[hardcoremayhem]

I am sorry to hear that your problems, xiao mei.

hope that my humble points contribution will clear you out of the moderation phase.

anyway, my 2 baht worth.

The person most affected will be your son. No two ways about it. He will be bewildered as to why is daddy not at home and you are so sullen most of the time. He will be anxious and probably feel unloved and abandoned.

Children are more sensitive than we can imagine.

I believe that as parents, you and your husband must consider the young one. If he moves out, the boy will be confused. Tell him that.

Meanwhile, work your differences out amongst yourselves and honestly, it takes 2 hands to clap and if he does not wish for reconciliation; begging him may not help. He has to search down within himself if he wants to carry on.

Honestly, love is overrated. A marriage is about Commitment also and it takes effort to make that commitment work and again, it takes 2 hands to clap.

Now, to be fair to your husband (and i may sound like a prick here), we have only heard one side of the story - yours. Although your husband may have said that there are no "push" factors in his affair, there definitely would have been. Men will always lie to take the blame on themselves. So i think that you may want to do some soul searching and talking to him about that.

Hope that all work out in the end...