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Originally Posted by flowerpot
but who knows how long i have not felt happy...
the kind of happiness that comes straight from the heart....
but things already happened.... who knows what i am going thru....
all i want to do, is to minimize the hurt i am causing to everyone...
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But are you happy in your heart now?
I may guess my earlier post is "talking cock" to you. But you must realise the fact that I cannot hint or point you to any directions because regardless the choice it will ruin someone's life gravely. I don't want to contribute to it, directly or indirectly.
I can only focus my advice on you alone, and I regard it as impotant because the source of the problem is you.
You started off and ended with only caring for your own personal interest. You had some serious issue with your wife but you did not resolve or disolve the problem or the marriage because you knew for as long as possible the wife and you will not divorce for the sake of the kids. Thus, you let things stale.
At this point if you go have fun and release your urge without strings attached, I say it is ok. But you got involved with a gal and impregnant her.
Sorry to say this but I can visualised that moment that you pushed hard into her womb and decided to shoot your load in, you had disregard her interests, your wife's interests and your kid's interest.
And now, you are repeating the cycle of not confronting the problem and seeking "duct-tape" solution. Sad to say but the only solution is to confront the problem by coming clean with all parties involved. Your wife is a mother herself, so I believe she will not be cruel to request abortion from your gf.
I apologise again for giving my honest opinion, resulting in offensiveness, if any.