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tornbitwin2,

Everything happened for a reason and sometimes we should not judge if its a bad thing or why one is so unfortunate. I believe that you should have gone through a long process before accept your daughter's condition from Denial to Frustration and now Acceptance.

I wonder if you have pondered about life before as deep as now? Have u tried visiting temple/churches and cried your heart out and made promises to God for exchange in return for the recovery of your daughter?

Take this as a wake up call and redirect your life again. The fact that you are a father means u have to accept your responsibility just as you would need your father to take care of you when u were young. It is a calling above your love relatioinship with anyone, be it your wife or your gf.

My humble suggestions :-

* Love or no love, your wife is your team mate and do try your best to respect her and maintain a healthy reationship with her. Nobody loves your daughter as much as you besides her.

* Your daughter welfare should always comes first.

* As for your Gf, if she cant accept your love for your daughter, then just be it. Time will heal the pain that you are suffering now.

* Stay positive and put your daughter's photo in your wallet and work desk. Let her be your motivational factor to overcome the challenges that you are facing now.

* Read up books on ASD. Besides ST & OT therapy, look into alternative treatments such as Diets. There are some children who improved greatly from these treatments.

* Last but not least, think about this :- what is more satisfying in life by making the impossibe into possible? You can do it!