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Read few pages of the thread randomly and supposed most of the stories are very similar. I juz want to share my similar experience also... guess from the start of the relationship you have to test her real motive & set things right. When I first met my viet gf, she is rather naive and innocent. as time goes by, hear from her friends can get more and more from carrot head aka bf, she started to try her luck but she is few rare species that will feel guilty and drop the idea to ask for more when the rubber meets the road. Eg. she genuinely lost her hp one day & I went Mustafa with her to buy her one. Tested her reaction on those cheap models and she keep quiet and walk away. Finally one caught her eyes which I observed ($999 no contract), my smily face read knn in my heart when I face her. About to pay at the counter, she stopped me and tell me just buy the $69 model. Another incident she told me her parents owed $2k owing to house renovation as a storm had destroyed their house and needs to pay up asap. I told her this will be the first and the last and settled for them (of course I seen the house and confirmed its true). Wanted a bike to get around as she stayed very far away from HCM city, told her I can only afford one which cost $1.5k and she gladly accepted it. Also, need to pay her brother's education, I paid up $2k for him and he graduated with a Diploma and started working in another province earning $250/mth. Her father very sick due to spine problem and need money to see doctor every mth, I bought an insurance for him and the whole family so that my gf won't ask for huge sum of money to pay for their medical in future. I constantly drill into her to ensure her family can survive without her or at least she just need to give about $200/mth and that is the max for them. If her brother wants to buy a bike etc, never pay for him but can loan to him. This 5 years, things work well so far. I noted that her character and motive is vital. If your gf only wants more and more money & don't bother at all abt your well-being, then leave her alone. No pt go on especially her family also has the same mind set and take you as carrot head. Sorry, a little long and hope my sharing is constructive.