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Originally Posted by samyboys
u are lucky that counselling works for you.
but to be a stay at home mummy is could also means only one source of income, thus less subsidy as well.
however much depends how many kids u have.
i feel its all about time management, share of housework and then get intimate
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u're right - being sahm is not for everyone & we have only 1 kid. key reason why i quit work is cos kid is autistic. my earlier post was too simplistic - i apologize. there are a lot of more other factors as well but stress was a major one.
when chatting with other gal-friends, i also come to a realization that sometimes (sometimes only) it's the mismatch of expectations & perceptions. they too want to make love & be intimate but complained that their hubbies seem to view them with less desire after kids are born. it's a bit like a vicious cycle in which some small misunderstanding feeds to another.. then BOOM it's like months of no sex.
i do remember that i had a lot of pride and initially refused to initiate or placed other things as more important. thankfully some shit happened that made me open my eyes & take stock of the situation. i made the first move to suggest counselling & take concrete steps to change attitude & appreciate him more... in turn it feeds into his attitude towards me & a more positive cycle emerged.
btw my man is quite mcp - no housework & chores. have never faulted him for that as i already knew this before marriage. didn't marry him cos he was good at housework anyways!
