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Originally Posted by korg2020
But maybe, to be fair to the women, sex should not be the only thing that binds a relationship or marriage together....there are many other factors such as communication, interests, goals in life etc that keeps a relationship going...
But of course, as a guy, we do have our needs as well and I guess the only way is to find the elusive mid way where both can compromise on meeting each other needs...but most often, depending on our own circumstances and factors beyond our control (work, financial situation, family background, kids, etc), it is much easier said than done...
Just wanted to give my thoughts after reading very good insightful posts from all. Kudos to TS for initiating this discussion!
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Tink bro korg2020 misses the point here abt the marriage relationship...yes, tis true, sex is not the only factor tat binds the relationship, it does include the others as he mentioned...but SEX is indeed a very IMPT one tat keeps the married r/s going and giv it some meaning...o/w why get married and get entangled with each other with so much responsiblities & problems of living together...if only sharing interests & similar goals in life, are just wat we are interested in, we can do these outside of marriage, by just being good frens or acquaintances...no need to live under the same roof as marriage requires...but then on the other hand, if we are just merely good frens & acquaintances, we are restricted frm having sex wif each other, shd we somehow feel the mutual urge to, simply bcos we are NOT married...& tats why pple marry...it is the ONLY society's licence we can obtain to legitimately hav sex wif some one we feel we love & want to live together forever.... & tat marriage licence allows sex with ONLY each other...& no one else...
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Originally Posted by hickeybites
Dear Bro ferragamo,
It is heartening to see such thoughts coming from husbands like you & some other bros here. Your post prompted more thoughts from me...
On a positive note, I like to believe that your wives do appreciate you but perhaps show/ demonstrate in other ways -- just not via the channels of physical intimacy or bedroom antics.
as parents, would you as fathers (or mothers) actually impart to your own daughters that being wild & slutty is important to keeping a marriage alive?
I know for sure that my own parents would freak out majorly if they know that I'm erm... "hungrier" now
Just saying that we do grow up with social norms & pre-conceived ideas that are rather hard to kick. It's kinda expected that being a good mother, a respectable wife holds precedence...
I'm NOT saying that I or most women agree with this expectation. Just pointing out what society still expects as such (other than the world of sbf). Double-standards.. that's life.
. some time back, a gf (obviously a current-low-sex-drive one) was grousing to me about similar topic. That her husband was demanding sex on tap i.e. at any time to drop trou and get it on. They have 2 kids and like most S'porean couples of today, bogged down with obligations, bills etc. Her complaint: "How can he expect me to still behave like a sex kitten & do it all over the place? The sex kitten in the past didn't have responsibilities, in-law issues, screaming kids ok???"
My tongue in cheek reply - "Don't be a sex kitten lor. BE THE TIGRESS in the bed instead!" (That earned me a dirty glare  ) |
Oh !..tats cute sis hickeybites...a very good reply u gave yr fren
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Not sure they do deep in their hearts...even if so, most wives certainly DUN show their appreciation to their other half...tats frm wat we hav read frm bros accounts here of them...giving their HBs rude, curt & insulting response & showing anger when approached for sex..
If parents really love their children esp their daughters, i believe they shd be brave enough to tell them in a matter-of-fact way tat SEX is very IMPT to keep their man satisfied & helps pre-empt them frm straying to another woman...oso to tell their daughters tat they shd continue to show their HBs their love & respect even after marriage...believe tat being responsible parents, we owe them a duty to help prevent a divorce frm ever happening in their marriages...esp when we ourselves hav oredi encountered the dangers & know all too well the pitfalls of marriage relationships...
Yes, sis, those were the days when sex was taboo to our parents
...yah, they wld be horrified to know we hav such high libido... but 2day, i believe we shd not allow those tots & tinking of the conservative past held by our parents, to hold us back, esp if it is within the confines of the matrimonial home...& more so, if it is for the good & benefit of our children...sex is created by God to be enjoyed & never meant to be shameful...really nothing wrong for each & every1 of us to have sexual desires...only tink is, society does not approve of us displaying our horniness in public places....just my 2 cents worth of tot