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Originally Posted by ferragamo
I am glad I started this thread. Due to the sharing from many people, I have seen that I am not alone in this problem.
And bringing it out in the open, perhaps will wake up some wives to what is happening in their marriage.
Not all men fuck around because of need for variety , there are some of us that really really actually just want to have sex with our wife, not just poke in and out then watch tv, but sensual sex that both husband and wife enjoys.
The problems start when this disappears from the marriage
Jim has given some real world advice on marriage counselling, and this is very good.
I think marriage preparation courses should emphasize to the couple, especially the wife, that good sex is crucial in a marriage. Instead of only covering finances, kids, in-laws and religion.
It is also heartening to see other guys also say that they choose not to divorce because of their kids well being. I think this is very important. Kids are innocent, they never asked to be born.
Nowadays the young couples are too self centered and too easily say 'let's divorce', without thinking of the children. This is a cursed path that our society is heading down towards.
If this thread saves just one marriage, perhaps something good has come out of the rest of our suffering. Better than nothing.
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Brother Ferra:
I'm glad you started this too.
But realistically, I'm not sure how much pre-marriage courses help. Before marriage, as you recall, both of you couldn't keep your hands off each other, its bliss. After marriage its even better,but after kids.....
The problem is, a 25 or even 30 year old woman that has no kids that is horny all the time simple cannot envisage that they would even lose their sex drive for whatever reason. And even if they could, most will have no idea what this will do to their marriage. The modern woman really thinks that laying there like a piece of liver while hubby pumps is sex.....i'd rather have a hand job, at least she's paying attention to you. A husband likes to think that his wife enjoys sex and actually WANTS to have sex with him. Most women miss this point.
We'll just keep talking and see how it goes. i live him hope, I guess we all do.
Cheers,
jim