[5ag1_Boar]

Originally Posted by SparkleDoll

Seeing guys complain about this problem with their wives just make me real sian. That's because I'm the high and dry wife with a high sex drive. We fucked like bunnies before marriage and now 2 years in, my husband says he has no sex drive at all. Help!

He always says how mentally tired he is from his business that he has no mood for anything else. He finds sex too draining on the energy. I know myself and actually told him when we were dating that if a marriage has no more sex, that is kinda the end for me. Sex is not the ONLY ingredient in a marriage but it's sure as hell a very important. He laughed then because he felt there was no way he will not want sex. However, after marriage, he has literally settled down so much he just wants to use the time and energy for other things. Agrrr

I have tried talking, initiating and always end up feeling rejected. When ppl ard us joke about how lucky he is to have such a hot wife, I wanna rip off someone's head! What's the use of being hot when I am probably gonna have to live like a nun for the rest of my life. I asked him if he was not afraid I will stray. He gets angry and say there are other things in a marriage more improtant than sex.

Frankly, I get very fustrated and have thought of having FB or even divorce. I don't want to live the rest of my life like this. What am I doing wrong here? Can too much of a good thing make a man take for granted? I did not let myself go, I have a habit of sleeping in lingerie every night. Everytime someone hits on me I get angst and wonder why I got such a bad roll in the marriage dice. Why the fuck doesn't my husband want me.

Well, this long rant only proves that this issue rans both ways. Regardless of gender. May you guys find a solution soon and may I have the strength to remain faithful.

Girl, drag that husband of yours to a marriage counsellor. I used to think that sex was not important in a marriage and I married a woman with whom I had very low sexual chemistry. I didn't have your willpower and strayed. We eventually went for all kinds of counselling to help our marriage: from religious groups to professional therapists. I also read up on relationships.

The big shocking news was that every single source (including the religious ones) said sexual compatibility IS important in a relationship. It is part of the puzzle with all the other important things.

Your husband may need to hear it from a professional marriage counsellor before he understands/believes that.