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Originally Posted by cashier
not necessary, just noe that as a singapore man, u already have the advantage but need to be more man and bad than in singapore. city gals also can sian de, just know what todo at the righttime..
dun need be nice all the time. just be nice when u feel like. and normal at times. angry at times. demanding at times.. it is hard to say. it needs practice and more practice.
singapore man are wimpy becoz they are nice all the time and let woman decide their mood. the key is that we sway their mood not the other way round. 80% we decide 20%they decide.
I am not saying we should behave like ass but behave like a man who knows what he wants and Gets what he wants. Never ever let a woman feel that their pussy can tame you.
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I will add my 2 cents into this discussion...but firstly ill give a brief description of myself....im in my 30's a viet kieu, though admittedly im a bananna...totally out of touch with my vietnamese and chinese heritage, more australian than id like to think...so im not in synch with the asian way of doing things....however im highly educated with degrees in the medical field (not a Gp though) and in Law, im financially independent earning over 200k AUD a year. I go the gym daily so im athletic and reasonably attractive.
This is not to advertise or boast...so my experience is that it has not been hard for me to attract girls with education, looks or income, however, teh problem lies in attracting teh right type of girl...some one who isnt selfish and self absorbed, someone who doesnt see me as a walking atm etc, who is willing to contribute as well as take.
My opinion about singapore guys is that yes u are wimpy...in someways you have created the problem u find yourself in and then u export this problem my going overseas. The problem is that u think u can buy a girls affection and attention. For example i met some singaporeans in HCM and he was told that the standard tip was 100k, instead he thought if he gave an extra 50k she would like him and go out with him, instead she just took the money and still refused. I know also another singaporean who is quite generous with his money and the girls like him for that, but away from him they are quite disrespectful towards him.
I think we as men should work on improving ourselves, ie be smarter, healthier more financially independedent, dont think u can compensate for ur inadequacies by handing out cash, as all that will do is make the less intelligent girls familiar with this attitude like a pavlovian dog.
I think its crazy that there is a culture where if a girl sits with you for 5 mins u tip her 20 bucks and some are tipping 50 bucks and these are the same guys who are complaining about little thinks like a 50k bank loan. I saw a sillypore very wimpy and geeky looking go up to a cute viet girl on geyalnd road, chat with her buy her dinner and then afterwards give her some tips, later she went into mask without him and got more tips for just sitting and letting other guys hug her. I mean how affection starved are u guys that u create a system where average girls can make 200 bucks a nite by just allowing guys to buy her drinks and buy her dinner. I mean i know that doesnt happen in aust or in vietnam or in any country i know. If i put myself in any girls shoes i cant imagine how i could respect men that allow me to walk over them as such.
Guys get a spine, improve yourself, and stop being a overweight low educated wimp thinking that your comparable wealth compared to a local vietnamese will win u the girl, because what u havent won is her respect or her heart and once she has got what she wanted she will dump you and find a more suitable man.