reading this thread & felt some degree of shame...because i used to be one of those "i'm-tired-tonight-honey" wives.
just to lend some perspective from "the other side"... my past inertia was definitely not cos i didn't like sex or our kid became more important or i didn't find my hubby attractive anymore.
after giving birth, i just felt so unattractive & there was so much pressure (both external & internal) to be a good mum & wife & career woman. i couldn't believe that i was worth desiring if i can't even fulfill all the various criteria of being a "good" woman. not saying all women are like that but i find it hard to compartmentalize & just say "to hell with the crying baby & dirty house etc - let's just fuck!"
180 degree change after i shed all that preggy-weight + hubby & parents gave me support to stop working & be full-time mum. with the stress of all that roles-juggling gone, my libido just took off
! hubby and i also went for counselling & put in the necessary work = less accusations & arguing, more kind & encouraging words, tons of appreciation for each other. honestly i love sex (esp with hubby) & it's a hell lot more fun now.. i like to think that it comes with confidence & age
