[SingViet]

Originally Posted by shysaint

Bro .. well said .. I truly agree .. especially I am father of 2 daughters from my previous marriage.

For my current case , I have no choice but to have the delivery in VN ...

1. She miss home and cried ...
i feel that she has to get used to life in singapore. if she cannot leave Vietnam, she shouldn't have married a foreigner. Or bro, you can let her mix around with some vietnamese spouses in singapore
2. She not used to eating local food ... can't afford to go on since she is 6 mths pregnant.
This again is a case of adaptation. If she wants to stay in Singapore for the longer term, she has to adapt to life here.
3. Feeling Lonely and No one talk to her ... my mum likes her and take care her but she can't speak english
i guess you have to arrange for her to mix around with some vietnamese spouse in singapore
4. $$$ here spent fast, the amount spent here last much longer in Vn and she can save up for future
that's what most singaporeans think. Yes, you save on the hospital fee, but you will be spending much more on her family than your newborn daughter.
5. After birth, got to go into confinement period ... thats tough for my mum
this one i can understand. my mum also couldn't assist my wife during her recent confinement period. I had to employ my wife's elder sister to come. She gave all sorts of reasons that she need higher salary than her husband's salary in province. She asked for 5 million VND a month and when she went back after 3 months, i still gave her another $500 red packet and also lot of other gifts she asked for.

so all in all, I have no choice but to give in .... still got 4 mths to delivery, hopefully I can convince her to come January with her mum ...

overall, i feel that she got to convince your spouse to get used to life in singapore. she cannot be forever going back to Vietnam. Or unless you shift back to Vietnam with her.

Just my 2 dong worth of comments