[colins]

Ah bros...thank you for your kind words and encouragements. To be fair, the thread is more to bring about an understanding towards people who needs help. The details are there so you can make a judgement and come to your conclusion. Actually the main purpose comes from my believe that when a hand is stretched out for help, it has to be looked upon. The only point I was stressing on is that a limit should be created based on what you can do, and also (now that I realised) what this person can do.

To say that I wasn't affected is a lie. Putting down all these in words is my closure, so now I can carry on knowing more and that has to be shared with all. Personally, I encourage the spirit of helping one another, not that it has to be reciprocated in kind (as bro eke said), but it has to be reciprocated with an effort. All I need to see is that there should be some level of determination in trying to solve his own problem. You can only push the horse to the water, you can't pump the water into the horse.

The source of this belief, is when I had problems some time ago, nobody came to my help. I din ask for it actually. How nice it would be to have somebody there to give me clarity, the sufferings would have been much less. Recently I just gone thru another bout of problems but Bro B was there. You can't imagine the difference between both. One relationship was 9 months long and this relationship was 4 years. In retrospect, this recent problem was much much more easier to go thru, although the feelings involved is a lot deeper. I can sleep with a smile on the day of discovering the betrayal, and I din apply any mind or action for revenge. If this can be the way more bros solve their problems, we can use it and teach everybody. This is what I am after.