usual subtle ways by giving encouragement and providing an insight on what Bro A lacks.

Things were in order until Bro B heard the news from Bro A about his prc girl wanted to return to sg and was asking Bro A for money (for air tickets). Bro A seemed to be devastated, saying his demon is finally coming back, Bro B then teached him the steps to counter this and the mentality that should be employed against the effects of KC.

On the 3rd day since the news arrived, Bro B said Bro A is fucked big time and he wanted to give up all contacts with Bro A. When I probed further, Bro B told me Bro A was again trying to escape reality by doing heavy boozing, something that he did when his girl first left him. Bro B was thoroughly disappointed and intended to cut off all communications with Bro A. After hearing this, I called Bro A and got the same story. I said can you not go and deceive yourself and why after so much talk, you still decide to put this KC upon yourself?

I told Bro B, let me try and help him. He still got hope, maybe just weak-willed but let's look deeper into his character and see where are the holes to patch. Bro B thought for a while and said if you go, I will go. So we arranged one online session and another coffee session. The next day, I told Bro A my assessment of him and told him how he can help himself. Bro B graciously entered into the online conversation (well he is the sort who mean what he said about leaving Bro A alone) and both of us were doing our best to push him along. Through sideline conversations, I told Bro B that I've decided that setting a goal would be proper in helping him, in the end the only person who can really help him is himself. So we placed a bet - all of us get a girl (non WL or anyone from nightscene) to a dinner set 2 weeks later.

The purpose of this bet was to help him rebuild his self confidence and create a drive to work towards it. The prize was, both Bro B and I will coordinate and give him his best chance to get this girl, in helping him do all manners of wooing and lastly to give him all respect he should deserve during the dinner to help his chance with his girl. Either way, whether he really do bring a girl or not, he would have benefitted from the whole exercise. At the last note, Bro B suggested the failure to meet this bet is to pay for the dinner. Fair enough.

The coffee session came after a week into the bet. I remembered it was raining heavily that night during coffee, I just came off from a drink, limping (need to walk with a tongkat at that time) in the rain to catch a cab. When Bro B and I reached, Bro A said he won't be coming. The cab fare would be too expensive. I withheld an explosion (thinking of the money he hung for Singer C) and calmly told him to come, cos everybody was there waiting. Bro A finally came, and we started our session until well after midnight. We originally planned this meeting as a followup to see Bro A's progress and to give him support and help to meet the challenge. Bro A made no progress, so we suggested place to go, things to do and how to meet a girl. After the session, Bro B told me, aiyah cannot make it liao, he himself dun wan to help
himself, he will just run away from his problem just like he did all this while. I suggested patience.

So came that night of dinner. Bro B and I met for coffee couple of hours before dinner so we can have a chat and see the girls whom we would be bringing. The girls came and among the chattings, Bro B, with his own suspicion in his mind, suggested that I should contact Bro A. No one picked up his mobile. After a while, Bro A called and said he would be late, his mum was sick and his constant attention was required.

Bro B flipped and said see I told you. I said patience again, Bro A said he would be late for a while only, he will sms me in a while like he said he would. Bro B gave me a disgusted look and said if his excuse become yours, then you are fucked. Dinner went on and we started to have fun (but thats beyond this story la).

True enough, Bro A never called or sms again. Bro B later explained, he hasn't solved his first problem, which is to overcome himself to meet the challenge, the first act of escapism (from his own lack of self confidence) enables him to escape this meeting and everything else he does from now on will still be to escape, dun expect him to call anymore or see him on msn. I said I have learnt that there are some people which you can never help, if you do it can only bring you down. I suggested that maybe money was a concern to him and that he knew he couldn't pay and there started a fresh round of escape. So I am willing to lose the bet on his behalf. We were cool for a while until Bro B found out that Bro A had invited Singer C on that same night of dinner bet and actually sms her to contemplate 卖场 for the last session, in order to go for a drink at Boat Quay. So what happened to mum? What happened to the excuse of not having enough money? Worst thing was, Singer C was so annoyed with his sms to her saying that 如果我帮你卖场你要怎么报答我. So Singer C predictably decided to wash both hands and stop communicating with him.