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Originally Posted by SingViet

Giving parents money wasn't just Vietnamese gals way of showing filial duty to their parents. I knew many youngters here giving monthly allowance to their parents and if you have not done so, May i remind you of the is a Maintenance of Parents Act.

While there was no such a law in Vietnam that requires Viet gals to do so, they did it for the following reasons:

1) Vietnamese women have higher traditional asian standard of filial piety and family bonding.
yes, you are right to say that giving monthly allowances to parents is a part of filial piety. but excessive giving in to the parent's demands and feeding lazy siblings is surely not an asian culture.

2) They often feel insecured living in the foreign land without family members and friends around who can help them when in need and they need to build the bridge back to their Vietnam family just in case.
so how do you explain the annual 8 billion USD of remittance by overseas vietnamese to vietnam? they remitted so much because they feel super insecure overseas? if you do have experience, their family members will only help when you have money, when you're down n out n back in vn, no one wants you too. bridges built will be broken and crash


You should encourage your partner to do this but within your mean and tell your kids about that, this is not only for your partner own good but it will benefit yourself when you get old in the later stage of life and expect some "Filial Duty" from your children.

we all do explain to our viet partners about doing it within our means. but the family members back in vn does not understand. they think overseas means $$$

You should spend less time here TCSS and more with your life partners, love here, try to understand her, make her feel less "insecured", make your mother, father, your sisters, brothers to accept her as part of your extended family.

my wife is well accepted by my family members. does it bother you that i TCSS here? for all i know, i spend good quality time with my spouse n kids.

well said ....