[Charmaine]

Originally Posted by williamangkh

Hi Bro Charmaine...great to hear everything is working fine for you.

Take care, bro!

Sometimes, life throws you such unexpected surprises that the only thing you can do is to giggle yourself silly and admit that you're just but a pawn in this warped old world we live in.

It's been a while since I updated the classic sadfuck thread to tell the world about my story with a Thai girl. It's about time to.

After I proposed to her and she sad yes, everything went smoothly as planned and a lot of things transpired since then. She quit her job in the G-Club immediately. On her last night in the club, she partied the night away with her friend in the club and my phone never stopped ringing from 1am - all her hot friends from the club took turns to call and offer their most sincere of wishes - it was even decided who would attend the wedding and who would sit where. I felt like the luckiest man in the world. In a symbolic gesture, her friends from the entire team (G-Club regulars would know what I'm talking about; girls are split into teams, each headed by a mamasan), together with her mamasan, refused to take in, or sit, with any customers that last night. They simply partied the night away using their own money for booze and food. I was literally with them the whole night, only on the phone, of course, but it felt like I was physically present the whole time.

The next 2 months were challenges - she's now left with no income and no job. I did my finances and offered her 15,000 baht of financial support a month, together with the payment of her phone bills (since she had to call and text Singapore so much). She did her own calculations (she knew my finances full well) and flatly refused to receive so much, only offering to take in 10,000 baht to help pay her monthly rent and utility bills, with the remainder used to send back to her family in the provinces. Her sister would help support her daily living expenses (she was more than willing to since she already knew me very well then and was excited about her baby sister finally getting married). I had bought a place here in Singapore even before I met her, so the plan was for her to find a decent low-paying job (probably in the region of 10,000 baht just to supplement whatever I've been giving her), work it through until the house finishes, and then she would move over here and get married. She was hard at work immediately after quitting the club looking for a job and we contacted each other everyday to update on the situation.

A couple of months ago, she came to Singapore with her sister to tour (although they've already been here before a couple of times as tourists) and meet up with my parents for the first time. She hardly looked out of place here as she took a while to accommodate herself but our only focus was how she could live with the different environments presented to her when she came here for good. My parents loved her; she told me before she went back to Bangkok that she loved Singapore more than ever and couldn't wait to come for good.

Then it all fell apart. Well, sort of.

She found a really, really good job.

One of her hi-so friends whom she knew from way back in high school introduced her to her business (the specifics of which I will leave out here). She started doing sales for her and is now doing unbelievably well. It's only been 3 months since she started this job, but she's already doing phenomenally well. It's suffice to say that she is now earning in excess of 65,000 baht a month doing what she does - commission-based, of course, with no basic pay to boot, but her diligence and endeavor has made it such that she's now indispensable to the company. Her experience in doing sales (selling whiskey in the club, of course, but sales is sales) really helped and she absolutely soared. I've been back to visit her a couple of times since she started work, and I'm convinced she's loved by her boss, superiors and customers alike. I stopped financially supporting her and on my last trip she paid for most food and expenses items, and her boss paid for the rest (since we hung out together most times).

What a turnaround. Who would have imagined?

She told me that for the first time in her life, she's doing something meaningful and spectacular, and there's no way she's going to stop now.

I'm happy for her, but that only meant one thing. She didn't want to come to Singapore anymore.

We started to fight like kids every time we talked to her on the phone. She became busier than me - while I was still able to squeeze in one or two phone calls in the office no matter how busy I was, she's now stuck in meetings with customers all the time. "I call you back ok?" was the normal response. She still picks up her calls every time, of course, and there is absolutely no reason to suspect anything, but she simply became.. too busy for love). She works till late night (sometimes 9 or 10pm), has dinner with her colleagues then go home dead beat. We fought like crazy - I would start demanding that she call me at least twice a day, once at lunch and once at dinner (my fault, I know) and she would say I'm being ridiculous. When she was a G-Club girl, we arguably talked a lot more in the day, but now I never got to hear from her even at night. I became frustrated that I was the one calling her more often than her calling me, and never seemed to understand that this big break was the best thing that ever happened to her this life, and that she needed her space. I helped her get out of the club, but otherwise had nothing to do with this miraculous turnaround. I kept imagining myself to be this "big knight in shining amour" that got her where she was today, so she has to kowtow and bow to my every whim and fancy, but in truth I did nothing. I forgot that outside of the G-Club, she was just a girl. A girl that I disrespected very badly.

I became possessive and demanding, and she told me numerous times that I wasn't helping by "expecting too much". I snapped - I couldn't take the change. I told her that she either decided to come to Singapore soon, or end this relationship. I said that knowing full well that it was a ridiculous ultimatum, and she would never be able to do half as well as a PR here.

She told me that she enjoyed what she does for the first time in her life, is getting a lot out of it, and she doesn't want me to slow her down. if given a choice between her job and me, she would choose to remain in Bangkok. She said she still wanted to have a future with me, but I was "getting more crazy by the day" and she could no longer handle my tantrums and the demands of her job at the same time.

I told her that we should take a break. She said yes. We haven't contacted since.

The story isn't over, but it very nearly is. i don't know what to feel.

On the one hand, I'm absolutely delighted with her new life. On the other, though, our plans, what we've been discussing everyday for ages, never seems like it's going to materialise. Just before we decided to cool it off, she gave me an extremely intense feeling (she has never said this out in the open) that she wants to remain long-term in Bangkok to seek out this new career path and see how far she can go.

I know she misses me. I miss her too, but there isn't much of a future to be considered if she doesn't want to come to Singapore. Me going to live in Bangkok is out of the question (demand for my profession is almost non-existent in Thailand and I have already bought a house here). At the end of the day, maybe it's best for both parties that it ends this way - I managed to pull a decent girl out of a nightclub and indirectly saved her life. Maybe that's all I sought out to do this whole relationship, and now I am done. Sometimes, it's not necessary that you end up with that person to know that you've done something right with her life. That warm fuzzy feeling in your heart - it's something money can't buy.