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Originally Posted by hickeybites
Bro ferragamo/TS,
based on what you're saying, your wife is truly very lucky! Have u considered going for couple counselling or something?
Not healthy to let this fester... hope u find a solution (other than possibly eating out)
Allow me to present another side of the coin... although I think I may represent a small minority out there.
I'm married with a kid. Admittedly my libido & sexual drive was lower in the past.... honestly I had not much interest in boys/men/sex until past my mid-20s.
I was very focused on studies & my career. After having a kid and in my 30s now, my libido is way way higher than my husband's.
And amongst several of my other girlfriends, this is the same situation for them as well. Not "slutty" and rather prudish in the past; but more voracious appetites now 
What I'm trying to put across is that there may be ebbs & flows/cycles/transitions to a person's sex drive.
Perhaps for most men out there it's always on 80-100km/hr from puberty to old age. But women ~ I'm not sure... perhaps like what silkypussy says,
other aspects of life comes in like being a good mother -- and that replaces the sex-kitten that men married.
Perhaps more nudging is needed? Also a lot of it also comes down to self-esteem & love of one's own body.
I'm more confident of my body & sexuality now compared to my earlier years - and that helps.
From what I understand, some mums don't like their present bodies especially after giving birth & it dampens their libido. Maybe some motivation for some wives to help them lose their weight?
Don't get me wrong ~ I believe that there must be a balance (and I kinda empathize).
After all sexual intimacy is important in helping to further cement a loving relationship  |
Sis hickeybites,
Thank you for your insight into this matter.
I would like share a story of my female friend, which may support hickeybites story above.
I have this female friend (who is not young anymore). She was religious, and when she was dating during her schooldays, she did not made love with her bf. I think it was due to the pressure from the religious belief as well as her friends in the her circle. But she liked kissing a lot, that's all, nothing more.
At the end, her relationship with his school bf ended. And after uni, she finally married with another guy. She was virgin until the first night of their wedding day. She told me that she did not enjoy intercourse at all. Her husband was just fucking, fucking her and that was it. She did not know what climax was. Then they got kids. The relationship with the hubby was not good at all. She said that hubby was not communicative - not even about discussing kids' future (e.g. which school to go to, etc, etc). She was fed up with the situation, and wanted to divorce. But she was scared, and all her friends suggested her to stay in her marriage, simply because she did not have a backup (e.g. new bf).
While her relationship was rocky, suddenly she knew a man. This guy is really playboy type (I don't know whether he is reading this posting). He was married, but ate outside a lot. This guy although married tried to approach my female friend. But my female friend resisted, maybe due to her religious belief, even though her marriage was rocky at that time.
Because this guy was persistent (and also experience), finally my friend fell for him. The guy was finally divorce, and my friend finally had the gut to divorce her husband. And this guy and my friend were finally dating.
After awhile, the guy dumped her, and went to have a new gf. His new gf is single and of course younger. According to my friend, this new gf had an experience in some industry overseas, which she belief had some connection to the sex industry. The conclusion is that this new gf is experience in satisfying guys.
But that guy still wants to have my friend as fb. But my friend does not want it, although she still likes him a lot.
My friend was devastated. She was divorce because of him, and now he dumps her. She lost everything. She asked me why would this guy did it to him. Obviously, I said to myself... of course la... how do you compare a divorcee with kids and a younger single woman... Of course... I didn't say this to her, afraid that I would offend her...
After digging about this to her for awhile, she confessed.
Now, the story gets more interesting....
She mentioned the intimate details about their sexual experience. Really amazing. She said that when she stayed over in his house, before waking up, they made love, and then after breakfast before he went to work, she would suck and cim. She really likes to swallow. Amazing...
She had multiple orgasm, and so did he.
That guy told her that her service is 6 stars. Her service is much better than paid sex, his new gf, other gf, and ex-wife. He might have lied. But I believe that he was telling the truth, because of two reasons: one is that although he has young gf (and young ex wife), he still wants her as fb (my friend and that guy are the same age, and not young anymore). Two is that I believe her service is 6 stars....
Once that guy told my friend that it was a pity that my friend's hubby did not that his ex wife was expert in bed.....
Remember when my friend was still married, she never reached climax with hubby, and yet she become very slutty to his guy. My friend told me that she was really in love with this guy, and would serve him (sexually), until she dies. Amazing....
The moral story of this story is that she changed... I don't know what caused her.... But she changed: from naive to expert.
Sadly she is now ill and may not recover...
I am not implying anything to bros story about their wives and their problems... I do hope that you will workout with your wives....
But there is one burning question that I have...
Many of senior bros have married fb... Can senior bros share... what kind of lives that these married fb have...
Personally I do not have experience that much with married fb, because my fb mostly are single.... The first/last married fb that I had was long ago, before I got married... And only have single fb after I got married...
Thanks... sorry for a long posting...