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Originally Posted by charisme
I love my kids but i would nvr tell them tt sex keeps their man frm straying. Cause even with sex provided at home. man somehow will still find reason to have an affair outside. like many here says. more variety. sick of just the one at hone.
sex is impt. but it is not the main reason for keeping the marriage alive. if the husband is just in it for sex. i would tell them to leave ur hubby. Make sure he really do love u very much for who u are not just in bed. no women should be subjected to being in a marriage that is based on sex.
i would tell my sons. love ur wife. treat her well. Making love is a bond between the both of u. but nvr ever make use of her just to fulfil ur sexual needs. it is pure disrespect to her n urself.
Marriage is like a building. True love n communication is what keeps it going, the foundation for it to remain strong. making love is the exterior, the designs to beautify it, bringing sparks to it. the kids are the interior. U add them on to ur life when the foundation and exterior are completed. U want to protect them. When the sparks(exterior) wears out. Make an effort to paint it again. Bringing the sparkles back..
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And you would be doing your kids a disfavor... because you are speaking not from a position of knowledge, but merely from your gut feel.
There are very large areas of overlap between love and sex. Indeed, it is frequent sex between couples that cause them to love one another. This is a well-known scientific fact -- hormones given off during sex, such as oxytocin make a couple have tender feelings towards one another.
Do yourself and your kids a favour by getting the facts right before telling them anything. Take a look at
this page -- but this is just the start. There is much to learn about the complex universe of relationships.
And yes, variety is a problem with no easy solutions in a monogamous culture. A classic case of nature at odds with nurture.