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Originally Posted by RealEstateGuy
Again, the objective is to protect your assets. One premature move and she could seek divorce on the premise you don't trust her. That means under the SG Women's Charter you lose 50% at least. Your immediate task is to assemble a team with hiring a PI the best you can find and getting him to find the truth. Armed with the truth you would be protecting your assets. So the reward is you keep your assets and find the truth. Anything else is a mission failure. Do you understand?
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If you do not know anything, just keep quiet and don't comment. Wrong advice is worse than no advice. A divorce isn't fault-based. Just because she cheats on you doesn't mean she will 'lose' out in a divorce, regardless of the evidence that you have. Her lawyer will teach her to say that she started cheating on you because of your unreasonable behaviour. Since you can advise people on how to 'protect' his 50% (50% of what? Pre-marital, post-marital, combined assets?), have you thought of the issue of custody of his 2 year old? Divorce already, his daughter how?
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Originally Posted by fairman
Last night I waited until my wife fall asleep and take a look at her phone. (Are we going other places?) taken down the number I called this morning at my office, a guy ans the call then I hang up.
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What you have done is to alert them that you are suspicious. The guy can easily called back your office, say he has a missed call from this number and ask the receptionist for the name of the company. If this guy is so obvious as to sms 'I miss you, are we going other place', he is prepared and ready for the issue to blow up and come to any painful conclusion. He has no loss, unlike you.
What I hope you will do is to take a step back and calm down. If the affair is true, give up your wife to him but don't give up on the marriage. Stay married to your wife, even if she cheats. Endure all humiliation, whatever lovey dovey sms. WHY? because this is your only chance of living with your daughter and watching her grow up. This is the only way your daughter's mind won't be brain-washed into hating her father while she is growing up.
Imagine you caught her cheating. A divorce ensues. She gets custody, monthly maintenance and 50% of post-marital and combined assets. You are the ONLY loser. If your daughter ask her why daddy is no longer staying with them, do you expect your ex-wife to say 'because mummy cheated on daddy' or will she be likelier to say 'daddy is difficult to live with' or maybe something even worse?
Let sleeping dogs lie. I know a man's ego may find it hard to do that but don't lose out on being a part of your daughter's life. Do it for the daughter. Eat humble pie.