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Originally Posted by Schrodinger
Bro,
As with many things, implementation is a lot more difficult than theory.
How would you suggest we 'put up a united front'?
Even if we are talking about a single domme, there will be some who find her skills sub-standard, and others who are satisfied, or even happy and willing to guide. Even if she was universally accepted as sub-standard, she could go on preying on first-time customers and newbies and not give two shits about repeat customers. The problem is compounded many-fold when there are many dommes involved.
Then comes the financial bit. We have seen folk who are willing to pay top dollar to test an unknown quantity, while others may not wish to pay past $200 for a tried and tested, quality domme.
Safe to say there is no 'one size fits all' when it comes to punters' requirements - which makes it extremely difficult for a 'union' type movement to work.
All we can do is let market forces do its thing - and post honest FRs so that the good ones will get more business, while the supposedly 'poor' ones get a 'enter at own risk' banner. This same shit has been happening with people complaining about local FLs getting too expensive. And calls for boycotts, etc. Has it worked? I don't think I have to tell you....
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Bro Schrodinger, you are right in saying the devil is in the details. However, this does not mean we, as paying BDSM lovers, should just sit around, lamenting the fact that Singapore has so few good dominatrix and rely on the few overseas dominatrix dropping in now and then or having to travel to countries like Japan, Thailand to get our BDSM fix.
When I say we as BDSM lovers should unite, this simply means we will form our own circle in which we share information and recommendations freely. There are no membership fees involved and I certainly do not envisage any form of collective bargaining. In its purest form, a forum like SBF does serve as a good platform for such information sharing but there are two major drawbacks.
Drawback number one is the honest FR posted by any bro may not reach the SP. I understand from the more senior bros that there is this SBF code that SPs should not be referred to their FRs. In so, how can the SP know where to improve on her services? The SP will most probably continue her own ways, good or bad they may be, and the next bro may or may not enjoy his session depending on his luck. If the SP is diligent in searching for her own FRs, there is a possibility she might read and improve. But there is no guarantee.
Now BDSM is a very specialised field unlike sex, where it is pretty straightforward. As I have mentioned previously, it is easy for any lady to declare herself as a professional dominatrix but to achieve a certain standard will require a fair bit of training and guidance from a more experienced dominatrix. Hence, this leads me to drawback number two which is how we as BDSM lovers can help raise the local BDSM standards. Unfortunately, the only solution is we, as paying customers, and our local dominatrix will need to work hand-in-hand. How? By we telling them our honest FRs and they, in turn, improving their services. Currently, there is one local dominatrix who is very active in the local BDSM scene and is committed to maintain a certain standard.
I have a simple thinking which I would like to share with you and other bros: For a local lady who is considering to be a FL due to whatsoever reason, she might as well provide BDSM services to us if she knows that there are enough customers and she need not provide sex. Yes, I know this may sound impossible for now but that is my dream.