[Gunner999]

Seeing so many bros here sharing the same problem that i have, thought i would share my experience as well. Sorry for the long story, please bear with me.

Right after married (about a month), wife got pregnant. Wife suggested that sex no good for baby, so LL have to abstain from sex for 9 months. After my baby was born, of course wife need to recuperate/take care of baby etc... hence another 6 months no sex...

After that, very little chance to have sex with wife since wife was either stress at work, or when at home, stress to take care of baby... Wife also mentioned she's aiming for promotion, so no mood/urge to have sex. Thinking about it, have less than 20 sex sessions with wife over 4 years of marriage. Wife would usually ask me not to disturb her when i touch her...
Didn't want to be selfish, i can only tolerate. Also understand both of us work for long hours and when we are at home, priority given to baby.

But there comes a time when man's tolerant can explode. At times, wife would ask me to take leave to date her for movie, dinner etc.. I thought that since both of us have enough rest and dont have to take care of baby (baby at full day child care), we could have sex... but each time wife still rejected me because she only interested to go 'shopping' and 'outdoors activities'. Feeling dejected, i started not to touch or be intimate with my wife. Why should i beg for sex? Anyway, it doesn't bother her since she has no 'URGE'. On surface we are still normal couple, but in reality, our relationship was tainted.

Few months back i fall in love with this girl, she's a very understanding person and much more gentle than my wife too. Though we were both busy, we have sex at least once to twice a month. And she enjoy having sex too, she would moaned 'shiok', 'shuan' when i was doing it with her. At least she enjoys sex like i do, and she's genuine/not shy to admit that she enjoys having sex. That really turn me on.

Now i was so attached to my gf, and i also dont have the 'URGE' to do my wife anymore. Might as well, we both get what we want/dont want, and need not bother each other! If wives are selfish and cant understand we have our needs too, then we have to take care of ourselves. Remember 'No one is indispensable in this world', Including wives! This is my personal views, no offense meant to anyone.